Nancy - posted on 06/12/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My ex-husband and I divorced in 2006. Since then we have shared custody, swapping them each Sunday evening. This has worked well for the past several years. My sons, now 14 and 10 have said that with their schedules at school and with soccer that the constant swapping is stressful. They told me that they preferred living at their dad's house. I think they just want some consistency. I really can't explain why they prefer living there, it's more fun, they need their dad as they are growing up...I did the most unselfish thing that I could, and I agreed to let them do this temporarily during the summer to see how it went.
I remarried three years ago and my ex-husband has a girlfriend that moved in with him a few months ago. I know that my house has more rules and we tend to be more strict.
This all happened this week but it's tearing me a part in the mean time. I want what is best for them, but I am so hurt by their decision to do this. I feel hopeless and out of control. I worry that I have let them down as their mother. What should I do? I want to be strong but it is so hard.