My son is joining the Army

Julie - posted on 01/26/2010 ( 70 moms have responded )

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When my oldest son Timothy decided what to do when he graduates this year I did not expect he would ever say "I am joing the Army" I was shocked. Then I cried for days. I am proud of him for finally deciding what to do with his life but I am so scared for him at the same time. Not to mention that he will be far away from home. I never wanted my children to ever move away. I will worry so much for him and miss him. I just can't stand the thought of him going away. I have put his life in Gods hands and pray he will watch over him for me but it still doesn't help the emptinesss I will have when he is no longer here at home with me. Is this normal? Is this the feeling of letting go of your children? Gosh it just hurts to the soul!

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Lisa - posted on 03/13/2013

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Joanie,

A few tips to making it through the initial BCT phase - send a prepaid phone card, $150 cash with him, so he will be able to make phone calls while in Reception. Also, while in BCT, they can make phone calls if they earn them. Once you have his mailing address, with EVERY letter you send, include a self-addressed stamped envelope with paper inside - this way, he can quickly and easily send you a letter back. They have very limited time to call and write, and this step saves them a few minutes that could be used calling home, or telling you their news! Find out if his unit has a facebook page! Lots of updates are posted during BCT and AIT and they are such a relief to see - some of the pictures will make you laugh, and others will make you cry, but they will ALL keep you in the loop!

Connect with other parents going through this! He will tell you who his battle buddies are, see if you can connect with them on facebook....join "Blue Star Moms" or another organization to stay in contact with people who share your "Army Strong" life!

Most of all, know that our military does a very good job looking after our children, and that God has a plan for each of them...keep your son, and yourself and your family...in daily prayers.

I will be thinking and praying for you!

Lisa

Johnetta - posted on 07/26/2013

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Not that I wasn't proud of him but because I wasn't ready to have my baby leave for the army yet I knew it was coming because that's always been his dream, I cried pretty much all that day I couldn't figure out what I was going to do with him leaving I did the only thing I could I started praying to God to heal my already breaking heart I prayed he would help me through this I prayed hard and I still do I know it will be OK I asked my son are you sure this is the only thing for you he said mama I want to I need to do this, and I turned him over to God!!! Its hard

Debbie - posted on 07/12/2013

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SUCKS BIG TIME!! My son leaves in 18 days for Fort Benning I am like you very proud of him just wished he would of picked a different job he wanted infantry so now I pray he GOD helps him train good and watch over him. I am trying to come up with encouraging words for you, but all I am doing is sitting here crying just thinking about it. I really am glad I found this site it helps to hear other mothers feel the way I do and I am not alone.so if it helps you any know that our sons our doing something very honorable and GOD is watching over them.

Lisa - posted on 01/28/2013

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Barbara -

Thank you for your kind words, and for your prayers. The timing was perfect. I just said goodbye to my son this morning - he will be reporting to MEPS this morning and then on to BCT. I discovered today that it is not fear that makes me cry this morning, but pride....and the realization that my "baby" is not a little boy - but a young man. And next time I see him, he will be not just a man, but an American Soldier.

And, you were exactly spot on about my son being in a place, an environment where there is danger (even while training, etc.) and where he will face many challenges, and for the first time, my son is facing something that he has to do alone. I can't fix it, I can't help him, I can't make it easier - and that is a mothers job. But my job also was to raise him to be strong, faithful, God-fearing, and to do the right thing. I pray now that I have done so.

Thank you again for your thoughts and prayers. I will add your daughter and your family to our prayer list. Seek always God's will for your daughter and your family....and what He wishes for you will be revealed, and even if you don't know it now, He will give you the strength to make decisions.

However, as a parent, I recommend, if you have a child talking about entering the service, do not rail against it - they become adults and can join with or without your consent - and it is far better for them to go with your love and support, than to go without it and be distracted by worries of home when they should be focused on what they need to learn, know and do.

I made a "deal" with my son - wait one year after graduation - get a job, take some college courses, travel, etc. - and if you still want to enlist, the military will still be there.

