Emma - posted on 06/02/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
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I was 18 when i had my first child, so i dont want her to make the same mistake but she seems adament that this is what she wants. What should i do to change her mind? She has always had a plan to start a career first and then start a family so i dont know why the sudden change.
Any suggestion please?
Thanks
Em
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Kristin - posted on 06/04/2012
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I was 16 when i had my first child and its a long hard road. Have you asked her why she wants a baby so bad? What does her boyfriend want? If he really loved her then he would want her to get a career and would wait to have a baby until they are married. Everyone thinks babiesd are so cute and great and forget that babies grow and are a lifelong commitment not just a novelty. Take her to some places that have young moms and let her talk to them to see if a baby id really what she wants in her life right now. Set a budget out for her to see if it is even viable for them to afford a baby, factor in diaper costs, formula costs, clothing, college, toys, etc, etc. with kids the lists never end of the things they need and want lol. Also havimng a baby at 18 with a man they are not married to more often than not leads to becoming a single parent and ask her if she is prepared to raise a child by herself (not saying she will but you never know what will happen). Give her a crash reality check and if she still wants a baby then there is not much you can do other to be supportive. I wish you luck
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