My 17 year old son... drunk?

Alicia - posted on 04/30/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My oldest son, Matthew, went t his senior prom tonight. He said he had a good time, but shortly after arriving home, his skin flushed pale, and he's been sick for the last hour. He felt fine before the prom, and his clothes smelled like beer, but not strongly. He said someone spilled some on him. He really doesnt feel good right now, and I'm thinking he was drinking a bit. He's never drank before, from my knowlege, and I've always been able to trust him. I've never had a teenager before... What should I do to confront my 17 year old son about what happened on his prom night, or should I at all? I dont want to make him feel like I don't trust him...

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Barb - posted on 05/05/2010

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My oldest son is 19 and I believe he has a drinking problem. I never thought that he would be that way because he always hated it when I would have a drink or go out with friends. At the age of 14 he would still all the booze in the house and say he did it because he didn't want us to drink. So we stopped bringing it into the house. Now at 19 he drinks almost everyday! I wish that I would have talked to him more about it and shared more of my experiences with booze with him. Maybe things may have been different. I wish I didn't just pretend that it wasn't anything to worry about!!

Lori - posted on 05/03/2010

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I wouldn't push the issue,it might be the first time and maybe he won't do it again,, till u have prove that he has been drinking more than that time i wouldn't worrie to much, just have a chat with him about drinking and drugs let him know all what they do to u,keep talkinf even if he doesn't want to hear it..

Lynda - posted on 05/03/2010

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kids will be kids, or young adults will be more like adults just experimenting, if it was only a little than be thankful, and maybe it was enough to turn him off. its hard to know how to parent an experimental time if your too hard on him you may loose the connection you have with him, talk to him about his night and comment that next time he drins try not to drink as much. call his bluff that you know , he may think twice about doing things cause he knows you will find out wot he did!

Debra - posted on 05/02/2010

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Ask hime tell him how important it is that you know if he was dranking. He got the beer somewhere and by someone. I am not telling you this to be mean. He just has to understand that what he did was really wrong.

Gina - posted on 05/01/2010

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I say ask him and if he is does not want to tell you THEN its time to Give him the SMack down .....na just kidding you maybe should have told him before he went out for the Prom to make you a PROMISE no matter what happens that NIGHT ...ask him to PRomise you that he will not get in the car with a drunk driver Give him TAXI money or tell him no matter how smashed he is you will pick him up from where ever he is no matter what time of day or night it is .... o yea dont forget to mention that you can pick him up a block or two away from the party so he does not feel embarresed in front of his friends. Thats my advice Hope this helps

ALLISON - posted on 05/01/2010

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HONESTLY I THINK MOST OF US DRANK WHEN WE WERE 17. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO IS BE HONEST AND DIRECT WITH HIM LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU PREFER THAT HE DOESNT DRINK, THOUGH YOU CANT BE WITH HIM 24/7 RESPONSIBILITY IS A MUST...

Angie - posted on 05/01/2010

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Bless your heart - my son's prom is tonight and I have the same concerns. All you can do is ask him. If he wakes up feeling bad, it's a great "teaching moment". Make this a hangover he won't forget - he can clean trash cans, pick up after the family pets, clean carpets - anything you can think of that's gross and loud!

Zatonda - posted on 05/01/2010

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just ask him, he will be 18 pretty soon and although that is not the legal drinking age, unless he stays with you, you will be very limited to what he does. I have a son that turned 18, I know he has tried it.. I myself drank before 18, it does not make it right, but I am not surprised at a 17yr old drinking. If it become a on going concern you may want to seek help for him. My son prom is coming up in a couple of weeks, all I can do is warn him of the risk. I would be a fool to think some kids would not try to sneak in drinks. Anyone that's been in high school understands that. My son will be off to college soon and the most I can do is educate him and allow him to talk to people that fell off the path because of making drinking a habit. If you must know just ask, I would say in most cases if you caught him most likely it was not his first time. If I was you I would be glad he returned home, some don't, they stay out all night. I wouldn't be to hard on him, but just make it clear you will not accept that behavior in your home, my main concern was he driving? That is a no! no! you must ask that.

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