looking for support

Tammy - posted on 02/20/2009 ( 38 moms have responded )

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Hi Everyone,
I am the full time stepmom of 3 teens ages 15, 14 and 13. I have been married to their dad for 3 1/2 years. Before getting married, I lived in the west, am now in the rural south. It's been difficult to make friends, so I am looking for friendship and support here.

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Bernie - posted on 03/07/2009

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Hi Tammy, I do not live anywhere near you, as I am in Orange NSW Australia..but I am always up for a chat and a laugh. I have two teenagers, a girl who is 17 and a boy who is 15. I also have a 10 year old girl, who is the stabiliser in the family. My oldest is doing the HSC this year, which is the final year of school, so a very stressful time for all, she also just got her license and is able to drive alone, which is stressful for me and her dad. I thought I knew it all being a mum, as I grew up with nine sisters (and one brother)....but each day is new!! My children each attend a different school, which can be complicated at times, since I also work. Going on here and facebook helps me find a release to my crazy days...

Jeanne - posted on 03/07/2009

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Well Tammy you came to right place that you looking for friendship & support here with Moms of Teenagers.





My name is Jeanne I have 3 children my older son Sylvain is 19 years old with Twins Matthieu (ADHD) & Natalie will turning 17 years old on the 3rd of March. I'm a single mom over 40 will be 45 this coming May. Yes it's tough but I wouldn't change it or change them for the world!





As for me with 3 teenagers............tuff...but I tell them I will not tolerate that kind of behavior or that is not acceptable in this house.........that's the main thing, because with teen years then want to be 20 years old and they know everything. Another trick I did last year I changed all my portable phones and know I 2 desktop phone.....with help I can keep track how long they're on the phone......(shhh I partially listen to there conversation this helps a little) I also have about 4 calendars in my house each with there name on it .........and I keep track of dates such a prepare for test, when project are due. I have a lot of little tricks up my sleeve...ect...lol



I live in Cornwall Ontario Canada, I'm here anytime for you & we can help each other. Keep in touch & let me know if my teens stuff helps?



Jeanne



Helene - posted on 03/07/2009

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You can add me on FB too. I am still learning all about the wonderful wacky world of raising teens but would be glad to give any support I can :)

Kate - posted on 03/07/2009

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Hey Tammy, I am a SAHM with a daughter of 17 and two sons of 9 and almost 6. I cannot invite you for a coffee, as we live in Ireland, but would love to chat and give you any support that I can. Not that I have a clue what I'm at either!! :) lol

Tammy - posted on 02/26/2009

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Hi Paula,



I am also a stay at home (step) mom.  I struggle with the back talking.  My 15 is the most challenging.  It is getting better.  Feel free to add me on FB.  I am on and off several times a day.

Tammy - posted on 02/26/2009

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Shelly,



I grew up near Twin Falls(Buhl) !! I have neices that live in Boise and Meridian!

Shelly - posted on 02/25/2009

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Tammy,



  I live in a very small town just out side of Boise, ID and with you living in Seattle for awhile I din't have to give you a geography lession.  LOL

Joanne - posted on 02/25/2009

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Hi Paula,welcome.



ive got one son whos 16 now.Dont worry,the backtalking does get less the older they get.at that age they think they know more than you do.my son would have argued that the sky was purple of i said it was blue lol.



im on facebook far too much haha.

Paula - posted on 02/25/2009

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Hi Tammy and Joanne. I`m a stay at home mom with two kids. My son is 14 and my daughter will be 9 in two months.Since my son turned 14 the backtalking has increased. Thank goodness my daughter is pretty mellow except for the occasional dramatics. You can add me if you like. I`m usually on facebook at least twice a day.

Joanne - posted on 02/23/2009

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Hi Tanya,having a bit of trouble finding you.have you got a different profile picci.

Joanne - posted on 02/23/2009

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Hi Tanya,thankyou for the welcome.i would be happy to have you as a friend.always up for a chat.

Tanya - posted on 02/23/2009

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Welcome Joanne,



Just want to let you know would love to chat as well am looking to meet new people also.  I have a son who will be 15 and he as well thinks his floor is a laundry basket lol .



~Tanya~

Joanne - posted on 02/23/2009

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hello Tammy,thanks for the welcome.im on facebook alot of the time.it can be pretty quiet around here when everyones out.i would be happy if you would like to add me if you prefer to chat on there.i see you live in georgia,i live in the north of England so a coffee is out of the question.



i look forward to making new friends.

Tammy - posted on 02/23/2009

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Hi Jo,



welcome!  I am the full time stepmom of 3 teenagers; 2 two girls who are 15 and 14, and one boy who is 13.  I fully understand what you're saying about laundry on the floor.  We have the same thing here.  I'd be happy to chat anytime.

