Nancy - posted on 06/12/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
My ex-husband and I divorced in 2006. My children have been with my ex-husband and then with me on a weekly basis, swapping them each Sunday evening. This has worked well for the past several years. My sons, now 14 and 10 have said that with their schedules at school and with soccer that the constant swapping is stressful. They told me that they preferred living at their dad's house permanently and seeing me as often as I wanted. I really can't explain why they prefer living there, it's more fun, they need their dad as they are growing up, I'm not really sure. These were the things I was told. I agreed to let them do this temporarily during the summer to see how it went and told them that if it effected my relationship with them, effected their attitudes, school, etc, that it would go back to the way it was before, or that they would come live with me. I plan to pick them up 2-3 times a week for dinner, and will see them on weekends, I will continue to take them to practices, games, etc. I think they just want all of their daily stuff in one home.
I also worry that by letting them go live there temporarily, if it ever gets to the point that we have to go to court again, will this decision effect me keeping primary physical custody?
This all happened this week but it's tearing me a part in the mean time. I want what is best for them, but I am so hurt by their decision to do this.