my teenage daughter after 4 years will still not dispose of used sanitary pads, Anyone have suggestions?

Dana - posted on 01/24/2013

Teens are teens and their ways of thinking may stump us parents as parents. I bet the whole situation is just gross for you but thanks for sharing. I've had issues with hygiene and my daughter. The same here taking things, yelling and punishing. I think you are going to have to go into the washroom with her and make sure every time it gets done properly. I say this because nothing else has worked.Whats worse having your house smell and being grossed out by finding them all over her room. I mean you have done everything already.

Shea - posted on 01/09/2013

my teen daughter does the same thing!!! I have tried everything as well. I have said it in front of friends, etc. She doesn't care! I do not wash her clothes but sometimes get clothes out of the dryer and their is a clean pad. I tell her all the time, we are not that poor we can afford new pads. I find them shoved everywhere. I don't understand how she can take the time to hide them but yet can't take the time to wrap them?????? ugh!!! Now, everytime I see a used pad unwrapped, I take her phone. That of course is her life and it doesn't phase her. She doesn't care. She is getting where she has a serious boyfriend, etc. I would think she would care but she doesn't.

Shawnn - posted on 06/18/2012

Well, you've lectured, you've cried, but through it all, you continue to clean up after her, so why should she?

Instead of begging, instead of pleading, set some consequences for the girl! If she refuses to clean up after herself, she can darn well give up privileges. It's time to get tough with your kid!

Of course a child that has never been made to clean up their messes (hygienic or otherwise) doesn't think that they need to do anything! You picked the wrong battle to give in on when you gave in on her cleaning up after herself. Last I checked, MOM does not equal MAID.

Alternatively, you can let her leave her room/personal situation as a landfill, and when the dog/cat EATS all of her unders, and starts peeing/pooping in her room, and she complains, you can say "you are the one who wanted it that way". Either way, GROSS. Step up to the disciplinary plate, mom, and put your foot down.

Janmarie - posted on 06/18/2012

I have been fighting this and fighting this...she does not even roll them up or wrap them up in toilet paper...I have sat down and talked to her about the hygiene aspect..I have screamed...I have taken privileges away...I literally took a new good pad and showed her how to wrap and dispose...I have had her see a counselor...I have gotten sooo desperate after this much time...the last time I used shame and threats. I hate using guilt or shame...but I also threatened her that the next time I cycled (which she would never know since I never leave anything out) that I would throw my used ones in her room and you know I would swear to my higher power that she was not even remotely phased by that idea.
It makes her room smell like vomit. I have asked close friends and family and her doctor and none of them have ever heard of a young girl doing this. She stuffs them between the wall and her bed...in her dresser drawers...behind the bookcase you name it. I finally took away her bed, dresser, desk and shelves...she only has a mattress on the floor. I don't know what else to get through to her that it is nasty, disgusting habit that is unsanitary and just plain nasty.

Louise - posted on 06/18/2012

Sit her down and tell her straight that she is going to be dealing with this for the next 40-50 years so she better snap out of it and get on with cleaning up. I can not understand why you have left this 4 years!

I would not pick up after her any more, if she wants to be disgusting then let her live in her own filth. I am sure if she invited her mates around they would not be to pleased about sitting in her room surrounded in filth. If she is leaving them in the bathroom, move them to her room. I have never heard of a girl doing this before, most are only to pleased to get rid of them as discretely as possible, and are embarrassed.

Carol - posted on 06/17/2012

You may not like it, but I'd clean out the stash and put iy under her pillow....maybe a good whiff will cure her