New Group for Moms of Teenagers and Preschoolers

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Cheryl - posted on 03/10/2009

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Yes, 2 teens (17,13) and two preschoolers (5,3)  Sometimes it makes my head spin going from mom to teenagers to mom of preschoolers all in a matter of seconds!!

Amanda - posted on 03/10/2009

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Hi I have a 14 yr old daughter and a 2 yr old son !!! hugggggggge age gap and so draining this is a great group great idea xxx does any one else feel like there brain cant cope with switching between teenager and toddler on every level ???!!!!!

Lynn - posted on 03/07/2009

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SOMETIMES I DO PAY MY OLDER KIDS TO WATCH  THEIR YOUNGER SIBLING  AND THERE R THOSE TIMES WHEN I DONT ...I JUST TELL THEM THAT THE PAYMENT IS IN THE JOY N THE LOVE THAT THEY RECIEVE IN WATCHIN THERE SIBLING GROW...(SOUNDS GOOD HUH ...I MADE IT UP MY SELF

Robin - posted on 03/07/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

I am so happy to see this group...I was feeling like the other one who chose to start over...I have a 13 year old son, and my girls are 9 and 3. What amazes me most is that my son adores the 3 year old but fights constantly with the 9 year old...is this common? Thanks again!



Melissa,



I have a 14 year old daughter and 11 and 3 year old boys. My 14 & 11 year old fight constatntly, but they both adore the youngest one. Especially my 11 year old he has a special bond with the litlle one.  It is quite normal as far as I can tell.

Cheryl - posted on 03/07/2009

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Hey Colleen!



First, welcome to the group.  It's funny....I think we all thought we were the only ones with teens and preschoolers, yet this group is growing all the time!



I have had somewhat of the same issue.  Those my older kids don't say curse words, per se.....they do use slang curse words.  Did that make sense?!?   They say things like freakin, etc.   Words I don't really want my 3 and 5 year olds saying, particularly at school or church!!  We have to continually remind the older two to watch what they say.  This is one of my major issues too.....the little ones growing up too fast because of older influences.  Though I doubt I resolved your problem,, just know that you aren't alone!!

Colleen - posted on 03/07/2009

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This group is awesome!  I have 3 incredible boys ages 13, almost 10, and 6.  My issue is how do you deal with foul language.  My 13 year old thinks its cool to say the d and s word.  I really do not want my little one saying it.  Any ideas????

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2009

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I have a 21 year old daughter, 19 year old son and a 4 year old son. It's good to know I'm not alone. It's definitely been challenging, but also rewarding. I do use my older kids to babysit, and I pay them (sometimes). Now that the youngest is in preschool, not so much anymore. We sometime "trade" services. It teaches them responsibility as well as birth control :)

Deena - posted on 01/21/2009

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What a great group.  Thanks for this great place to share!  My kids are 16, 12 and 4mo. (God surprised us this year) We also ask our older kids to watch the baby for short times without paying them.  I am trying to be careful not to abuse this.  I always ask and give them choices, but watching the baby is part of being a family and helping each other out.  So far they are happy to help out.



Also the first two fought a lot ( I thougth they wouldn't fight because they were far enough apart lol) but are getting along better now.  I hope they will be great friends as adults.

Cheryl - posted on 01/16/2009

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They probably fight because they are closer in age.  That will get better as they get older.  My older son and daughter are 4 years apart and used to fight like crazy.  They've now become protective of each other, now that they are 17 and 13.  Hang in there.  This too shall pass!

Melissa - posted on 01/16/2009

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I am so happy to see this group...I was feeling like the other one who chose to start over...I have a 13 year old son, and my girls are 9 and 3. What amazes me most is that my son adores the 3 year old but fights constantly with the 9 year old...is this common? Thanks again!

Angie - posted on 01/15/2009

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I am so excited about this group! My two boys are 9 years apart...Chris is 12 and Noah is 3. This is great!!!!

Pam - posted on 01/10/2009

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I am new to the group. I have a13 year old step son and a 3 year old daughter. They have the same dad. We have full custody the 13 year old. He has behavorial problems and we have sent him to a counsling but he still acts out and i am affraid this is going to reflect on our 3 year old because he does the things when she is around.