My son got a job, went to college, went out west for vacation, even went to Ukraine on a missions trip. His resolve never wavered. As his decision was made, I took the supportive role, and spoke with the recruiters myself, read the literature, discussed with him his options for his MOS, etc. but let him make the decisions he needed to make - but most importantly, we TALKED about what it meant for him - we discussed every aspect of military life and service (my grandfathers, my father and my husband were all in the military - and are/were all combat vets). And we prayed together....a lot....

He left this morning knowing that even though I had fears (and so does he) that I love him, respect him, and will ALWAYS be here for him. That I am proud of him, that I pray for him...

Keep strong in Christ, Barbara, and He will show you His plan for your daughter and your family!

Jennifer - posted on 07/02/2013

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My daughter is leaving today for the Army and is going to Ft.Jackson form the MEPS at Ft.Mead. She called me last night and told us that we can see her off today at noon. It felt so good to her her chipper voice and her excitement. I also have a pain in my heart that hurts so bad, I cant describe it. I am also an Army wife and am far away from our family and friends. My best friend keeps in close contact with me and is supportive. It calms my sadness every time she calls, when I have those moments that don't seem to go away of sadness. I am so proud of my daughter and her morals and values. I was a single mom for 10 years and gave her my everything. Today I realize that she is going to give everything I taught her back to our country. I started writing down the dates when I can see her again and thought of ways to keep myself busy and it helped me calm down. I am also thinking of volunteering in our church, taking some classes, and working out to deal with this anxiety. Loving her is the best thing that ever felt in my life, missing her is the hardest thing I ever endured.

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Yadira - posted 5 days ago

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Kathy Demato, im so sorry to hear that. I've b praying for your son, and, have you find help for him?

Susan - posted on 08/08/2014

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My heart is broken ...my son who has a full ride in college dropped the bomb a few days ago that he is not going back to school and will enlist in the army as an infantry . He didn't like college classes and blew away his scholarships and grants. I am inconsolable. Why a 19 year old bright student with a full ride lost the desire of finishing school. I would support him going in the army after he finished his degree. He is an incoming sophomore, would be in two weeks. What am I going to do? I was shocked to learn he blew off his scholarships and then decided to enlist. I know he likes the military since he was in high school but we agreed that finishing college is the best route before joining the military. We are at a loss! I cried for days, have sleepless nights, engulf in fear of him being a soldier in this troubled world.

Michele - posted on 04/15/2014

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When my son was 15 he told me he was enlisting in the service when he turned 18. I begged, pleaded, yelled, screamed, cried and yes.... I even pulled the guilt trip with no luck. He turned 18 on Friday and enlisted the Monday after. He has now been gone since October 28, 2013 and I still feel such an emptiness in my heart. I was told this past week by him that he will be deploying to Kuwait in July. He says he wants to be a man I can be proud of and carry on the family tradition as he is now the 6th generation of Army soldiers in our family. I have always been proud of him, he was never an out of control kid and didn't get into trouble. I am having so much trouble with this that I can barely talk to him without wanting to cry, I wake up every morning wanting to go into his room and see his face, I know I'm depressed but I can't stop it because I want my child home. I don't like the thought of not knowing where he's at or that he could be put in danger. I do my best to keep him from knowing what I'm going through because this was his dream and I don't want to crush his dreams so I am as supportive as I can be. Please if anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated

Diane - posted on 03/01/2014

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Diane My son will be leaving for basic training fort Jackson also next monday march 10th. I am so proud and so scared for him but I know in my heart he will be okay just have to have faith. Yes I surrender him to our lord to keep him safe

Julie - posted on 01/31/2014

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my son wants to enter the army. he lost his dad my husband. Im a widow of 10. He became angry when his dad died. He a good kid but has an underlying anger in him. The thing that bothers me the most is his love for violent vidio games and movies. He never been violent. Im wondering if the army will inhance that anger are put it in the right perspective?

