Lying Daughter, does any parent have a teen daughter that consistantly lies?

Angela - posted on 02/29/2012 ( 50 moms have responded )

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Any Moms out there with a female teen the constantly lies, for no reason?

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Ginger - posted on 08/21/2013

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I need help. I have a 16 soon to be 17 year old daughter who i think is a compulsive liar. When I provide proof she still lies about it. It has caused big problems between my husband and I because when it gets discussed she side tracks it to most of the time something I have done and than WW3 begins. She has been doing this consistantly for the past 4 years. My husband is no help, he goes to work and his life is never disrupted. I want to be able to go to work do my job and enjoy life I'm tired of being a CSI agent. Please help me either learn to just let it go which in a way would force my husband to deal with all her issues for how to solve it with no further fighting. It's miserable!

Colleen - posted on 11/14/2013

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Best post, ditto with my daughter. I feel like an idiot too, both financially, emotionally and mentally. I really feel for you because this is exactly what's happening with my daughter. When it dawned on me at HOW good she was at telling a story, exaggerating the truth, playing on my emotions...the WATER WORKS if she even thought that you thought she was lying. No tactic worked, nothing I said, nothing I did. I became the irrational Mom, the one she hates, and she was an expert at turning things around and accusing me. She took every loving concerned piece of advice and manipulated by either telling me what she thought I wanted to hear, told me some story about what someone else is doing and how "she" told them the right thing (all of this to make herself look great)...but truth be told...I honestly thing the whole thing was a lie. It feels horrible, absolutely horrible to realize you are a fool and your teenage daughter has figured out how to dupe you consistently time and time again. I have absolutely NO idea when she's telling me the truth...it's positively awful and I honestly can tell you...I've lost ALL respect for her as a person.

All I can tell you, is I've finally given up the ghost...meaning I've stopped hoping she is a better person of character and trying to help her. Finally it comes down to, no I'm not paying for your phone, no you can't drive my car, no you're not going out this weekend, etc. So, my house is her prison and my husband and I have decided to never believe her about anything. Only what we can prove. Here's the kicker, she got VERY good at manipulating my husband too. So basically we've TAUGHT our daughter how to be a con artist. WOW...I feel SO GREAT about that. I feel so wonderful about myself, after giving up a great job to be a full time Mom when she went into middle school, and now that she's almost done with High School, I realize she is going to have constant problems in her life because she won't control her behavior. She wants what she wants and plays every con game to get it. Even when she realizes I'm not going to yell or punish, she just won't tell the truth. Yes, I've made mistakes, I've gotten into yelling matches, and probably been that accusatory parent. You know what the kids have learned with the public school system...hey, the school is on my side PLUS and big bonus, they don't care what the home problems are...so I can do whatever I want and there's no consequence.

Wow, I really went on, and didn't even say anything that would help you Lynn. But, I hope it makes you feel better that you're not alone. I'm not the only parent who is just taking everything away, and although she won't fess up with the truth, I have to realize, yes she's probably sleeping with boys, yes, she's probably trying drugs, yes...I believed what she said because it's what I wanted to believe. She loses friends probably because she's lies and they all know it about her. She can't keep a boyfriend, and I wonder why. I can't get her focused on herself. She even has tried to manipulate using the I hate myself, I'm ugly, I have an eating disorder, and yet it only comes up when it's beneficial to distract from a consequence of her behavior or cover a lie. I'm not saying it's not true, but I'm saying it's absolutely EXHAUSTING, so I just gave up. I am sad, depressed, and letting her make her own bed. However, she doesn't get any benefits from me anymore. I don't care about her dramas, she doesn't get to drive the car, or spend my money, etc.

So, although this isn't probably very helpful to you, I decided to STOP being manipulated, focus on my and my husbands lives and goals and accept she will do exactly what she wants to do. She doesn't want my advice, she will probably make a ton of mistakes I was hoping to help her avoid. No matter what sacrifice you make, how many prayers you send up, at the end of the day, I think it's a toss of the dice whether your child makes good choices for their future. However, since I've already raised two boys and she's my last...they'll be no free ride. If she doesn't get into college, she can get a job and stop spending my money.

Thanks for anyone who read this...it was such a big DUMP of emotion.

