My Rude, Disrespectful, Mouthy Teen Daughter..

Corrine - posted on 07/07/2016 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I don't have any disalusions. No holds barred here, my daughters a bitch. I don't care what others think of me calling her that, it's just the fact of the matter. She spent a year ON HER OWN DECISION in classes to gain her comfirmation and then proceed to throw down with her boyfriend for the first time behind a shed in the dirt leaving her used condoms all over for her mother to clean up. THAT'S how we found out she was sexually active. She then proceeded to tell us it was her body and she'll do with it what she pleases. I told her hey, at least be smart and charge...I know..first reaction. Didn't believe what had just come out of her mouth. BUT then she calls up her elderly grandmother and cusses her out and tells her to butt the f out and that it's none of her business what she does and that it's her life etc..then she lies and manipulates her disabled mother to do things that she was already forbidden to do. And INFORMS everyone what she IS going to do without even asking if that's allowed.. like moving to Berkley where her ADULT boyfriend (she's only 16) lives and is going to college..she was immediately told that under no uncertain terms is she doing that along with NOT going to New York alone, NOT auditioning with Nickelodeon, ( which would require her disabled mother to not only sign contracts but travel WHEREVER in the world they decided to shoot), NOT sharing a room with her ADULT boyfriend in OUR or HER MOTHER'S house.. the list goes on. So, she unleashed a cussing tirade on how she's raised herself anyways, and how it's her life and f this and f that and butt the f out and f you guys and how she's filing for emancipation under the accusation that her father sided with his wife rather then his own daughter( I can't wait to be there to see that one) and that I leave her father alone once a year to visit my own aging parents when my husband has a seizure disorder ( fyi: He spends that time with his mother for that) etc..so you see her immaturity is blinding, she knows not that she knows NOT.. sorry.. no I'm not... my daughter is in fact a BITCH. I don't have any respect for her foul mouth, her slutty clothes or her trampy, easy ways...I don't have to. I don't have to put up with abuse and I won't. period. Go ahead say what you will, i won't respond. Just calling a spade a spade. And I'm not ashamed or sorry to say it as it is.

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His - posted on 07/08/2016

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This is a very hard time but take heart, I have good news. One thing I’ve learned from raising teens, who are all grown now. Even when they are acting like they don’t care what you think and act like they hate you remember this, they don’t really mean it. It’s like a cry for help. A cry that says, “do you really care enough about me. I am not sure who I am right now but I know I want to be my own person. Right now I don’t think I want to be anything like you and can you handle that because I need you to. Can you hang onto me for dear life? My dear life? Do you really love me?” Don’t be mistaken. Your daughter needs you. You are extremely important to her. It’s not too late to have the kind of relationship that will amaze you. Here is a great article that explains things better than I can. This bears repeating; Don’t give up on her.She needs you. I wish you both the very best. Here is the link. bit.ly/29ECHYf

Dove - posted on 07/07/2016

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Children are a product of their environment. A teenager this out of control didn't happen overnight. It's really a shame that the adults in her life neglected to parent her the way she needed that she is seeking inappropriate male attention and having no respect for anyone (especially herself).

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/09/2016

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Children are a product of their environment. Children who are this disrespectful at 16, 17, 18...have not had many (or ANY) consequences for poor behaviour to this point, so by now it's "normal" for them.

Generally, mom and dad express horror when the 16 yo drops the fbomb, without realizing that they've shown that they aren't going to give consequences will PRIOR to that kid turning 16...

The only thing that she's right in about now, is that it IS her body, it IS her choice, and in that, YOU have no say. However, the trampy, slutty clothes? The trucker's vocab? Those are things that YOU had control over YEARS ago...

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Jamie - posted on 07/13/2016

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My son lied called cps and now that he must come home he threats me and says he don't want to I reported him a runaway and need help I need some kind of boys home that's safe I have five other sons at home and don't want the younger ones to pick up his bad habits

Jamie - posted on 07/13/2016

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My son lied called cps and now that he must come home he threats me and says he don't want to I reported him a runaway and need help I need some kind of boys home that's safe I have five other sons at home and don't want the younger ones to pick up his bad habits

Lisa - posted on 07/13/2016

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My teen ran away a week ago, she has pretty much always been respectful to my face except for when she is around her boyfriend that is , but now she has been very hurtful and rude on facebook and has blocked me, my problems aside I did some reading after she left and found out a alot of teens now days are narcissists:
Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
Requires excessive admiration
Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
and either they will learn to put another persons needs and feelings above their own usually when they become parents ,or tragically sometimes continue this behavior throughout life. this does not mean they were ever abused or neglected but can sometimes also stem from being spoiled, over valued over sheltered and never taught to respect and have empathy for others.and sometimes parents who have done nothing wrong have teens like this.

Maria - posted on 07/13/2016

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It is hard raising kids nowadays. There is this sense of entitlement that I have never seen before. I don't have any solutions except to say this she will be 18 soon. She will be an adult with adult responsibilities. No one has to tolerate her mouth, her attitude or her behavior. It doesn't matter if your are the step mom or biological mom it is difficult to raise kids due to our society. At every turn they are taught to disrespect their parents, make nasty comments, talk back, and then want everything without gratitude.

I have an 11 year old and she has started with the attitude. And I have made it clear I aint tolerating it. I don't have to. So I am the bad guy because I say no and place boundaries on her. But again I am not her friend. It is a challenge because she has a strong will but mine is stronger.

Sofia - posted on 07/13/2016

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Wow! You sound like a B. Shame on you. What decent adult talks like is...no wonder she hates it there. I would too. You're not her real mother are you? Evil step mother. Instead of guiding her and helping her---you of course are ready to attack. It's women like you who give step mom's a bad name. Let her go, her life will be better without you in it. Not too many biomoms would call their daughters all those nasty words. You are a monster....creating a monster. Open your eyes and worry about fixing yourself. Not her.

Maria - posted on 07/12/2016

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Kick her ass out. Emancipate her. Then she will learn that the real world is not going to tolerate it. No one has to.

Cdic934155 - posted on 07/09/2016

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God I'm praying that everything you said is true. This gives me hope. Thank you.

Cdic934155 - posted on 07/09/2016

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I know exactly how you feel. I have a 16 year old son who will be 17 in a few days. I've spent all my savings paying his lawyer to keep him out of jail because he stole my checks and he and his friends spent it. He talks to me like I'm less than human. I love him with all my heart but sometimes I almost hate him. I would die if anything happened to him and every night I worry until he finally comes home. I just want some peace of mind just one day that's all. So no I don't judge you for calling a spade a spade, our children are gonna give us heart attacks and they will still be here telling us to kiss their backsides.

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