Kathy - posted on 01/27/2014

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My son entered basic training at Ft Jackson SC and it was a bad time when he left he lost 2 grandparents in 6 weeks the day of his grandmothers funeral the recruiter came to the funeral home to get him my son was ok for about 2 weeks at BCT then he spoke to the Chaplin and explained how he was feeling and ask to leave the Army my son explained that he did not want to be there anymore the Chaplin explained that things would get better in time but for my son things got worse over the holiday break My son explained that he did not want to return but he did reluctently the next day after he returned He wrote a letter begging us for help that he was very depressed and was going to hurt himself and NO ONE BELIEVED HIM NOT THE DRILL SGT'S OR SOCIAL WORKER My son has reached out to the Chaplin Social Worker Mental health Dr Even the Islamic Service center and NO ONE CARES ABOUT HIS MENTAL HEALTH MY SON IS NOW HURTING HIMSELF I HAVE CALLED THE RED CROSS TWICE WITHIN THE LAST 4 DAYS THEY ARE TRYING THEIR BEST TO HELP BUT THE COMMAND THERE IS PUTTING MY SON FURTHER INTO DEPRESSION AND HE SAID IF HE STAYS THERE ANY LONGER HE WILL KEEP HURTING HIMSELF UNTIL HE DIES I DO NOT WANT THIS FOR MY SON THIS SHOULD NOT BE LIKE THIS HE IS DOING EVERYTHING THERE IS TO GET HELP BUT TO NO AVAIL THE ARMY KEEPS TELLING HIM HAS TO STAY BUT ON JAN 22 2014 THEY WERE SUPPPOSE TO START HIS ENTRY LEVEL SEPERATION DISCHARGE BUT AS OF 1/26/2014 THEY DID NOT MY SON IS BEING ABUSED VERBALLY FOR WANTING OUT DEMEANED INFRONT OF HIS PLATOON BY THE COMMAND THESE NEGATIVE REPERCUSSIONS TOWARD MY SON FOR HIM BEING HONEST ABOUT HIS MENTAL STATE ARE TOTALLY UN CALLED FOR IF MY SON CONTINUES TO STAY THERE MY FEAR IS HE WILL HURT HIMSELF FURTHER OR HE WILL DIE!!! WHAT IS A MOM TO DO SOMEONE HELPPPP MEEE PLEASE!!

Mary - posted on 01/21/2014

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My grandson has just decided this is what he should do. I have raised him all his life and now I feel like I am coining to die. I need helpand do know where to find it.

Lisa - posted on 12/29/2013

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I received a "like" on one of my posts - - - and since it has been nearly a year since I last commented, I thought I would give an update...

My son is currently home - - he came home in May on con leave, and received a medical discharge - - after 6+ months of doctor visits, appointments, physical therapy, etc. he is now ready to return - - though this time he is joining the National Guard. He considered (and was cleared to) return to active duty, but had been offered the opportunity to go to Seminary..and believes that God is calling him in this direction instead.

Everything happens as God plans, though we don't always understand it at the time....

On an additional note - my daughter is being sworn in in two weeks to the US Navy Sea Cadet Corps. She is 12 this past summer, and has decided that she wants to try to go to the US Naval Academy. She has a plan, the grades, the athletics, the extracurriculars and the drive.

Interestingly enough, my son will most likely be leaving within a few weeks of her taking her oath, and I'm not quite sure how I feel about having two children in uniform...but if it is their dream, their drive, how can I, as a mother, object?

I try not to think about it too hard, because it would probably scare me to death, so instead I spend time praying, for their safety, their protection, for discernment in themselves to see God's will for them, for their faith, their commitment and for so many other things.

Thank you to everyone who has posted on this thread in the past year, who have prayed for all of our service members...our sons, our daughters, our husbands and mothers and fathers and friends who volunteer to fight the very thing that the rest of us are scared of.

May God Bless you all!

Denise - posted on 12/29/2013

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My son has joined the Army and graduates from high school this May (2014). Does anyone have suggestions on graduation gifts for him? I say a post suggesting phone cards, anything else they can use while in basic?