Tracy - posted on 01/04/2009

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Hi, just wanted to introduce myself, I'm Tracy and I have a 16 yr old, 8 and 4 yr old. My daughter does great babysitting others but she is terrible with her brothers, anyone else have that problem? I mean everyone thinks it must be great to have a helper around but she is more a hindrence than help

Rogene - posted on 01/04/2009

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Sometimes I feel like the only one! My kids are ages 16,15,13 years and 18 months. All girls. It is great to know there are other moms in similar situations. Thanks for starting this group. I am looking forward to the conversations.

By the way, I do not pay my daughters for babysitting the youngest. I view it as teamwork and being part of a family. We treat our girls to shopping, amusement parks, dinners out etc. for helping around the house which includes babysitting. They do get an allowance but I do not pay them for babysitting. We are family and we help each other out. Just my two cents worth! :)

User - posted on 01/03/2009

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What a great group. I have a 17 year old daughter, twin boys 16, and a 5 year old son. We face many different challenges. The things I thought were so important with the older children, do not seem to be as important with the 5 year old.

Cheryl - posted on 12/29/2008

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Welcome to the group Candance, Raelene and Avril!



I'm glad you find this group helpful and am very happy that I'm finding more and more moms who share my situation! This thread is posted under the moms of teenagers group, click on the link in my original message and it will take you to the Teenagers and Preschoolers group and you can join that group there. Also, feel free to ad me as a friend on facebook! I look forward to seeing you around!!



Cheryl

Avril - posted on 12/29/2008

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Just want to say hi, and thanks for starting this group. Mine are 14, 11, 9 and 3. Nice little mixture there.

Raelene - posted on 12/29/2008

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What a great idea for a group, i have a 19 yr old son, 15 year old daughter and a 20 month old daughter lots of different challenges.

Candace - posted on 12/28/2008

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Thanks for starting this group. I am new to facebook and am thrilled to find some online support. I face huge challenges with 5 children, ages 18 months to 13 years. My teenagers just seemed to arrive this month and I am so sad to see his sweetness towards his parents disappear. Thankfully he still like his baby sister, but cursing and door slamming abounds- wonderful role modeling...ugh...

Cheryl - posted on 12/27/2008

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Hi Danielle!



Welcome to the group!



I look forward to talking to you soon!



Cheryl

Danielle - posted on 12/26/2008

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Ooh what a good idea.I have a 13 year old daughter and a 4 year old, plus an 8 year old son inbetween. I hardly know anyone that has teenagers and preschoolers at the same time!

User - posted on 12/04/2008

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Thanks guys that helps me. My daughter babysits 3 nights a week for us and we do pay her a flat amount each night. Next problem is that she now wants to get a job for more money but we work enough shift work that a part time job for her would be to much for us, as we live out of town.

Sivan - posted on 12/03/2008

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#1- thank you for starting this group!!

#2 I agree with Cheryl's response- we pay our 16 yr old to babysit- definitely less than what we'd pay one of her friends (I went to a football game and left a friend in charge of my 3yr old- she got about $7 and hour). If my kids watches her brothers, they're usually asleep, or just one at a time, and we pay her a flat $10 or $20- it depends how long we're out.

I hear alot of comments about how lucky I am to have a 'built-in' sitter, but my hubby and I agreed a long time ago not to abuse her presence, and we always plan in advance.

Cheryl - posted on 12/03/2008

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I see nothing wrong with using the teenager as a babysitter as long as it's not abused. My 17 yr old son babysits our boys for us often. It depends on the situation whether I pay or not. If my husband and I are wanting to go out for the evening, I generally do pay. Our boys are 4 and 3 and quite the challenge, so when I pay, I pay well!! If it's just something like watching them so I can run to the store or run an errand, I don't.



If you feel comfortable with your daughter watching your son, I say go for it!



Cheryl

User - posted on 12/03/2008

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My question is do we use the teenager as a babysitter and if so what should we pay them? My daughter is 15 and my son is 3.5.

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