Harriet - posted on 12/01/2012

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Still lying at age 27. I came to my daughter's rescue across country only to read the text to her boyfriend that said she wished she had a mother that loved her. Said I was sleeping on a nice bed in the hotel while getting a cot for her...so untrue-she was in the queen bed next to me! This is just one example, her friends have told me that she tells terrible lies about me. I know she does it for attention-to be seen as the victim. It hurts me and of course her friends that dont know the truth stare at me and dont like me. On the phone, I have a good relationship with my daughter and she calls me when she needs help or just to talk about her problems. I have never really confronted her that I know the other side of her. I want to but know this will drive her from me.

Deborah - posted on 04/01/2012

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Hi there.

I WAS a teen liar when I was from 12 until I was over 23 or so. I couldn't tell my parents the truth no matter what, even over the smallest and stupidest details.

I never knew why, until I was into my 50th year and found a psychiatrist who actually listened to me and found me not to be just a pathalogical liar, but the reason. He said my aim was to please a mother who thought that I looked too much like my biological father and told me so many many many a time even though her 2nd husband adopted me when I was only 2 years old, she held a grudge against him and visited his punishment on me in a daily dose of total emotional abuse. My Daddy, (her 2nd husband) knew what the problem was and ALWAYS defended me to her, but the trick was trying to keep myself in control until my Daddy came home.

I really didn't want to disappoint my minister mother, and I thought that because she was such a good woman under God that she didn't have any human problems ever. Not true. And I lied because I never wanted my Daddy to feel like he shouldn't defend me. I wanted to be perfect and I wasn't. My girlfriend lied just as much to her "perfect" family of a stay at home Mom and a very successful Dad.and her problem was just that she wanted to do what all the cool kids did and couldn't find a way to get her Mom to allow her so she just lied and did it anyway. It could be one or both or neither of these things, but whatever the reason is, she doesn't want to make you disappointed. She wants you to have a great mother and daughter team, or she wants to do something that she knows you would disapprove of and doesn't know how to tell you without you hollering. Instead you need to sit down with her whenever you suspect, or find out a lie. ASK her why she lied and if she says, "I don't know" don't take that for an answer. ASK her if there were some reason she felt she couldn't tell you the truth. ASK her if she thinks that you are asking too much of her. ASK her what the reason is that she doesn't confide in you and let her know that even if you do disapprove you won't yell and you won't hold it against her forever. She has to know that you will love her no matter what, but there are some things that you want for her that her behavior will not allow. It is SO much about what other kids are doing too. We would say to Mom, "Jane Doe is going to a rock concert, can we go" and Mom would say, "Absolutely not" and when we asked why Jane Doe's mother let her do fun things, she would answer, "Because I am not Jane Doe's mother and you are not Mrs. Doe's child" Period. That was the end. No more talking about it or anything. Basicly if she said so, then it must always be so. So we all lied. 3 girls. Lied our fool heads off so that Mom would let us out of her sight for a minute. You see, the 2nd problem was that she was the town minister and God forbid that her children would be seen doing something that the community might find unpalatable. That is why they say that the child of a minister is always the most devilish. But her BIG beef with me was that I looked like my biological father, and I can understand that now that I have met him. BIG TIME LOSER~! Always someone else's fault that he hurts you either emotionally (a lot) or physically, (which he was often times with my mother causing her to abort 2 pregnancies before me). Anyway, that's that, but try to look inside yourself and wonder if there aren't some type of thing that you are visiting on your child where she is unable to meet your expectations. I am not saying let her do what she wants, but sit down with her and talk it out together and if you still don't want her to do something, explain why truthfully and honestly and I think that you will find your daughter will calm down a bit on the lying. Yes, it will take you a bit longer than your usual split second decisions, but it will work on your daughter a whole lot better.

Paula - posted on 08/22/2013

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my daughter lies constantly for no reason, gave her money the other night in the car when I was driving her to a friends house. She didn't say thank you so I said you can't even thank me? Right away she said I said thank you but she clearly did not. I was sitting right next to her. When I confronted her and said you absolutely did not say thank you and why did you tell me you did her response was well maybe I said it in my head and I thought I said it!! Has anyone ever encountered this one??

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Staz De - posted on 09/20/2014

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My 14 soon to be 15 tends to lie a lot. She has seen honesty in me but the other parent (non custodial) will rip out a lie quickly as long as it works for the situation and my daughter does the same. Be careful and don't think this is a small thing. I highly recommend that you get her into therapy before it becomes a dangerous situation. My daughters lies got to the point where it became a safety hazard. Teens that lie learn they have power. They can be very manipulative and destroy families, reputations and careers. Mt daughter attempted to do just that and was sent to the other non custodial parent in order to provide a safe environment for her sibling and myself. Its sad because I know its not in her best interest but we had no choice at this point. Good luck and get her help.