Kathryn - posted on 12/02/2013

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My son is leaving June 3rd I have six months as my gut aches and I am sick to my stomach. I am a single mom and my other son graduates 3 days after Joey leaves and then leaves for college in August - its a double whammy on empty nest and I am proud but a mess - can someone share how you cope - I dont have a wonderful hubby to lean on

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Darla - posted on 09/24/2013

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My daughter is on her way right now to Fort Leonard Wood. My heart aches for her, but at the same time I am believing this is God's will for her life. To keep my self busy I am going to make her a patriot quilt. I can only pray now and plead the blood of Jesus for her safety. God bless all parents that must endure this.

Belkis - posted on 08/29/2013

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My son Also left to FT Benning on July 29th, a week at reception and was able to make a few calls for like a min 2 days after he got to the Basic... he is able to write on a weekly basis and i'm getting updates of his platoon on Facebook Page called Charlie 2.19 infantry. now your child could be in a different company.It hurts so much not to have my baby around and I was so scare for him thinking he can get hurt and stuff but he has been a little soldier since he was little, very disciplines and always loved anything to do with war...dont know if thats a good thing...he wrote to me saying it was easier than he thought and that he loves the adventure! I'm a little relief now...his B-day is sept 12. We're planning on bringin a cake for him when he graduates on Nov 15! =)
Good Luck to you all!

Tina - posted on 08/20/2013

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When he first got to reception how long did it take for him to be able to call you?

Tina - posted on 08/19/2013

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My son got on the bus at 12:30 today headed for Ft Benning - I hugged him so tight he said (well kinda said )- Mamma you are choking me... I think Kyle was born a soldier - he has always been so disciplened. I know he will do great but saying goodbye and now sitting and waiting and waiting for that phone call that he got there OK is killing me. He is the last boy at home - we have 1 daughter left at home that is 13 - My oldest son went off to college and I thought that was driving me crazy but is nothing like this... But on the flip side I have never been so proud as I was today when he held up his hand and swore to protect our country....

Lisa - posted on 08/18/2013

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Hi my son graduated July 28 2013 from infantry at ft. Benning and is now at Airborne school. Thatwas until 2 weeks in his first jump from an airplane and he ends up dislocating his shoulder and tearing. The tendons . Now he is lying around on pain pills trying to recover in a separate barracks . I feel so bad for him. He starts physical therapy in two weeks. He's in aloy pain and feeling like he let us down. I'm just thankful his injuries were not worse. Many prayers going out and positive thoughts!!!

Debbie - posted on 08/05/2013

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an up date on my son Corey who left on July 30,2013. Well It was on of the hardest things that I have ever had to endure I knew for a year that he was going the exact date,yet it felt like I had just found out that he was leaving. Then at the MEPs building that day we were told we would get to eat lunch with him he had 30 minutes then he would leave on a bus to the airport. Well thats were life with the army started. We did not get the lunch he came out of the room with a lot of other boys and girls and said sorry mom I have to leave now. He had such a disappointed look on his face it broke my heart. He was able to text on his way to the airport and kept saying sorry mom it was not my fault. I was so upset. My heart ached to get to hug him and say I love you one more time before he got on that plane. So as most mothers would of done I found the flight # and airport he was leaving from and went and got a pass to the gate and got to spend 4 hours with him before he left. I have never seen my son so happy in his life this has been a calling for him since he was 10 years old. As much as it hearts me to let go I am so happy for him and proud of him ,that he gets to start his journey in life that he has wanted and dreamed of. I was wanting to know if any other person has a boy that is at fort benning in infantry that left July 30th. I would love to talk and see if you have heard anything. I still have not got a phone call and am going crazy.

Johnetta - posted on 07/26/2013

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My son leaves for basic training on September 4th 2013, the day he passed his tests he texted me and said mama I passed my test, he said I can't stop smiling I'm so happy right now! My heart sank

Debbie - posted on 07/12/2013

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I know how you feel. My son leaves July 30th for fort Benning. This is what he has wanted for as long as I could remember. I can remember him being a little boy and always wearing his halloween costume Bat Man he wear that thing out. Then soon playing army. Even though I always knew deep in my heart that was what he would do it still hurts so bad to let him go. I am so proud of him for doing such a nobble thing put yet I don't want to let go. He is my youngest and the other three boys still live right around the corner. I never had to let go of them really.So this one is killing my. Help tell me is there any easy way threw this.I need to cut the cord but my heart says no.

