need advice on step daughters and there bad behavior
Katie - posted on 08/13/2012
I have dealt with same thing as you Anna. My stepdaughter trusts me enough to tell me things she doesn't otherwise feel comfortable talking to her mom or dad about. I do not tell her dad everything that she talks to me about UNLESS I feel it's something that could harm her. She's 13 years old and has recently told me that she's been driving around in a 16 year old boys car. I know how reckless a new teen driver can be and immediately told her that she was putting her life at risk. Later, I told her Dad was she had told me and told him how uncomfortable i was with the situation. We told her Mother (whom she lives with a majority of the time) and told us that she was sitting in ANOTHER boys car when her Step-Dad came home from work early.
On another note, she has flat out told me that she will never call me Mom and I replied that i didn't want her to call me Mom because she was a Mom that loves her enough for the both of us. And that was perfectly fine with her.
Anna - posted on 08/02/2012
What kind of bad behavior are they exhibitibg? I'm guessing that they don't respect you. Using the excuse that you aren't they're mother so they don't need to listen to you. Am I right? Blended families are so difficult. Especially if the ex is purposely turning you against them. with my step daughter I stepped back from the mom role with her because it was too steessful btwn all of us and now act as more her friend . I do tell her I love and miss her all time . She trusts me and i would never tell her dad (my husband) or her mother some of the things we talk about. Unless I really felt she was in harm. I'd even pick her up in the middle of the night if se has gotten herself in trouble.
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