Ken - posted on 08/03/2014

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Yes the system is set up to empower the child or teenager. Unfortunately I know far to many parents who's prodigy abuse them both psychologically and physically. The system does nothing to protect the parents and actually blames the parents. These teens lie and manipulate to get what they want....and that includes going to parties, doing drugs and having sex. The school systems actually encourage this behavior and when the teen is empowered they know that there is no such word as "No", as they have been taught they are the special ones who can have what ever they want. If parents knew what these kids were being taught in the public sector they would revolt and have the public schools shut down....

Ken - posted on 08/03/2014

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A teen will manipulate the parents and even try to get them to divorce in order to create a scenario where the spot light if not on them and their deception. Your daughter is more than likely involved with a teen boy or young adult sexually. She may be into drugs and alcohol at parties, etc...,. Of course no parents want to admit this and usually end up blaming themselves for no good reason,

Zoe - posted on 05/31/2014

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Teen here! Woah, hold up. Do you have legitimate proof that your daughter is lying? Or are you simply overbearing to the point where you mistrust any and all things she says. Because my mum does the latter, and it is very frustrating. If you can prove she is, in fact, lying chronically, make strict and consistent punishments. There's obviously a reason she believes she can get away with lying if she is. If you have no proof, stop expecting the worst because it can make your resent you in the long run for the lack of trust you had in her. Kids are not blind; we notice everything.

Kende - posted on 05/29/2014

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Wow it's not just me..... I'm relieved and scared for my sons future all at once... The lying never ever stops. The school makes parents out to be monsters....

Elizabeth - posted on 04/25/2014

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My teen boy always lies. I just believe he tells white lies so i don't know the full story of what's hes up to.

Jessica - posted on 04/23/2014

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I am so glad I found this site! I am a wreck lately dealing with a 17 year old daughter who has been what I consider to be a pathological liar for several years. Most of the time the lies revolve around me. She has told people on social media that she lives with my parents because I am a drunk (i rarely drink and don't even keep alcohol in the house) amount other things. She claims she basically raises her younger brother (she has on occasion been made to babysit). Lately it has taken a drastic turn for the worse. She was at her father's for the weekend and was drinking. She had just gotten in trouble two weeks prior for drinking and driving. She was under adult legal limit but zero tolerance in our state makes it an owi. Hadn't even been sentenced yet and while at her dad's house drank vodka by herself. She had made a couple stops by my house earlier in the day and the last one seemed very peculiar. When I started to talk to her I noticed she was slurring her words. Her dad was out in the car waiting for her (i had already taken her car away at this point) and I sent him a text telling him he needed to see what was going on with her, that she either took something or drank something. I hear nothing back from him which is par for the course so I didn't worry too much about it. Later that night I'm getting my 10 year old to bed when two police officers show up at my house. Apparently my daughter told her dad that I had given her a vicodin! Now anyone that knows me knows my two biggest things I preach to both my kids is the importance of not getting into a car messed up and not taking pills. I was floored when they basically accused me of this. She had given them very specific info as to where it was supposedly kept and other supposed incidences like her step father and I allowing her to drink at family game night (usually monopoly nor life but def no drinking!). This is all happening in front of my other xhild mind you and they are telling me cos is going to have to get involved! I basically let them on and search whatever they wanted to and answered any questions they had. Fortunately one of the officers had also been one involved in pulling her over and knew she lied that night repeatedly and felt it was the same here. After thoroughly bsearchinf my house and not even finding so much as a can of beer let along pills they returned to her dad's to question her. Of course her dad believes everything she says and would love nothing more than to have it be tru unfortunately. The officer explained to him that they had caught her in numerous lies and she eventually admitted to making it up about me giving her a pill that night but still insisted it had happened another time! She was given a pbt and found to be drunk (blodd test also and showed no other pills or drugs except alcohol). They took her to jail bc part of hee owi bond was to not drink. She has been in there for over two weeks now and I have found put she is telling people in jail that I give her pills so now all these people think I am a junkie! Not that I care what these people think but we live in a small town and word spreads quickly. I just don't get it. She will denythings until she is caught red handed and even then sometimes will continue to lie. She was just released and I let her message one friend on Facebook. She made up a lie that I said I didn't have her phone (i and taken it away before the arrest). It doesn't even make sense why she said it! Again most of the lies are about me who is her biggest supporter and honestly I am the one she always talks to with problems. She doesn't have the best relationship with her dad but loves her siblings at his house so makes it worth it for it when she goes to visit. Plus he feeds into her bs. I am at a total loss on what to do. She is putting the rest of my family in jeopardy! If the police actually thought I gave her something they could have taken my other child away! I am hoping she will outgrow this but this is devastaating our family and I am beyond hurt right now.

