my teen is 16 and wont stop running away!

Wendy - posted on 04/15/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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all she wants is to be with her b/f and is very tunnel visioned...HELP!!

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Samantha - posted on 05/08/2009

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I was about 14 and used to run away all the time for no specific reason other than i was a horror child, even to the point that i actually told the police that my father hits me all the time (my dad never laid a hand on any of us) the very last time that i did it the police caught me AGAIN rang my parents to pick me up and they said no we cant control her anymore send her to the Juvenile justice, if she comes home she just going to run away again.. WELL that scared the living pants off me my parents were giving up on me (or so i thought) and i never run away again.. Was still a lil brat for awhile but at least i was a brat at home

Denise - posted on 04/16/2009

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HI wendy
my name is Dee and my daughter is 17 now almost 18 but at 15 she ran away all the time. it was very difficult cause all she wanted to do was be with a boy we did not approve of. it came down to the hardest thing we had to do and that was tough love. we had to finally call the police. We had called several times and finally they handcuffed her and brought her home but then put her on a program where she had to visit Juvenille for a day and go through the intake process and talk to the inmates. At 16 it continued but she started cutting. We then had to put her away. We used every rescource we had in the community to help us. After awhile we stopped looking and she quit running. it was a way to get attention. She is the only child home so we are not sure why this was happeneing. Tough love was the hardest thing for us. We actually locked the doors and put her stuff outside. She still has an attitude but things are much better and the lines of commmunication are more open. Good luck to you and your family

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Shawn - posted on 05/06/2009

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I just went through this with my daughter last month. She ran away to be with her boyfriend and was gone for a month. This was not the first time that she had run away and the last time I had no choice but to get the police involved. That was the hardest thing that I ever had to do in my life! It was the most unbearable thing I ever went through when she was finally picked up and I had to walk into the courtroom and see my child brought into the courtroom in shackles! I was almost speechless. The judge put her on house arrest for a month, 4 month probation and put a restraining order against her boyfriend which meant no text, calls, emails or meetings. During the last month things have been really strained but atleast my daughter is home!!! She will be off house arrest tomorrow and I hope this whole ordeal has taught her a lesson because while she was gone my worst fear came true! As of today she is 8 weeks pregnant and has to think about a baby now not just herself. She will have to make a choice if she wants a healthy baby she will have to do what she needs to do by growing up and doing right by this baby because the baby is not at fault here. I pray that you do not have to take the drastic measures I had to but it was my last option. Get some help for her now before she ends up in a situation that will become dangerous for her. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Denise - posted on 04/25/2009

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when you fight with her about her boyfriend it makes them want them more. act like you just love them an want him around an she will most likely not want him anymore. if she keeps running away lock her up. at least you will know she safe an where she is. i tell my girls { i would rather you hate me than to barry you}

Celeste - posted on 04/16/2009

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That is hard. I'm sure there are many factors involved in this situation.
I was once a youngster who ran away. I did it to get away from my folks, not to be with a BF.
Without knowing details I would suggest to sit down with her and find a compromise. She has to stay living with you but, she can have certain days with her BF, even if it is daily, only during certain hours. That way he isnt excluded (which is the fastest way to drive a teen away) and your family is home with you.
Good Luck

Monique - posted on 04/15/2009

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I'm 16 and when i use to run away it was because i wanted to get away from everything. Now im a mother to a beautiful daughter . Id advice to be straight up with her tell her you dont want her leaving and if she does that you will take things away and if you dont want her being with her boyfriend all the time tell her that. it starts with converstaion. just thought id tell you since ive been in the same situation. tell her theres lots of fish in the sea and that she can do anything , boyfriends come and go. trust me i should know. - monique

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