Carrie - posted on 07/13/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My son has had the same girlfriend for about 18 months now. She has no friends and tries to monopolize his time. The only reason she hasn't completely succeeded in this is because she lives 45 minutes away from us. In the past I've always had a very close relationship with my son. I considered myself lucky and worked very hard to maintain that relationship. Unfortunately, within months of this girl coming into the picture I began to have problems with him. I'm convinced that the girlfriend feels threatened by me and is the cause of our problems. While he and I used to spend quite a bit of time together we never do anymore - even when he isn't with her. It's to the point now where he is even refusing to go on a planned "family" vacation because my husband and I won't invite her. Her family (it's just the mother) is also a problem. She thinks that my son should be allowed to spend the night at her house, that her daughter should be allowed to spend the night at our house AND planned a vacation of her own as soon as she heard about our vacation - EXCEPT she invited my son to join them. Of course we're the bad guys and she's he greatest. (By the way, she first invited my son to spend the night when they were just six weeks into the relationship.) The mother has also said that she's planning a move (from NJ to CA) and that when my son finishes high school he's welcome to move in with them and attend college with her daughter. He will be a senior and she graduated a year ago.
I feel as though it's just a matter of time before I completely lose my son. I'm broken hearted !! Does anyone have any suggestions ??