my 14 years old screaming and yelling at us ?

Patty - posted on 11/30/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my 14 year old is always screaming and yelling at us when try to talk to her.
we grounded her for 3 weeks and no phone and no friends .
not for sure what i can do ? i would like just talk to her with yelling at her and i want her to give us repect too and obey us and do what we say.

now i trying to find a way to talk to her ?

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Annemarie - posted on 12/03/2010

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Ok.... she is 14 and acting 4...... hormones are rampant...... She is pushing boundries (which is normal). Sorry about the respect etc.... your little girl has gone out the door, but never fear she will return.... eventually. Have you laid good foundations??? Have un installed good values??.... It isn't 100 percent proof but it it's a good start... Keep the faith and don't hold the strings to tight..... cos she will cut them.... always tell her you love her no matter what her bahaviour is..... that is paramount.....

Angie - posted on 12/01/2010

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Wait until there is no drama. Take time for you and your daughter to calm down and then talk it over. Our 17 year old isn'tt a yeller but would get upset and ask for permission to leave a discussion we were having. After the smoke cleared, we could speak about it in an adult way. We always let him know that if his argument is reasonable, we will compromise but the final decision is left to my husband and I.

Heather - posted on 12/01/2010

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i have the same problem with my 12 year old daughter, i always try to give her space when she is angry but i won't tolerate disrespect, so i tell her that i won't listen to her until she can calm down, that usually works. hope this helps.

Theresa - posted on 12/01/2010

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R U KIDDING? I am sure she does not believe in Santa. Therefore, the gifts would come from you. Would you reward bad behavior. It seems to be she is running the show at home. Become the parent.

Mrs Susan - posted on 12/01/2010

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What about Christmas presents. My 14 year old is always yelling at me and my husband when she comes home that is. Just lately she has started staying out with friends missing dinner. She cannot contact me because we took her mobile off her for her attitude. Christmas is around the corner and as a mother I am finding it difficult to give her a gift this year. Has anyone got any advice?

Theresa - posted on 12/01/2010

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When she starts yelling, you stop talking. Let her voice be the only thing she hears. Remove yourself from the room or where ever you happen to be. She will eventually need you and come to you. Stop listening to her when she is screaming.

Louise - posted on 12/01/2010

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Teenagers hate to be ignored so when she starts to raise her voice warn her then if she continues then send her to her room. Tell her that she is not a five year old anymore and that shouting does not make you listen. Explain to her that you do not wish to be shouted at anymore and you are not going to put up with it. Both my sons tried the shouting thing until they realised that the moment they shouted I stopped listening and their point was not getting across. It is pretty normal behaviour for teenagers to do this just retain your calm and send them away until they calm down. Ask her to write her point of view down if she can not talk to you like an adult. She will soon learn that mum is not kidding and hopefully modify her behaviour.

Ramona - posted on 11/30/2010

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Don't feed into it. Inform her that calmly when she starts that you will be willing to discuss things when she has calmed down and go away. If she continues, start with giving chores. I have always told the kids that if they had the energy to talk back, then they had energy to work. Thier dinner/lunch etc... could be eaten after this was done.

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