Bonnie - posted on 11/17/2013

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Boy does this sound like the same, most likey your daughter has already had sex, thats why shes wanting to spend the night, n girls lie about having sex n their are patches to pretact her from getting prenate to n they won't wash off that easy, also I feel for you my step daughter who know longer lives with us her n dad n i are by our selfs now n he wants to spaend the golden yrs with me but since she moved she was a A student in school n had all her plans up in their air she was going to colleage to become a doctor never got in trouble in school wanted to get acareer first before making babys n she said she did not want to be like her sister n mother having kids at an early age, well her mother convined her to move out at age 17, just like her brother did n her brother told her its not any bed of roses at their mothers, she didnt belive him so she claimed her mother would bring her bk to our house when ever she wanted to come, n i told her thats not going to happen, well she didnt believe me, sure well had some disagreements but she would lie n tell her mother a hole other story n blow it out of prepoution, she never called the cops on me to try n have me removed from my own house, hah, but she found out that could'nt happen cause I never did anything wrong to her to get her way,, well she moves out n 2 days later she gets a boyfriend, then her real mother alouds the 2 to sleep together , then her mother gets her off birth control pils n tell her she won;t make a good mom , then she get on depression meds n then she trys to kill herself on them, all because of her mother, then she calls her n dad n i to tell us shes having sex with her boyfriend then she said she she hopes nothing is wrong with the baby then she claims to be prenate n has lied about when its coming to so many people, n then she gets married after afer 5months of her birthday, n she didnt look prenate but after she has her dress on for her wedding it some how made her look prenate, n when she gets married she aloud the dude who raped her at a young age between 4 to 7yrs old at her wedding, who has been living around her all her life, then while all this is going on she claims someone else has been raping her at them young yrs , when all along it was the one she aloud at her wedding n her mother is keeping him in hiding, so yes i know young teenages girl all lie I do not have any girls but I do know what she has lied n with the healp of her real mother.

Lynn - posted on 08/24/2013

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Paula, I have done that with my own mom when I was a teen; I would set her up and she'd fall for it. The situation is not about, its about pushing your buttons and making you fall into that pit of annoyance and frustration. You just got taken advantage of emotionally and financially. Recognize that she knows you, just like you know her. She knew that your button would be pushed by her not thanking you.
Even if the money was not given, your teen would find another way to frustrate you. Advice: Stop trying to redirect her or change her - causes more resistance, work on not being so predictable or confrontational, and give out of love without the expectation of returned appreciation.
Although not always obvious, the love is there.

Lynn - posted on 08/22/2013

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Lying really gets to parents because it signifies a shift in the relationship with your teen. For so many years we've known where our kids are, what they are doing, how they are doing it and with whom. We have also been in control of when they do things, but then they learn the art of lying.
Kids doing it for fun or thrill of stressing parents will lie about some things, but fill in certain instances with the truth. It's a rush to pull a "fast one or gotcha moment" on parents. Our objective is to know the difference and most times you will.
In terms of power/control, don't think about regaining it because as our kids grow we will know only what they want us to know (truth or lie). We've taught our kids values and good character. So, put away your gadgets and have faith that in bad situations your child will do the right thing. If something does happen, have faith that you will be the first person they call for help. Most men retreat in confrontation, but he may step in when he sees that you have actually stepped back (with reserved men look for the turtle not the hare, to cross this finish line).

Leesa - posted on 04/03/2013

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Holly, yes I agree she doesn't have anything
Except for being a bratty teenager who is selfish and cares only
About herself !

Holly - posted on 04/03/2013

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what about leesa's situation sounds like the child has aspergers? she just sounds like a bratty kids

Leesa - posted on 04/02/2013

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I agree Kim, judge judy is so cool love her and shes so right
U can tell when a teenager is not telling the truth
Their mouths will be moving lol

Kim - posted on 04/02/2013

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Judge Judy says it best whenever a teenager opens their mouth they're lying LOL

Amy Dawn - posted on 03/30/2013

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Leesa, it sounds like she may have Asperger, you might consider having her tested.