Mararamos - posted on 06/30/2013

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I am on the same boat every time I remember that he will be leaving I started crying.
I do not know what it is?Maybe that after all the training he could be send to the war.
I prayed to God to guide him and keep him safe.
He is also going to ft Jackson .
I have asked for the day to be off on vacation I know I am going to be a wreck.
God Bless you

Mararamos - posted on 06/27/2013

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Gosh you make me cried. My son is also joined in the army he is lv in 2 weeks to basic.
I know they have to fly but I am scared he maybe send to afghan.
I m prayed to God to keep him safe.
Good luck

Monica - posted on 06/18/2013

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My son leaves for Army basic training at Fort Jackson in less than two weeks. I am a wreck - although trying so hard to keep my tears under control. I am so overwhelmingly proud of my son for who he is and his choice to enlist. I have nothing but respect for those who choose to serve our country and am so proud of him for making this choice - this extremely unexpected choice. But he is only 17 and I simply wasn't ready to send my baby across the country into the unknown. I mean, wasn't he learning to walk and talk a month ago? Wasn't he giving me hugs so tight I had to ask him to ease up a week ago? Wasn't he waking me up to the magic of Santa Claus just yesterday? I know he will do well. I am excited for him and so proud of him, but scared to death. And the prospect of walking past his bedroom door knowing he won't be there anymore breaks my heart. Where is the magical potion that shrinks them back down? Why must they grow up? So for the next two weeks I am enjoying every second I get with him and taking all the hugs I can get. He is amazing! But this part.... this part where they leave....yeah, this part sucks!

Jennifer - posted on 05/29/2013

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My son is 16. Will soon be 17 and has been talking about joining the military for two years now. He is bouncing back and forth between Army and Marines. He's been taking JROTC at school and loves it. He wants to go into infantry. He is my baby and I am so scared of him leaving and not coming home. It is very honorable and brave for him to want to defend this country and I am so proud of him. But I am scared. I cried so hard the first time he drove by himself. I can imagine what its going to be like when he ships out. But he is studying up on it, talking to recruiters at school. Talking to his JROTC teachers and some of his other teachers are retired military. He's doing his homework and he keeps talking about making a career out of it. I will pray that God will look over him and all the other soldiers out there and keep them safe and bring them all home.

Linda - posted on 05/08/2013

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My son joined in 1993 and is Navy career, it is still so hard because I only see him once a year. I still miss him so very much and when I do see him it is hard to let him go again. Now my grandson that I adore has join the Air Force. I am heartbroken, I miss him so much and not only do I hurt because I don't see my son that often but now I don't know how often I will see my grandson. So I hurt because I can't see my son or grandson often and I hurt for my daughter that is missing her son, my grandson so much. My son has been in the Navy for 17 years and it does not get easy for me.
Missing both my son and grandson so much and praying for my daughter who is missing her baby so much.

Kayli - posted on 04/02/2013

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I am the same my daughter, Sydney, is graduating this May. She already meet with a recruiter! She leave for a post in SC I live in Arizona. I am still in the army if 18 years. It's an honorable thing to do and your son is one hell of a man! I will pray for him! I actually just delivered a baby in March and I'm going to Iraq soon my Husband is In the army to as of 22 years also he is deployed and has Been for 6 months he missed my Baby's birth so I know how you feel! Your son will be safe! Don't worry him about it that the number 1 rule dont worry our soliders when they are over there it enter fears with their duty and distracts them!

Remember always Be Army strong!!!!

Lisa - posted on 03/21/2013

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Joanie,

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family, and your son! I, too, am proud of my son for making the choice to serve...but I'm still looking forward to seeing him in June for his graduation!! ;)

Best of luck to your son, and remember - Army Mom Strong!

Lisa

Joanie - posted on 03/21/2013

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My Son (Brody) left on Monday for the Army. He went to a trade school and had a great job but wanted more for his life. I am so proud of him for deciding to comment to such A HONOR SERVING HIS COUNTRY. HIGHEST HONOR A BOY/MAN COULD DO. What better schooling too.

