L - posted on 08/22/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My Children 11 and 13 want to go live with their father, what to do? This started last Sept or before that when my Ex and his new wife started taking the kids to a counselor with out my knowledge, then allegations of abuse by my current husband came out through the counselor. So the children where placed with their dad for a little over a month, until the court hearing. After the hearing the kids where allowed to come back to live with me however their step father was not allowed to be around them, due to my son making threats against him. There where no charges of abuse or anything else brought against my husband just the allegations and lies. I know these are lies because both children stated that I watched my husband beat them, which is crazy. I would give them my life. So here we are almost a year later and when the children are home my husband cannot be so he is living with friends on and off. Even with him out of the picture but still providing for both of them, they still want to go live with their father and step mother and make my life a nightmare during my parenting time which is every other week. We are doing the counseling route the kids refuse to have counseling with my husband even though he did nothing wrong. I have been stuck in a holding pattern for a year! The counseling is not helping my oldest is still mad at the world and the youngest is following along. My ex has promised them everything from a trip to disney to a freaking horse farm, give them whatever they want, no rules or supervision at his house and they love it. I have fought this with everything I have just not sure what else to do except let them go with hopes that on day they will realize the lies. The next court hearing is not until December. I am just lost, at least I can say I did my best! But not sure how to proceed from here, do I continue or let them go??