Leesa - posted on 03/23/2013

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God anyone want a bratty 14 year old sd LOL she has been a nite mare today. We have just had to take her ipad and phone from her so shes sulking like a 2 year old. She even asked me and her dad today if she could sleep over at her boyfriends house WTF shes 14 and because we said NO WAY she thinks we don't trust her its not that it's we don't want to have another baby to look after, and she won't have the needle to avoid getting pregnant she claims she doesn't have to if she doesn't want to and the pill well forget that she is too irresponsible to even do her homework. Dont know what to do with her. I have 3 bio kids and compared to her they are angels. I know it sounds really bad and i love my sd a lot but sometimes i wish she would just go back to her mother cause since she arrived our whole family have be fighting what to do before i go insane

Tina - posted on 03/22/2013

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My 17 year old daughter who is a A student suddenly started lying and not doing homework. She is not even caring about her grades which are falling from A to F. She is becoming very rude, disrespectful and stubborn. I think I have to see a psychologist since nothing is helping. Can anyone please recommend a good one dealing well with teenagers in northern VA area?

Loreli - posted on 02/06/2013

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Hi Angela,
Yes I DO! I just made a post about it the end of last week. she is 17, an "A" student in school with goals for after graduation, however with in 2 months everytime i'm not sure if its friends or what her influence is - there comes a house breaking lie. she is in counceling now - but i'm not sure if something else is wrong. i had gotten a response - but............ to that, she said she kids don't lie because she grounds them and makes them do their siblings chores for 2 weeks. Well, on that note. I do ground her and she has no sibling at home but she still has chores that she does and that doesn't stop the lies. i was hopeing for advise.

Madison - posted on 02/06/2013

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My children dont lie because every time they do they are grohnded for two weeks and have to do their syblings chores

Loreli - posted on 02/02/2013

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Ummmm Hi there!! Me Me - I have a 17 yrs old senior "A" student who - like every 2 months after we think things are going well, seems to mess it all up by bring the house and everyone into a tail spin with a lie. now i'm finding out or as she says - shes afraid of me becasue she knows how angry and or upset i'm going to be about the lie to begin with. i'm truely at witts ends as to how to handle and fix this problem - any suggestions??
I'm a new-bee out here any in put would be greatly appreciated..

Leesa - posted on 01/25/2013

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YES my sd came to live with us 2 years ago an omg what a difference teen boys are to girls, i have 2 boys and a girl that are so different to my sd. She has tantrums like a 2 year old if we take her phone from her and starts to tear up her bedroom. All she has to do is cry an her dad gives in an gave her phone back to her in less than 5 mins. I don't understand it she swears at her dad all the time an lies about everything but he still treats her like a queen. She nice to me an very respectful but she has no respect for her dad which I keep telling him is because he lets her get away with EVERYThING. My 3 kids live with us also and have had their stepdad in their lives for over 8 years an we have no trouble from them they are loving an very good kids. My sd if she doesn't get her own way tells her dad well ill go back to bio mum then so he gives in he has started saying ok u know where the phone is call her but her bio mum did treat her really badly an doesn't want her back which is sad. I think it's just teen girls in general that are hard to deal with like my sd who hides in her room all day n night on Facebook which if she was my daughter she wouldn't even have as my 3 dont I'm hoping it will get better good luck to any mums in the same position

Brandy - posted on 01/25/2013

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my daughter lies about everything grades bf and now i think she is sneaking out at night

Lakota - posted on 01/07/2013

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Hardcoredad? 1. Learn to communicate without all the offensive language 2. This is a site for moms. 3. Get a grip

Rhonda - posted on 10/24/2012

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Yes I do, I can not believe a word that comes out of her mouth even about small issues that don't really matter.

Laura - posted on 09/24/2012

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my daughter lies about me , it started when me and he daddy broke up and i started seeing this new man ,he was brilliant with her ,she looked like she got on with him but then every time she went to visit her daddy she told them things that wernt true like she walked into my bedroom and saw us having sex,this really hurt me and now she lives with her daddy because she couldnt get over the fact that we wouldnt be together again and she is only 11 ,broke ny heart .

