Alison - posted on 06/16/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )
My son is 14years 11 months and is always complaining he has not got any freedom (compared to his friends). I cant see it myself. He goes to the cinema, malls (I drop him and his friends off and pick them up). He also attends a Air-soft activity every Sunday which is an all day event with friends and other enthusiasts, even the odd all night event (couple of times per year). His bedtime is 10pm on a school night and later at weekends.
I think this is quite enough freedom for his age, I insist that he lets me know exactly where he is at all times and have no problem with him sleeping over at his friends on non school nights. He has his own contract phone (which he has been entrusted not to go over his monthly allowance) which touch wood he hasn't.
He continually insists he has not got a life and we are too over protective. We have endless arguments about this and never seem to find common ground.
This morning he mentioned that his friend has invited him on holiday to the Caribbean. Considering we can never get him on a far flung holiday as he has refused to have his vaccinations, suddenly, he is all for it! I know his friends mum but she gives her son far to much freedom than we give ours. This is worrying me so much as the thought of him being away for 2 weeks is very unsettling. I told him I would think about it when his friends mum rang me so I know this is genuine and not him and his friend plotting. What do you all think, should I just say a flat NO or should I be considering something like this? He isn't a naughty lad, he is sensible and I have had no issues or problems with his behaviour.