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My son is going to be 16 this yr. and has no direction..don't get me wrong he is a good kid he gets good grades and playes sports. but when you ask him about what he is interested in being when he grows up I get nothing..

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Donna - posted on 04/18/2012

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Thanks Ramona! I just need to relax and try not to speed up things....Plus he is a boy and ive been told boys take a little more time to mature than girls.....Thx again!

Ramona - posted on 04/18/2012

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He is only 16! As long as he plans beyond high school, like a job, college, etc... etc, he is fine!!

Patricia - posted on 04/18/2012

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Donna - I think we all worry about our children's futures because we want what's best for them and we want to see them happy and successful and we don't want to see them make the same mistakes we made. I have to keep telling myself that 1) I made it out of my teenage years okay despite all the mistakes I've made (and I've made some pretty big mistakes), 2) happiness means different things to different people 3) just because my daughter will not be a dr or lawyer doesn't mean she's not successful, and 4) I can't live vicariously through my daughter but I can support her in her decisions.
I love this site just for the fact that we find others that are going through the same things we are or we get honest opinions from the "outside looking in" perspective.

Donna - posted on 04/18/2012

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Thank you Patricia i needed to hear that..I guess because I did not have no real direction in life I have been trying to give him direction...But you are right!!! I know everything is going to be fine. What you said is the most honest thing I have heard in a long time....Thanks again

Patricia - posted on 04/18/2012

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That is not unusual - in fact I think it's very common and there are only very few kids at 16 that know what they want to do when they grow up. Most teenagers don't know what they want to be when they grow up. I know many people who don't know what they want to do with their life until well into their college years. He needs to experience different areas of life first to be able to determine what he's good at and what he enjoys. If he's getting good grades and is involved in sports - let it be. He'll figure it out when he's ready.

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