Of course we will miss him and he will miss us but we have to let him live his life and grow. Lots of letters and love will be sending to him. I rather to see him do and persue his dreams than to be dormit here and have a job he did not care for. Prays to all.

Proud MOM

Joanie - posted on 03/13/2013

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I am so glad I found this site. My son leaves Monday March 18, 2013 for the Army. He went away right out of high school to School in Arizona and has held a job there. Now is back and wanted something else for his life. I am so proud of him for making this sacrifice for his country.... It's nice to read others thoughts and feelings when I been feeling alone with my empty feelings. He is not only my son but friend. Keep in touch. Prayers to all!! Joanie

Barbara - posted on 02/08/2013

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clearly you mom's have done a wonderful job raising your boy's. This is the highest call, for your young men to put their lives on the line for this country and for all of us. I can only say it brings tears to my eyes, particularly after watching CNN last night (insomnia) about a young man in Afghanistan who nearly lost his life saving his fellow soldiers. He made it and I believe that your son's will fair far better now that the withdrawal is eminent. That doesn't make your fear or worry less, may even make it harder. Keep the faith, pray, remember these young men and women need every ounce of support those of us at home can provide. They will need that support when they get home, as well. I will pray for the parents and the young men and women who have put themselves in jeopardy every day. You all have my heartfelt thanks and my daily prayers to keep your loved ones safe.

CONNIE - posted on 02/08/2013

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I feel the same way, my son Cain leaves April 1st 2013 for the Army. He's going to become a Ranger. I can't believe he will be leaving my home. He's my baby and has never been away from home accept to go to camp. My oldest son RJ has spent 3 and half years in the army. He was in Infantry and spent one year in afghanistan on the front line. That was the longest year of my life. He's been out of the Army and home now for a year, and now here i go again. I am very proud of both my boys but am saddened to see my baby boy go. Please everyone say a prayer for him as he will be gone for 4 years

Barbara - posted on 01/28/2013

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Hi Lisa,
I'm glad that anything I had to say might have been some small help. My daughter knows that I will support her in what ever decision she makes - it is her life to live as God directs her. My one request was that she wait until after college, take the requisite classes (she wants to be a JAG lawyer and felt Navy would help her get additional funds for law school as well as serving her country in the process). I want her to experience a little bit of life BEFORE she is willing to put that life on the line. If she is still committed to this in 6 or 7 years, she will have my total support and any help I can provide to secure it. We are all in His hands, and He always knows what is best for us. After many years of struggle as a single parent of only one child, my faith and trust MUST be in Him, for He has brought us through many a trial, and we are both stronger for it. Thank you for your prayers, your strength and your belief and faith in Christ our savior and in your dear son!
Barbara

Barbara - posted on 01/28/2013

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Lisa,
This is a hard time for you, knowing in some ways that your baby - no matter how old he becomes - has chose for at least a part of his life, to be in harms way for the rest of us. As a mom I can't begin to understand the anxiety you must feel, the worry and fear of what he may encounter. I will pray for your son and all of the sons and daughters, mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers and their families and children, who serve our country so selflessly and nobly in our military all around the world.
As a proud American, I salute the families and the service men and women who sacrifice their days and portions of their lives to try to make our world a safer place. I am proud of our military and their families, they are our strength, our hope and, in some respects, our future. I pray for each of them everyday, may God keep them safe from every harm, their mothers hold them in their hearts as do we all. I was a kid during the Viet Nam era. Those soldiers, sailors, Marines, pilots, nurses, doctors came home to a country that despised them for what they were called to do, many of whom had no choice because of the draft system in place at the time. We Americans let them down, did not acknowledge their sacrifice, their pain or some of the wounds they suffered. I'm grateful this isn't the case today. May God comfort you in your time of separation, may He bring your son back to you, whole and healthy and may our world be a safer place because he and thousands of others like him have served. You can keep in touch with him via email and cell phone, I know it isn't the same, it's the knowledge that he could be in harms way and not where you can protect him and keep him safe. I am proud of your son, proud of you and grateful for your willingness to let him go. You are as courageous as your son, for I'm not sure I could do this. My daughter has expressed (she's 15 now) a desire to join the Navy after she graduates from college. I'm praying that she will change her mind, that neither of us will have to cross that path, your courage and strength are an example to me and many other mothers who have faced or will face this sacrifice. God Bless your family and may He protect all of the sons and daughters of our armed forces.

