My 18 yr old Senior wants to move out, she wants to call on her shots

Janelle - posted on 03/24/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Basically our Katy wants to come and go as she pleases, she works P/T, does fairly well is school, and has active social lofe, including a boyfriend. She is my night owl. I ask her to go to bed at 11pm, she disregards what I say, then she wants to sleep in and miss either part or the whole day at school. When she is home she sits in front of the tv, so I blocked all the MTV/VH1 crap. Today I told her this wasn't going to happen and she threw her, 'Im 18' in my face. I told her to get her butt upstsirs snd clean her room, so she did. Katy came down stairs with a duffle bag packed as she walked out the door she said she would be gone until Thursday., she was staying at her friends. We tried to tell her to stop, she wouldnt listen.

It's her senior year and so much is happening: term papers & projects due, prom, parties, and she just doesnt get it.

This has been my perfect kid who has never been in trouble or given me any greif. Now because she is 18 she is feeling her oats a bit. Her 16 yr old sister reports that Katy said she would be back to get the rest of her stuff on Thursday.

I am a wreck, I want my girl back.

Does every mom go thru this?

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Adriansthe1 - posted on 10/18/2013

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Mine did the same she stayed out partying all night so I grounded her and she packed her stuff and moved to her friends house I will not allow her to move back home its called tough love

Alisha - posted on 03/25/2009

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I agree with Joy and Shelly...once she runs out of money for gas and groceries and places to stay then she will be back. and then I would let her know to live in my house that she would have to obey the rules and I would sit down with her and write them out in contract for and include in the contract if any rules are broken then you have the right to evict her. This is her time to prove to you that she can be an adult so let her prove it but dont be wishy washy about it. stand up for what you believe in. In the end it will all work out for the best no matter what happens.

Lynn - posted on 03/25/2009

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LET HER GO....CAN SHE COME N GET MINE...THE HAVE TO EXPERIENCE REALITY TO NO THAT SHE DOESNT MSKE ENOUGH MONEY 2 LIVE ON HER OWN  JUST BE THERE 4 HER AND  ENCOURAGE HER TO DO WHAT  SHE NEEDS TO DO IN HER LIFE

Joy - posted on 03/24/2009

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i am in agreeance with shelly,



if this is what she thinks she wants, then back her bags, and let her go, she will be back,at the age of 18 they think that they are adults and that we as parents can not tell them what to do, for this is most country's is legal age,



and if this seems a bit hard, then you can also let her be independant, come and go as see please's BUT treat her as a tenant, pay rent, do her own washing, ironing, paying for power, gas, water, phone, internet,buying and cooking ,even if twice a week for the family  etc, exactly  as she would if not living at home, for it is so easy for kids these days to live  at home and life is so easy, so to be kput in the real world is a real eye opener,



 



 

Shelly - posted on 03/24/2009

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Janelle,



  Oh yea I went through it with my now 22 year old and what I did was had all his stuffpacked for him when he got back and sitting on the front step...with a note saying when you decide to act like the adult we raised you to be then give us a call!!!  Boy it only took about three days for his friends to get tired ofsuporting him and he called well three days later he signed up for the Navy so just pack her stuff and let her know when she wants to be the child that you raised then you can talk!!!

Marianna - posted on 03/24/2009

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I am not sure all parents go through what you are, but I can assure you that you are not alone.I am going through something very similar except my daughter is  only 15. She has been running away since she was 13 on and off because she felt she was old enough to do as she pleases. Including skipping classes and entire days at school. I have no answers fro you but ultimately I think letting her make her own mistakes will allow her to learn from them and make better decisions for herself. I have started to let my daughter face the consequences of her actions on her own and for the last few months she has been better both in school and at home. I guess you can say I let her hit a "brick wall" and pick herself up. Your daughter will be fine and it will all get better. Just believe in her and the way you raised her, she will make the right choices. I wish you the best and hope all works out well. Sorry, I do not have an answer for you, but I don't think there really is one.



My 18 yr old Senior wants to move out, she wants to call on her shots

Basically our Katy wants to come and go as she pleases, she works P/T, does fairly well is school, and has active social lofe, including a boyfriend. She is my night owl. I ask her to go to bed at 11pm, she disregards what I say, then she wants to sleep in and miss either part or the whole day at school. When she is home she sits in front of the tv, so I blocked all the MTV/VH1 crap. Today I told her this wasn't going to happen and she threw her, 'Im 18' in my face. I told her to get her butt upstsirs snd clean her room, so she did. Katy came down stairs with a duffle bag packed as she walked out the door she said she would be gone until Thursday., she was staying at her friends. We tried to tell her to stop, she wouldnt listen.

It's her senior year and so much is happening: term papers & projects due, prom, parties, and she just doesnt get it.

This has been my perfect kid who has never been in trouble or given me any greif. Now because she is 18 she is feeling her oats a bit. Her 16 yr old sister reports that Katy said she would be back to get the rest of her stuff on Thursday.

I am a wreck, I want my girl back.

Does every mom go thru this?


 

Marianna - posted on 03/24/2009

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Quoting Janelle:

My 18 yr old Senior wants to move out, she wants to call on her shots

Basically our Katy wants to come and go as she pleases, she works P/T, does fairly well is school, and has active social lofe, including a boyfriend. She is my night owl. I ask her to go to bed at 11pm, she disregards what I say, then she wants to sleep in and miss either part or the whole day at school. When she is home she sits in front of the tv, so I blocked all the MTV/VH1 crap. Today I told her this wasn't going to happen and she threw her, 'Im 18' in my face. I told her to get her butt upstsirs snd clean her room, so she did. Katy came down stairs with a duffle bag packed as she walked out the door she said she would be gone until Thursday., she was staying at her friends. We tried to tell her to stop, she wouldnt listen.

It's her senior year and so much is happening: term papers & projects due, prom, parties, and she just doesnt get it.

This has been my perfect kid who has never been in trouble or given me any greif. Now because she is 18 she is feeling her oats a bit. Her 16 yr old sister reports that Katy said she would be back to get the rest of her stuff on Thursday.

I am a wreck, I want my girl back.

Does every mom go thru this?


 

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