Momof4 - posted on 01/03/2012 ( 42 moms have responded )
My sons and his 16yr old girlfriend are having a baby! No I am not excited about him/her being parents at 16 but it happens and we have to accept it. I have talked to him about the importance now more than ever of finishing school etc to support his child. I have told him we would help him support the child so he can stay in school as long as he did finish school.
Problem is her parents have said he is not allowed to see her no more, they have blocked our number and told him he is not allowed to see the baby, he is not allowed to name it and neither is their daughter. They claim it will have their last name and be named after their son who passed away. The father has told my son he is not allowed at the baby shower, any dr appointments, or at the hospital when born and that if he is he will kill him. As well they have said that his last name will not be anywhere near the child or on the birth certificate.
The mother and father of his girlfriend are basically calling all the shots and telling my son he has NO say on any of this. I agree its her body and she is in control of the pregnancy but it is not their baby. They are grandparents not parents. I think my son should be able to attend the ultrasounds, the birth, have his last name on the child and on the birth certificate etc. This is his and his girlfriends child not the parents. I realize they have a little over a year until 18 but legally they are still the child's parents I would think.
I want my son to support this child fully and be a part of its life. I mean this is his son/daughter and our grandchild regardless of his age it is still a part of him and us and he is going to be a father. I am also willing to help him but they want him to support it and have informed him they would take him to court to see he supports it but the next words out of their mouths is he will never see it nor will it have his name? Does he have any rights or say in any of this as the father? They were together over a year and highly in love I have no doubts as to if the baby is his.
I think her mother and father think they have found a way to get back the son they lost honestly. Her mother/father have been picking out names and even telling her she has no say. Its quite sad!
Thanks for any advice.