Lisa - posted on 01/27/2013

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My son will be leaving first thing in the morning...I can't believe how fast the last month has gone, and that it is already time to send him on his way. I have changed between enjoying his company and wanting to send him off into the world, and being choked up and wanting him to stay my little boy forever.

I will be praying for my son, and all of those he serves with, every day. I will also be praying for their families, and the young men and women and their parents who are struggling to make this decision, and for those who have, for the strength to go through it.

God Bless.

Linda - posted on 01/25/2013

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IT IS so hard to let go of your children. I raised mine as a single mother of three! My 18 yr old son wanted to join the Armed Forces here in Canada right after high school, but he can't until he recovers from hernia surgery next week and has to wait another two months to recover. He is my youngest and is very protective of me. My other son, is another story. I love him so much but feel so let down and discouraged..he went to college and took November and December off and can no longer receive Government Assistance to get him by...he has two more months of rent, little food and thats it. I am trying sooo hard to give my son's back to the Lord and to trust Him but I am in such pain from worrying about the one who quit college (he cannot come back home he is 20 yrs old, and is disrespectful, drinks and smokes up and has to find a job) and my 18 yr old joining the Army which I think is the smartest thing he wants to do. I feel your fear and pain Julie...I don't like my kid's to be far from home but we have no choice. We really does hurt the soul so deep that I cry...I cry for the one who quit college because I feel like I failed him..and I cry for the one who wants to improve himself, serve his country and make a man out of himself. Its hard to put them in God's hands..but if we keep taking 'them back' than maybe just maybe we're getting in God's way for Him to move...thinking of you...Linda from Canada

JULES WESTERN - posted on 11/02/2012

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A Big thanks you to everyone to who responded to my blog,, it is certainly appreicated and just to let all you moms into something special in what I am doing this Sunday for my son without him know I have organised a big suprise going away party for him and all the people who have been such a wonderful help over the last 24 years as I mentioned I have been by myself for 20 with just the three of us, I made the decision now to allow anyone else into our lives as I felt this was the right thing to do., so I have his junior cadet mates which he is great friends with still since he was 12 then he went to army reserves at 18 where he met another lot of people who helped him and now of course he is going full time, I have some of his old teachers, boss to taught him his trade coming, a very cross section of people from all walk of life coming I want his going away not to to be one of my sorrow but I want him to be able to relfect back and always remember this day as I know I will so, so girls I am holding back the tears for after he leaves and yes I am very proud of my son and I am of all the moms and boys and girls who join much love and light to you all julie ps will keep you all posted

Lisa - posted on 11/01/2012

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My 19 year old son has always wanted to be in the military, and, when he was 18 years old, he also felt called to become a priest (we are Orthodox Christian). I, too, was terrified! I spent many hours on my knees begging God that if this was His plan for my son, that it be handled in a way that my son knew what he was signing up for, and that God give me the strength to not only get through it, but also to get through it in such a way that I could still be there to support my son during the process.



My son decided to wait a year, to make sure what he was planning was where he was really called to go. He worked for a year, explored educational options (Seminary) and went to Ukraine for a month on a missions trip. He returned home and got another job and began working. Knowing in order to become a Priest, he would need to get his Bachelor's degree before he could even enter Seminary, he then looked at the costs of education - all while weighing his options.



Two weeks ago, he came to me and said, "Mom, I believe God's plan for me is to serve both Him and the US. I want to join the Army and I want to become a priest." I swallowed the lump in my throat and asked, "What do we need to do to make that happen for you?".



