Pennie - posted on 05/26/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )
First let me say that I never realized this posting was an option or that I cold get support until I was linked by my sister. I hope that you will take the time to read this and give all opinions/advice. My daughter has had trouble since she was 8 when her father stopped visiting her. She has been in group homes and therapeutic foster homes in the past. None of these places seemed to help her or me for that matter. I feel like it allowed her to hate me more. My daughter just turned 19 this month. I bought her a car to help her find herself a job. She had 2 at first then quit one as there was a scheduling conflict. The one job is only part time though. The following is since I bought the car only, as there is so much more history I would take up at least 25 pages. She is still living with me. She hit another car (which was parked) and drove away. Lied to me about it, told me she'd hit a mailbox. The truth came out later that night when a trooper showed up at my door. She did talk to him and got ticketed. She is driving on a permit and I have tried to get her to get her license but now that the car is wrecked she can't do the test in her car. She had a flat and drove on it until it turned to shreds and ruined the rim. She busted the window out of her bedroom because she was mad at her boyfriend. The other day she was stuck in the mud at her boyfriends house and had to have someone tow her out. When they did they damaged the car to where you can't open the driver door. She got it out then was stopped at a road block and was ticketed for driving without a license as she was alone. I went to get her and drive her car back home. She never once said thank you..only.. "Why did it take you so long to get here?" This after she had cussed me when we last spoke. She is very verbally abusive to me and a few weeks ago spit on me. I know what you are thinking..kick her out! This too is what I am thinking..it's past time for her to get her life started. May 1st I told her that she had until 7.1.12 to find a place (even through all the abuse). It seems that time limit has made her even madder even ruder. I have forbidden her boyfriend from coming on the property as he too is abusive and not only to her but to me as well (verbally) and the police have been involved too many times. I told her the other night that if she wants to be with him then she can not live here as there has been too many fights and I don't deserve the stress. This weekend she posted on her fb that she was going out of town with him, in a car that is still torn up with a spare on it, sighs..she took bread, meat, flashlight and who knows what else without asking. I found a letter ripped to shreds in her room from a dept. store stating that last month she willfully stole property from them..even more of a sigh..she has spent time in jail..just last year for stealing. Enough is enough, right? Why can't I pull myself up enough to tell her to leave?? Please help! I do love her very much obviously and she is a smart, funny and beautiful girl..when she wants to be.