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my 14 teen is out of control

Monique - posted on 08/22/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 14 year old daughter . She doesn't go out or doesn't even drinks either dose she do drugs. I do everything in my hands to make her happy but it doesn't seem to work. She doesn't get along with her brother or her teachers, her uncles, and kids on the block .she hardly has any friends she says there annoying . she's 'always up set and in a bad mood on No one can speak to her because she says there yelling at her. She also doing bad in school ad blames it on the teacher's. I tried counseling she refuses it .I tried counseling at home she throws them . I'm fit up. I don't know what to do anymore. it been going on since elementary now she's interning high school. At Times she wants to control my home .myself as well as her brother . But I stop her and I have remind her I'm the adult and the mother

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Monique - posted on 08/23/2012

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Thank you because you really make sense . Because there times she seems confuse . Thank once again : )

Tawni - posted on 08/23/2012

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I'm 16. (Not a mother.)

Honestly, I think she's not at all out of control.

I've seen a lot worse, and few are better.

Even I, who am known for being a middle-aged woman in a teenager's body have my moments.

You need to let her be. She'll figure out her own path. She probably feels misunderstood and emotional, since almost all teenagers do. I know I do. It's like... depression, except it's temporary and should disappear when you turn 16/17.

If she does, you can't help her, because she doesn't need help. It's all about sorting out your head on your own and finding yourself at this age. She's not sick. She just needs time to sort her head.

Unless you think she might have a mental disorder, get rid of the whole counseling idea. I know if my mom signed me up for counseling, I would be pissed off, majorly. If she honestly thought she needed counseling, she wouldn't have fought so hard against it.

Just remind her you're the mother and steer clear for a year or two. Try to keep the bond between you two strong, though. Don't ignore her, just don't treat her like she has a problem.

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