He is currently in the process of joining. We spoke with the recruiter regarding the Chaplains Assistant positions, he needed to score at least a 90 in the clerical portion of his ASVAB, and there needed to be a position open. He scored a 108 on the Clerical portion of his ASVAB, and the recruiter called today to let us know there is a Chaplain's Assistant position open. His paperwork is completed, and we will know in a week if all the i's were dotted and the t's crossed. Right now, if all the paperwork goes through (and the recruiter and my son and I have been working very hard on it so it goes through the first time!) his expected date will be in February. And if all goes well, he will be leaving to fulfill his calling - to serve both God and Country.



It has not been an easy process - there are so many sacrifices, as both a soldier and a priest, that he will have to make in his life - sacrifices that if it were up to me, he would never have to make. However, there is not a moment in this process when I haven't looked at my son, and felt that tell-tale prickle behind my eyelids - fear, certainly, but also in pride.



I will, for all of you who have children in the military, or considering the military - pray, unceasingly, for their safety, for God's consoling grace as we say goodbye to our children and miss them while they are gone, for strength to see this through.

JULES WESTERN - posted on 10/30/2012

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I am extremly proud of him as I know the world would not have peace if it wasn't for people like him and yes I have it all planed out to send him things and I feel our relationship will grow to a much higher level now and a sense of appreciation that we will have for each other, thanks again for your kind thoughts will keep you posted



Best Regards



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Barbara - posted on 10/30/2012

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Any mother who denies being overprotective of their child can't claim 100% motherhood. Of course you want to protect him, my God, my daughter is 15, rebelling from protective limits and I want to follow her to school EVERYDAY (not to make sure she goes, jut to make sure she gets 3 blocks away from home SAFELY in our very safe little city). My heart goes out to you and your son. Thankfully he is a grown man, which won't take the sting of his leaving any the less for you, but he has or will receive the training he needs to do the best job of protecting himself. Everyone copes differently to life's circumstances. My best guess is that your son is a very responsible young man, he knows the job market is squeezed tight right now and he wants to be productive. As much as your heart breaks, applaud this attribute that you have helped him form. My daughter keeps talking about the Navy when she is out of college. I'm hoping she'll change her mind, but if she follows through, I'll have to learn to cope with that, hard as I know it will be. Expect to miss him, expect to worry about him, pray for him and his fellow soldiers, send frequent 'care packages' from home (non-perishable), put your heart on a piece of paper and mail it to him as often as you can. He will love getting your letters and care packages and you may feel a little better trying to stay connected so far away and reminding him about how much you love him. Let him know he is missed, loved, protected via prayer and wanted home whenever his furlough time comes. In between letters, but not exclusively, send emails to his cell phone or other mobile device. Respect his decision as best you can and support him, tell him you are fearful, but also let him know how proud you are of him. This is a hard one, I admire you for sticking in there and trying to let go regardless of your fears.

JULES WESTERN - posted on 10/30/2012

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Yes, he is in and leaves on the 13th November, 2012 , he is going to be a driver thank you for your thoughts I do appreciate it, at least I have my daughter at home with me which is something I love them both so dearly being a single mom has been difficult but this I have always known this day would come but how I am going to handle this I just don't know. Yes, I will keep you posted and thanks a million for your thought and prayers and the same to you,



Western Australia - Mom

Barbara - posted on 10/30/2012

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did he join? How is he doing? keep us updated on his situation. I pray all will work well for you both.

JULES WESTERN - posted on 10/30/2012

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My son is only 24 and it is he ever wanted since 12 years of age to join the army and now he is going to the other side of australia., as a single parent for 20 years he is my one and only son

whom I love so much and will miss terribly but I know deep down this is what he is made for may god look after him and all the other boys and girls in the forces where ever they are in the world, for a mothers love will never die and our children will remain in our hearts forever. How I am going to miss him I have always known this day would come but am I prepared.... no and I never will be.

God help him and all mothers of the world unite.

Bonita - posted on 10/13/2012

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Our son decided two weeks ago that army was what he wanted. He went to Meps that week. His ship date is the 22nd of this month. I didn't think it would happen so fast!!! I haven't had time to adjust yet. I'm not sure how to feel. He will turn 21 next month and I have never missed his birthday. );

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