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My 16 yr old son's girlfriend is pregnant. She will be 15 in Dec. She is 5 weeks pregnant. Her mom was upset, but has an open mind like me with regards to teenage pregnancy. We know ultimately it is her decision, but she wants an abortion. We've (myself, her mother and my son) discussed all options, from joint custody, to my son raising it (with my help) on his own if she didn't want anything to do with it. My son feels like his heart is being ripped out. My family doesn't believe in abortion, Her own mother had 2 abortions and told her about the guilt she's lived with her entire life from having the abortions. This baby IS wanted and will be loved cared for. Even her own mother wants this baby in her life.
SHE STILL wants an abortion!!! Now she is asking me to give her the money for the abortion, and she needs it upfront by Saturday. She tells me her mom will pay me back. I can't pay for something I don't believe in. I don't want to force her to have this baby, but her only concern was "I don't want to get all FAT!!!" and "I don't want the kids at school to call me a whore". We've given her options around that too, but she just doesn't want it. How can I help myself and my son especially understand this. And yes he is the father, but I don't think he should have to pay for an abortion when it's NOT what he wants. Any advice would be extremely helpful.