Hopeful - posted on 06/27/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
A lil dilemma here and it's hard to deal with, I divorced both my girls father in 2006 and have since remarried 4 yrs ago, there was a small adjustment period with them and my new husband but that soon passed over and they begin being more open and at times my 15 says she knows he love her alot..well to make a very long story short my 15 yo lies habitually even about small things, her grades and motivation for school has been awful even with alot of help from both sides of the family. I invest alot of time and energy in my children and want them to succeed, however my daughter who is currently and has been in counseling in the past for the divorce is constantly in trouble and over the past yr she has gotten her cellphone taken for inappropriate texts and cursing calling guys from out of state she met on the Internet, she has no pc privileges for creating numerous twitter and facebook accts another us telling her she can't have one for safety reasons and the straw that broke the camel back is on the last day of school her friend who moved away gave her an old cellphone she was hiding and using after being told so many times not break these rules she still does what
she wants and would rather suffer the consequences. My husband doesnt whip my kids but after taking so much and trying to work with her he became fed up saying she was going to get a whipping. She seemed out the house and went missing for a few hrs and the cops found her and brought her back home, shortly after my sister picked her up for her to be with her to give my husband and I rest because she knows what we have been going through with her, now her dad has her and he texted me saying she doesn't want to live with my husband and I anymore and wants to stay with him for the rest of her teen yrs. I allowed her to live with her dad and step mom this past nov and she only lasted 3months and wanted to come back because she says it wasn't like she thought it would be there. Now she wants to go back? I'm hurting so deep right now and can only try and think of what went wrong. Try try to have open communication with my child but she has this attitude that won't quit and she has never cursed at me or did any drug or sex that I'm aware of and (we keep close tabs). We are very attentive parents, she hasn't been home since she ran away and her dad is wanting me to sign over for perm living arrangements with the courts and keeps texting me, I'm so lost, empty and confused and my ten yo girl is seeing all this. I'm afraid I might loose out and I don't want her bouncing from one house to the next when things don't go her way.