My 13 year old wants to wear a string bikini?

Chelsey - posted on 05/05/2013

My dauther is 14 I let her wear the shorts and a top but not a string. Top just a like straight across top but if we are in our home swimming pool and no one is over and it's just me her and her father I let her wear a string bikini but not out in public so if u have a home swimming pool let her try it out there give it till 16 then let her wear a string bikini

Roxanne - posted on 04/02/2013

I had the same problem with my daughter last year, so she went for a couple of months without a bathing suit and was completely ready to compromise after that. This year we compromised on the first try. Her top was a bikini, but not a string bikini. And she chose the bottoms, which are shorts.
I don't thing string bikinis are appropriate for that age. I will probably give my daughter bathing suit freedom when she's 16.

JORDAN DAVID - posted on 04/02/2013

I WILL GO OUT WITH HER MY NAME IS JORDAN I,M THIRTEEN I LIKE BEING WITH THE GIRLS I GO OUT WITH SO I WOULD LIKE TO GO OUT WITH HER THANKS

Lauren Izzy - posted on 03/18/2013

Well this sadly happen to my 14 year olds friend her strapless bikini fell off when they were walking with Chloe (my daughter) Ashley (the girl that's bikini fell off) and 2 boys the girls boyfriends so anyways her bikini fell off because she was jumping and her boyfriend rubed her boobes so I guess u could let her but it depends on et breast size. good luck!

Jessica - posted on 03/05/2013

My 13 year old has all these high shorts and you can see her underwear we got in a huge fight and the fight was that she brought a boy in the house in her room with all these pairs of underwear all over the ground when i walked in the boy ben had all her underwear picked up in is hand i made him leave next thing i know he is kissing her in the front yard

Cierra - posted on 04/12/2012

No you are actually being a better parent than those other ones. Setting the boundaries is always a must with teenagers. Let her know that she is not getting it bcuz its just inappropriate for her age. There doesn't need to be an argument or discussion about it.. you are the parent and she is the child, end of story.

Samara - posted on 04/10/2012

Hell no you not unless you want to raise a lil tramp that gets pregnant at the age of 14. Tell her your not her friends parents you got more sense than to let your daughter advertise her womanly goods.

Susie - posted on 03/28/2010

Heck no, we both know as adults the guys like it for one and only one reason; to get it off her.I wore a string bikini with bells on the hips. I remember the uncomfortable looks I got. 13 is way to young to handle that kind of attention. But good luck telling her that. Be strong Mom.

Charlotte - posted on 03/23/2010

We go to nude beaches, and do not have this problem.

Karen - posted on 03/22/2010

OH and join the club except mine is 14 and in 8th grade! SHe just went away with a friend and her mother and came back with every piece of clothing she is not allowed to wear. The mother of her friend bought all of it for her.

Stick to your guns on this. Plenty of time to grow up. Age 16 is when I'm going to let this girl wear what she wants, not 14.

Tracy - posted on 03/18/2010

Good advice on your post about not giving in if your daughter wants a side tie bikini! I would only add that she WILL get the kind of attention she seeks out. If she is hoping to get the boys to drool over her and think sexually about her, and she chooses clothing that supports that attention, then she will get it. Sometimes it will attract the attention of sexual predators or young men that won't ask her opinion about having sex. She probably hasn't even considered this. And I'm fairly certain, at age 13, she won't want that kind of attention. A young boy her age will think she's cute or "hot" in a potato sack, so she might as well keep herself in more modest clothing for her own good!

Kirstie - posted on 03/18/2010

I say if it ties NO, the boys well they will try to untie it not what you want for you girl .Keep saying no untill you can compromise with her and good luck on that

KEITHA - posted on 03/17/2010

No, you are not being unreasonable. Stick to your guns she is too young. I have a 14 yr old. I commend you for not giving in.

Jodi - posted on 03/17/2010

Not unreasonable at all. It's good she's comfortable in her body (my 13 y/o is really disliking the changes to hers) but it is your responsibility to teach her what is appropriate. It's also a great time to point out her body is not her only asset in attracting boys. I often find that when my daughter says "all her friends..." its usually because the other parents have not yet weighed in. I thinks it's great you left the store without buying her anything. If you decide to try again - explain to her what your requirements are and let the choice be her's. It would be sad if she couldn't enjoy the vacation but it is ultimately up to her. Good luck.

Joan - posted on 03/17/2010

hi

you are not unreasonable in denying your daughter who wants a side tie bikini. you have to remember that the reason she lives with you is because she is not ready to always make the best decisions. don't feel bad about being her mom. you are not supposed to be her friend but her mother someone that will help to guide her to do the right thing.i would buy a suit that you think will fit her if she wants to swim she will wear it. when my kids were not willing to work with me they lost their chance and i was left to decide for them.i would tell her that either you work together and decide together or she will be left with your choice.

good luck

Tracy - posted on 03/18/2010

Good advice on your post about not giving in if your daughter wants a side tie bikini! I would only add that she WILL get the kind of attention she seeks out. If she is hoping to get the boys to drool over her and think sexually about her, and she chooses clothing that supports that attention, then she will get it. Sometimes it will attract the attention of sexual predators or young men that won't ask her opinion about having sex. She probably hasn't even considered this. And I'm fairly certain, at age 13, she won't want that kind of attention. A young boy her age will think she's cute or "hot" in a potato sack, so she might as well keep herself in more modest clothing for her own good!

Joan - posted on 03/17/2010

hi

you are not unreasonable in denying your daughter who wants a side tie bikini. you have to remember that the reason she lives with you is because she is not ready to always make the best decisions. don't feel bad about being her mom. you are not supposed to be her friend but her mother someone that will help to guide her to do the right thing.i would buy a suit that you think will fit her if she wants to swim she will wear it. when my kids were not willing to work with me they lost their chance and i was left to decide for them.i would tell her that either you work together and decide together or she will be left with your choice.

good luck