Kim - posted on 09/23/2012

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Yes we do. We made the statement once we would never have to worry about her lying because she was a good child and told use everything. At 15 we let her date a bit and at 16 shw was dating. Dated boy her entire junior year his senior year. We trusted her because we never had any reason not too. We started having issues of no answering text. We always had that talk with her about sex drugs and drinking. One night she came in drunk after being out on date we too phone car and going out for one month. What bothers me is she is not ashamed at all and she can turn a simple talk into a big fuss her body language and crushing are too much we also summer of going into 12 th grade her and boyfriend had been having relations. How did I not know that. We always told her if a boy try's something just call us we will come get you. She seemed to be on our page. She started lowering her grades not doing anything to help out around house laying out or her pt job. When confronting her with these types of things she got mad mad rage throwing things and even raised her hand to me. Never had that trustful I'm sorry. I could go on but the point is I need help I don't know her and it's so hurtful to say she will lie about everything. In college now not doing well was in four year college a freshman came home for boyfriend he broke up with her shortly after.she has to have a boyfriend can't ever have just friends which she has no friends really. I miss her and she lives with us so much wonderful times have passed us by she is not grateful appreciative nor respectful. We ask her to do things she want if we say anything she gets mad and turns it on us saying we fuss all time. Do you have any ideas.

Regina - posted on 08/26/2012

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Yes please help I have never punished my daughter for telling the truth however she lies about any and everything for now reason at all and has no remorse about it

Ashley - posted on 04/15/2012

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All teens lie at some point I believe but little tiny white lies shouldn't be that big of an issue as long as you make your point clear that it is not acceptable.

Tammy - posted on 04/06/2012

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It was encouraging reading everyone's stories b/c I've dealt with the same issue with my teenage daughter. She seemed to have started lying at about age 10. Little white lies for fear of being punished for breaking a toy or spilling milk...silly things. I know I have always been a pretty cool Mom. Accidents happen. Sure there were times when she would do something foolish when I was in a bad mood, but I have no dout that I was always reasonable and talked things through. Maybe I was too nice. Funny thing though....throughout all the years to follow I have ALWAYS said "when you lie you get in big trouble...when you tell the truth we can deal with it." I'm not sure how I could've changed that up for her to feel confident that telling the truth was a far smaller consequence than lying??? She's almost 18 now and lives in another Province with my family. She seems happy and getting by. Going to school and working.

We talk a lot and she is starting to fess up to lies she's told me in the past....I have to say there are few I didn't know about. I was always on top of her as far as always knowing who her friends were, their parents and I always had the door open for her friends to come visit. I figured that would be the best way to keep an eye out on her. Her lies were minor, but still lies.

I feel ad for you parents who are dealing with troubled teens who lie and hurt others in the process. especially YOU, the parents. You all deserved to be loved by your child. Society has changed for the worse...but stay strong, open minded and know that your kids need to express themselves. Talk about it, forgive, then let it go! Many parents hold on to the grudge well after the forgiveness and still bring up the past to their kids. You've just lost their trust by doing that. Forgive and move on....we have to be role models no matter how hard. :) Hugs to all our parents staying strong :D

Mrs Susan - posted on 04/03/2012

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Yes I do my daughter constantly lies but the funny thing is my daughter must think I am stupid but I can tell when she is lying. Why do they do it because if it is to act big it does the opposite. I have a son and up to now he hasn't told me one serious lie. I am frightened my daugters lies will not stop and do not know what to do to make it. I love her dearly and am frightened that her lies are going to end her in trouble.

Ana - posted on 04/01/2012

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Yes, I have come to the conclusion that my daughter is an illusion. I have no idea who she is or what she does. She left me to go live with her dad when I took away her phone and computer and discovered her double life. I finally stopped crying the second month after she left and doesn't want anything to do with me saying that her pain is healing. If anything, I'm the one in pain from her lies, deceit, rudeness, hostility,etc. I've reached out to her so many times but have finally chosen to let go since her last email to me said she needed more time because of the pain. She was bringing in baggies of marijuana, taking all kinds of inappropriate pictures of herself, bad mouthing my husband (who has treated her like a princess), my sons and myself, and who knows what else. The images on her phone and computer were beyond disturbing. Quite frankly, I am rather fearful of her and what she is capable of. :(

Teri - posted on 03/30/2012

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I think it's strange to have a teenage daughter to doesn't lie. My daughter is 20 years old now, but she gave us a run for our money. I had to pray all of the time because it's a crazy world out there and with the lies and trying to go places she shouldn't be, stressed me out. But she made it, she graduated and now she's in the Navy. My hard work paid off!!

