Karen - posted on 08/03/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
I am raising my teenage daughter by myself. When she was six years old, my husband left me for someone else & she had to deal with going back & forth & he told her things he should not have to make me look like the bad parent. However, we managed to get along for her benefit and then after the hurt of our broken home, he remarries due to the woman becoming pregnant and not even being married to her a year, he finds out he has cancer which was rare and started in his kidney & he was very sick for about two years and he passed away when my daughter was 12. She was upset, but mostly angry which I took her for counseling with no success and she hated school and me. I tried talking to her, but she would just say shut up mama I don't want to hear it. So, I prayed for the Lord to guide me through this ordeal. She is now 17, which she grew up way too fast and hung around some friends of hers I did not approve of and she would always talk back to me in front of everyone even in public especially if she didn't get her way and she would get louder and wanting people to hear her. I tried grounding her, taking things away, etc. and someway somehow she would leave and I would not be able to find her. She stole my car when I was asleep and totalled it this year, but that opened her eyes somewhat because she has to go to court this month and that happened end of March which my father hired a lawyer and they have been able to move the court date up. On top of all of this, my job was eliminated the end of April of this year after I purchased another car. She has her good days and bad days. She will be a senior this year and looks forward to graduating and going to CCCC, however the problem is still there and her yelling at me and calling me names that I'm too embarrassed to type, anyway if there is someone out there that can shed some light on how to handle this, I would appreciate it. She refuses to talk to a Psychiatrist, unlike me. I have one because I can't hold my feelings in like her. It is hard getting unemployment and having to pay for your insurance thru cobra which takes a lot of your income. I do receive SSA benefits for her, but she turns 18 in April, 2010. I worked for the county at Lee Harnett Mental Health until they went private under the Mental Health Reform & then I went to work at Lee County Dept. Of Social Services in the Daycare Subsidy program and that was where I was working when my job was eliminated. Thanks to those of you who could give me some advice.