Beverly - posted on 09/20/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am having trouble getting my 16 year old daughter to show responsibility for her actions. As any teen she feels everything should revolve around her. I cant even trust her to watch her 6 year old brother two evenings a week while I am at work. I have had to bring in a babysitter to just make sure dinner gets made and they are ready for school the next day. She is, of course, all about attention and the boys. I have tried every method I know to get through to her and am now at a loss. We can talk, she will listen, the next day it is as if the conversation never happened. Total disregard of my authority and I am the only authority being a single mom who works full time. I am in need of some new methods and advice.
Last week I actually visited a friend for a few hours. My phone died while I was there. I didnt check it because at that time it just wasnt thought about. My mistake, I will be the first one to admit it. I had dinner laid out to cook, told her what was to be done until I got back. She took it upon herself to call everyone I knew and told them I just took off, I am never there, and there was no food in the house. She had people out looking for me. When I got home, my neighbor was here cooking dinner with her food she brought from her house. I was so embarrassed at the drama that took place. My daughter took one mistake of mine and totally used it to her advantage.
At this point, I am not about to give in. Events like the above example are common and this is how she gets out of responsibility. What am I to do now? I cannot give in to avoid confrontation.