Carrie - posted on 03/30/2012

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My 16yr old daughter has been lying/fabricating for years. She always seems to have, seen, done, or heard what someone else has. She has gotten me in the middle of them ie tells someone something such as there is no food at home....they then talk to me....its not that there was no food, there wasnt what she wanted at home! Its to the point I can't believe anything she tells me!

Saundra - posted on 03/29/2012

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Children lie because they are afraid of others'(especially parental figures) reactions.

D - posted on 03/22/2012

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I struggle with this. My 18 yr old daughter is now attending therapy to deal with it.

Kat - posted on 03/15/2012

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Personally I have found that eventually they start to lie when the first second and third lie passes over easy. Then they just start telling lies. Eventually we figure it out and know they are lying to us or maybe we knew from the start. Then you have to ask yourself why are they lying? What are they gaining by lying to you? I think eventually it becomes a terrible habit and they end up doing it all the time ans sometimes don't know where the truth starts and the lie begins. This is something very serious and something I think counseling can help. Not only to get to the bottom of the lying, but help rebuild the skills they need to regain the truth. Because if it is not stopped and corrected the compulsive lying could cost them a job or meaningful relationship down the road. Because they want to be trusted. Ans there is NEVER any shame going to see a counselor and the counselor can give you some ideas on how to work on this at home. Also sometimes they lie to cover up other things such as substance abuse which is definately something you would want to see help on. Things will work out, it just takes time and learning to trust again.

Jodi - posted on 03/13/2012

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my 15 year old daughter lies about homework being done, why I don't know since she is a straight A student and her school posts homework on their website for parents to see every day and call if any student scores below 70% on any given assignment or test. Tonight she is meeting a boy to see a movie and she won't tell me (I know because I saw her text). I would have no problem with her going out on a "date" and she knows that. I think they lie because it makes them feel in control of any situation.

Cami - posted on 03/07/2012

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I have a 12yr old daughter who I can't trust because I feel like all she does is lie, I just got a call from the school counselor telling me she just went in there telling them a construction worker was looking at her butt and biting his lip, I would believe this but then she brought up her friend who I can't stand because this girl has no home life and I forbid her to hang out with this girl. Well the counselor tells me well Amber was also in the cafeteria today and a different worker did the same exact thing....So I have no idea what to do with my daughter, she is a super duper great lier.....She knows how I feel and my husband we can't believe her at all...My husband doesn't even talk to his mother because of my daughter, she lied to us about things his mother supposively said about him and I when she didn't...Also she has been bullied at school lately and I don't even know if that is true, she comes home crying and crying but who knows if it's real, but her stories she comes up with are so so good they just role off her tongue it amazes me....So if anyone finds a cure for this I would love help also, I am at a breaking point, never in my life did I expect to raise such a child like this.

Leann - posted on 03/04/2012

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Yes, my adopted daughter can't speak a word that isn't a lie. I had prayed for a daughter for years and was on a list for years when I finally had the opportunity to adopt an 11 year old girl. Unfortunately, when a child lies, you don't know their real problems, real dreams. You can't have a real relationship. You can't get through to them because they don't own up to anything, not even their own opinion. I have begged, pleaded, bargained, disciplined and pulled my eye teeth out trying to get her to be genuine and have genuine conversations with me but it has never worked. She is 18 now and I don't know if anything we have ever done was worth a hill of beans to her cause i can't trust her. I do hope your teen stops lying. I know how frustrating it can be. I would much prefer a kid do something wrong and just own up to it. But, my child didn't even do things wrong and she'd lie. Anything and everything she said she would lie about. I think she was always trying to say what she thought you wanted but not what she actually thought.Goo luck Angela

Desiree Jane - posted on 03/02/2012

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I have a 17teen year old daughter which will be 18 on Tuesday. Well she has been lying for a long time and with alot of anger. She skips class,recently found out she has been drinking and has a yr old child. Im so lost for words. Life out here has changed, i remember playing outside.....now its about electronics. Kids doing drugs.... i cant stop her but i refuse to give up on her also.

Maria - posted on 03/01/2012

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I have a 10, 15 & bf that lie to me. When someone figures out out how to get them to stop, let me know!

Vicki - posted on 03/01/2012

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i have a soon to be 14 yr old that i think lies to my face by holding a straight face im not sure what to do about it and how to get her to behave and listen to me and respect me i am a single mom and their dad is no longet around

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