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My 17 year old continues to sneak out of the house regardless of the trouble he has already been in...Help!

Teri - posted on 11/17/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My 17 year old continues to sneak out of the house. He has been in and out of the court system since he was about 13 years old for stupid things. Bringing an air soft gun to school, disrespecting and tearing up the house, fighting with his step-father, etc... He is failing school terribly and has no motivation to do better. He loves sports and wants to play but cannot due to his grades. I finally sent him to live with his father, who also is unable to handle him. This last time we went to court was over sneaking out of my house and being caught sneaking back in by the police. He finally got expelled from school and I sent him to live with his father. He has no respect towards authority and shrugs off any kind of advice I try to give him. There is so much more to this story but I have no where else to turn. Calling the cops at this point will just drag us in to the courts for more months to come and money to pay, and they have not done anything to him major, just a slap on the wrist and was sent off to a juvenile detention a few times. I feel so let down as a mother. I wished that he would have turned out so much better. I rooted him with morals and he throws them out the door.

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Tammy - posted on 11/18/2011

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My son is almost 17. Got an alarm to keep him from sneaking out. Got him in counseling because of his lack of respect for authority. Turns out his anger was at his father for our divorce and him feeling abandoned was the reason behind this behavior, he also lost some people in his life . I also drug test him bi-weekly and reward him for being drug free and maintaining his grades... It's a constant battle. I say I've read more books on raising teens then I ever did on babies..... But so far a year of this and there's been less trouble at school, no more trouble with cops, no more suspensions and his grades are at least passing. I just recently found out my sons been dealing with anxiety attacks as well and not sharing this with me...this feeds his agitation. The Dr wants him on meds...I'm considering it, but haven't decided yet. Teenagers are not easy, you are not a bad mom, just don't give up...Teenage years are so difficult even when circumstances are perfect...but throw in divorce, or death, or any of lifes traumas and it can quickly become difficult for them to keep their behavior under control....Keep the faith !

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