my teen (14) son is so moody is this normal???

Ladeana - posted on 04/03/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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This kid has more mood-swings than a bi-polar COPD. Geez I can't keep up!!!!!!

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Christina - posted on 04/07/2011

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OMG, my son went through the same thing. He is so much better now. I look back and don't know how we survived it! Still talk with him. I learned I have to be the one to back down and just drop an arguement. It's just not worth it unless it is very important. I would just tell him "this is not worth fighting over, I am dropping it." I even came out and apologized for lossing my temper. Told him the way he was acting towards me was not acceptable, but that does not mean I should act the same way towards him. Open communication, it is getting through. Explanations, they are listening. Trying to keep your cool, we all loose it! Remember they are going through a tough time and they don't understand the feelings or how to control it. IT WILL PASS! Hang in there.

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Tammy - posted on 12/10/2013

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I hear ya, my son is going through something but I don't know what. He also deals with adhd, ocd, odd, anxiety and Tourette syndrome. But I wonder if there is more or if it's just hormone balance going on...he is growing so fast. I try to keep calm cause I just had a stroke in Sep but its so hard at times. And my mother son which is add and has tourttes syndrome but he ia so much calmer and a big help....

Annette - posted on 03/10/2012

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Becky, your situation sounds a little more severe than usual. I think it might be a good idea to speak to a professional. I wouldn't be surprised if something at school triggered this. The kids are reluctant to admit anything bad has happened & the schools also dont like to get a bad name by admitting there is any serious bullying going on. Be very diligent & get him some help.



Good luck sweety. xoxo

Becky - posted on 03/09/2012

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Help! My 14 year old has started get anxiety attacks and refuses to go to school, long trips or anywhere if it's a "bad day" always been a popular outgoing boy but he is crying all the time and has no explanations, school are certain it's not a school problem? My son says he hates school, everyone annoys him and he seems very sensitive to critism, me and his dad are too toeing round him don't know what to do!!!! Just heartbroken that he is so unhappy? Hormones or something more???!! P.s. only child x

Annette - posted on 04/09/2011

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it is normal.. but, if you suspect he is on drugs (which can cause mood swings and acting out) then i suggest turning the water to the toilet off and flush.. and after he pees and starts to jiggle the handle tell him you will take care of it.. after he leaves take an over the counter drug test dip it in the pee... if it comes out negitive he never has to know if it positive will you got bigger fish to fry.

Michele - posted on 04/06/2011

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My 13 and half year old walked in and read this and we discussed this, we've gathered that boys seem to have similar symptoms to very bad PMS (as far as moods go), but pretty constant for months and years, instead of once a month for a few days or a week. Though from what I can tell with my daughter, girls PMS moods happen any time throughout the month, I'm assuming until hormones settle down.
I agree with others, discuss this with your kid, and be the calming influence in the house, keep things as calm as you can. Don't act the way you wouldn't want your kid to act, and do let your kid know when they've overstepped the mark.
I'm glad to know this will pass soon just like any other phase. It's tough going at times!

Michele - posted on 04/06/2011

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My 13 and half year old walked in and read this and we discussed this, we've gathered that boys seem to have similar symptoms to very bad PMS (as far as moods go), but pretty constant for months and years, instead of once a month for a few days or a week. Though from what I can tell with my daughter, girls PMS moods happen any time throughout the month, I'm assuming until hormones settle down.
I agree with others, discuss this with your kid, and be the calming influence in the house, keep things as calm as you can. Don't act the way you wouldn't want your kid to act, and do let your kid know when they've overstepped the mark.
I'm glad to know this will pass soon just like any other phase. It's tough going at times!

Paula - posted on 04/07/2010

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lol i know exactly what you mean i have a 15 and a 17 year old that are going on 40 and 50 they have more moods then i could ever have! good luck mom

Paula - posted on 04/07/2010

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it is very normal i think they are born with this hit teenage years go into moody!lol

Heather - posted on 04/07/2010

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I also have a moody 14 year old son, i understand how you feel. I try to give him his space and let him come to me when he wants to talk and i tell him that i am always here to listen. It is a difficult age, hope this help.

Laura - posted on 04/07/2010

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I feel much better knowing that this is normal because my 14 yr old is the same way! Glad it will pass.

Deborah - posted on 04/06/2010

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My son also has these mood swings. We're taking it one day at a time. I'm told this will pass.

Stephanie - posted on 04/06/2010

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make sure he has someone to talk to, perhaps a good male that you trust. He will need a good strong role model and will probably put you to the back of his list, it will last a while you just need to be sure that he is ok and that it is just hormones.

Geraldine - posted on 04/06/2010

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This is normal all to do with hormones ive been through it with all 3 of mine...ul be fine...

Cheryl - posted on 04/05/2010

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OMG I saw this and had to comment cause my 14 year old son is the same! I never know from one minute to the next and there is never any warning. Crazy!

Jane - posted on 04/05/2010

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Normal, normal, normal :) Just keep the communications going even if you think he's not listening or getting annoyed with you. However, give him a little (I mean a little) space to be pissy because he is going through hormonal changes just like girls do...puberty for boys is just as bad. This too shall pass...I promise. My son is 16-1/2 now and he went through the mood swings too but he's past it and back to being normal :)

Shirley G - posted on 04/05/2010

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As far he does not cross the line, but is just a wonder time that will go away soon...just be there for him, just listen every wold and look at his eyes...said at the end of his moody moments..I love you..he may not like it..but he has your messge clear and on time...remenber we were there too....

Andrea - posted on 04/05/2010

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yea i agret is normal although my son has not reach that age but my daughter has and she was very moody and she still is but she is starting to come out of it. now that is is 17 i gess she is finally realizing that she has to grow up...lol

Sherry - posted on 04/04/2010

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theres so much happening to teens these days and a strong home enviroment is very helpful,they need more support now more than ever,they seem to push everyone away and that isnt the intension ,hang in there and make a dinner nite just for him so that he sees you are trying something light and cheerful,and keep the convo very open,that way the info will be more easy to come....good luck thinking of you...

Louise - posted on 04/04/2010

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I am afraid this will be the norm for at least 18 month. I have an 18 year old and a 16 year old boy who have both been through this stage. What ever you say will provoke a row for a while. It's all perfectly normal as my friends with boys of the same age have been through it to. Don't worry eventually they come through it and you get normal young men back!

Ruth - posted on 04/04/2010

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Yes it is normal .The best thing i did was asked my mum what it was like for her with me .It jogged my memory and helped be a little more patient with my son .If u are really worried though it does no harm to get ur teen checked out for bi polar according to docs it develops much later than 14 between 18 -21 .It might also highlight for your son what is behaviour looks like to you

Rhonda - posted on 04/04/2010

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This too shall come to pass. My mom had 4 of us. I am blessed with 2. And there are many good moments.

Berlinda - posted on 04/03/2010

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You will be happy to know that this is absolutely normal and unfortunately it will last a little while longer... good luck!

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