Joanne - posted on 02/23/2009

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hi everyone.im new to this circle. i would love to make friends with other mums of teenagers. i am a stay at home mum of a 16 year old son. hes a great lad and ive had no trouble with him,just the usual little things such as thinking his bedroom floor is the laundry basket.i expect you all know that one.i would be happy to have a chit chat with anyone about anything. Jo

Tammy - posted on 02/23/2009

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Hi Tanya,



I fight the back talking and chore battle too.  The one thing that has saved me is sending them too their room, especially the 15 yr old.  It sounds silly, but it works for them, like it does younger kids.  I had to learn to take a "zero tolerance" additude about it.. Again, mainly with the 15 yr old.  There is no tv or computer in here room, and I make her leave her phone on the table.  It has helped to keep small things from snowballing into major blow outs.  She is still sassy, but not nearly as much.  The chore battle feels like it's never ending...I can't let anything slide, or nothing gets done.  I have to stay on it everyday...it does get exhausting at times.

Tanya - posted on 02/22/2009

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Hi Tammy,



I have a 14 year old son and sometimes it is very trying  i couldn't imagine having 3 teenagers to deal with however they do have some pretty amazing moments to. I would have to say though the only major problem so far is talking back(when hubby is away), and cleaning up after himself seems to be a huge chore.



Anyways anytime you wanna chat im on here frequently as well



~Tanya~

Tammy - posted on 02/22/2009

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Ya'll are awesome to respond so kindly...and quickly!  I feel like I now have a group of friends I can chat with about the kids.

Tammy - posted on 02/22/2009

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I lived in Seattle, Wa for several years, and Phoenix, Az for a couple of years before I got married.

Tammy - posted on 02/22/2009

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Coffee would be nice!!! I gone out to coffee with a friend in ages.    I guess we'll just have to have "virtual" coffee.  :)

Tammy - posted on 02/22/2009

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Tanya,



Anytime you want to chat, I check my facebook fairly often.  What ages are your teens?

Tammy - posted on 02/22/2009

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Nikki,



I am also a SAHM.  It's a full time job keeping up with afterschool activities, and running the home.  My husband is gone for a week at a time, How is it for you when yours is gone for a month?  I know when my husband comes home, I'm definately ready for him to take the lead in the parenting department.  How old are your kids?  What part of Florida do you live?  My husband's company is in Jacksonville.

Tammy - posted on 02/22/2009

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Helen,



My 15 and 14 year olds are girls.  Parenting teen girls can be a challenge, don't you think?  It's taken a few years for us to really get along.  It's an on going  process.

Tammy - posted on 02/22/2009

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Hi Shelly,



I live in Georgia.  It's pretty rural here.  :You're in the Northwest?  I lived in Seattle, Wa for several years.  I miss it!

Tammy - posted on 02/22/2009

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Thanks Polly, I will definately e-mail.  My e-mail address is tamarasumner@hotmail.com

Tammy - posted on 02/22/2009

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Thanks Polly, I will definately e-mail.  My e-mail address is tamarasumner@hotmail.com

Helene - posted on 02/22/2009

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Hi Tammy! I am the mom of two girls, ages 15 and 12. I would be happy to chat with you as well. We moms definitely need our support group too! Welcome to the board :)

Tanya - posted on 02/22/2009

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Hi Tammy, I am new on here also and am looking to chat with other moms with teenagers. Hope to hear from you :o)

Nikki - posted on 02/21/2009

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Hi Tammy, I have 3 kids..... 2 teenagers and 1 pre teen. I live in florida and always love meeting other moms with teenagers. I am sure we could keep exchanging stories all the night through...lol They definately keep you on your toes. My husband works away from home for a month at a time so I am always up for a new friend to chat with. I am a SAHM but I am starting college early next month(doing it online). Hope to hear back from you!! Take care...

KathieLyn - posted on 02/20/2009

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I wish I lived closer so we could go for coffee..just hang in there and find clubs or groups in the school the kids go to or the area to make new friends, you will be awesome just hang in there and if you ever need someone to talk to I will be here..hugzzzzzzzzzz cathi

Liz - posted on 02/20/2009

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Where in the WEST did you live? I live in Leduc, Alberta. It's beautiful out here. I'm from Forest, Ontario,moved here 8 years ago and now I can't see living anywhere else.Chat anytime.

Polly - posted on 02/20/2009

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tammy my email is living_4u@hotmail.com and you can find me on face book at polly
james. look for me and that way we can chat one on one. bye take care.

Shelly - posted on 02/20/2009

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Tammy,



  I live in the Northwest but willing to talk any time I usully check my messages often so fel free to contact me...Btw were in the deep south are you?

Tammy - posted on 02/20/2009

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Thanks Polly!  It'll be nice to have someone to chat with.   I am finding that my biggest challenges with the kids are back talking, and always having to stay on them to do their chores. I am very lucky to have a wonderful hustband, and we do work well together, however, he is a truck driver and is gone during the week.  I look forward to chatting with you.

Polly - posted on 02/20/2009

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hi tammy, I'm a mom of a 20 year old and a 16 year old, I live up in the cold north, I

would love to chat with you. it's always great to have friends that you can chat with and help with good times and hard times.I am new to this site so I will have to figure it all out.

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