My Children 11 and 13 want to go live with their father, what to do?

L - posted on 08/22/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My Children 11 and 13 want to go live with their father, what to do? This started last Sept or before that when my Ex and his new wife started taking the kids to a counselor with out my knowledge, then allegations of abuse by my current husband came out through the counselor. So the children where placed with their dad for a little over a month, until the court hearing. After the hearing the kids where allowed to come back to live with me however their step father was not allowed to be around them, due to my son making threats against him. There where no charges of abuse or anything else brought against my husband just the allegations and lies. I know these are lies because both children stated that I watched my husband beat them, which is crazy. I would give them my life. So here we are almost a year later and when the children are home my husband cannot be so he is living with friends on and off. Even with him out of the picture but still providing for both of them, they still want to go live with their father and step mother and make my life a nightmare during my parenting time which is every other week. We are doing the counseling route the kids refuse to have counseling with my husband even though he did nothing wrong. I have been stuck in a holding pattern for a year! The counseling is not helping my oldest is still mad at the world and the youngest is following along. My ex has promised them everything from a trip to disney to a freaking horse farm, give them whatever they want, no rules or supervision at his house and they love it. I have fought this with everything I have just not sure what else to do except let them go with hopes that on day they will realize the lies. The next court hearing is not until December. I am just lost, at least I can say I did my best! But not sure how to proceed from here, do I continue or let them go??

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Lisa - posted on 08/22/2012

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I too went through my daughter wanting to live with her dad. My 2 children were mad I had another husband and they wanted their dad. They tried hating him at first. They blamed me for the divorce. I let my daughter go for a summer and go to summer school there. Before I knew it she begged to come back. It has been over 6 years now. They love their step dad. It's hard to let your children go but they know now what their dad is really about after both of them living there. My oldest lived with him when he was about 18-19. He now knows him for who he is. A dad can't keep bribing them... Reality will shine through eventually. I sure would be sitting them down for a reality talk on what really happened and tell them how lying about their stepdad has caused both of you stress and what you have given up for the to stay with you even though it was false pretences.

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