Pre-Teen Bathing

Jamie - posted on 07/26/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My daughter and her cousin are the same age and still continue to bathe together at the age of 12. Is this normal/ok at this age? Should I be mandating separate bathing sessions for them? Your thoughts and feedback are appreciated.

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Nicole - posted on 07/26/2010

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Assuming the two are both girls, I don't see the problem with it. It's probably not the "norm", but my fale cousins and I always bathed together until around that age. We were probably around 12 or so, when we started becoming "aware" of our bodies and had to take showers seperatly. It really depends on the maturity of the child, in my opinion. What I would do is just ask your child what she's comfortable doing. Let her make that decision.

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Sally - posted on 12/22/2012

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They're the same gender and you're saving water. Why give them a complex over something perfectly healthy?

Barbara - posted on 12/20/2012

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My daughter is 15 and while it doesn't happen frequently, occasionally one of her girl friends will spend the night for a sleepover. In the morning, one is in the shower and the other is sitting on the throne as they talk back and forth. Then they switch. It all depends on what your daughter feels comfortable with. When she says something to you about it, clearly it's time to stop.

Katie - posted on 02/27/2012

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well, i know this is late but, i think they might be abit old to get a bath together because, as there growing, puberty and periods start to happen and breasts start to develop, and they could like start asking questions about them and it could make one of them feeling awkward or uncomfortable, but still, if there mature and that they still might be ok, :), but to be honest i would ask,x

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I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I'm sure if they weren't comfortable they would stop it.

Nelly - posted on 11/01/2010

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I bathed my children together 3 sons and a daughter until my daughter turned 13 then I put a stop to it

Dolores - posted on 08/07/2010

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I think it depends on a lot of factors - the comfort level of the parents of both girls, the cultural influence of all parents, their history of bathing together, etc. My daughter doesn't want to even change clothes in front of anyone other than me and sometimes she doesn't even want to do that! I have no problem whatsoever with them being in the bathroom at the same time while getting ready, in/out of the shower, etc. This is totally a "girl" thing and extremely normal in large families which HAD to do this sort of thing in past times when families only had one bathroom and two were considered an extreme luxury!

Leslie - posted on 08/05/2010

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If they are both girls I see nothing wrong with it. Actually, I find it to be quite normal for girls of this age. It is a bonding experience. Some have a tendency to read too much into it. They are close and this is part of their friendship.

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I DON'T THINK THEY SHOULD BATHE TOGETHER BEING IN THE BATHROOM TALKING WHILE ONE TAKES A SHOWER OR BATH IS ONE THING BUT TO BATHE TOGETHER IS NOT OK. MY DAUGHTERS ARE 6 AND 7 AND STILL BATHE TOGETHER BUT THEY ARE LITTLE WHEN THEY ARE A LITTLE OLDER THEY WONT BE BATHING TOGETHER.I THINK AT THIS AGE YOUTHS ARE GROWING INTO YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN AND SHOULDN'T BE BATHING TOGETHER ANYMORE. MY SON IS 13 AND I EXPECT HIM TO BATHE HIMSELF AND I GIVE HIM THE PRIVACY TO DO SO. HE DOESN'T EVEN GO INTO THE BATHROOM WHEN HIS SISTERS ARE GETTING INTO OR OUT OF THE TUB UNLESS I NEED HIM TOO.

Marquita - posted on 08/04/2010

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I dont think that is ok at there age they are 2 old 2 be bathing 2gether i no everyone have let there children of the same sex bathe 2gether when they are very little but 12 it is a bit older they are about 2 b teenagers i would put a STOP to it...Take Care!!!!

Jane - posted on 08/03/2010

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I think it's a little older than the norm, however, I think it depends on the family. If your not all wigged out about it, then kids don't think much of it. When people are more modest in nature and find that nudity is an issue and that the body is something more than it is, then they might find this inappropriate but for people who think the body is natural and not something to hide and don't treat this as something "dirty", then I think it's fine.

Why some people take issue with this, I do not know.

Maria - posted on 07/29/2010

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probably not a good idea to let them bathe together. it's time to separate them.

Sherri - posted on 07/29/2010

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Hmmmm I have to say I wouldn't be okay with this. I stopped letting my kids bath together when they were about 6. So yeah I have to say I think it is inappropriate.

Patricia - posted on 07/27/2010

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I would not like this...what is the reason(s) behind it? And are they being monitored during this time? I have a 12 year old step son that has a grandmother that still tries to help him shower...Which I think is wrong..At 12 a child should already be aware of their bodies..

Angie - posted on 07/26/2010

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If it is the norm in your family and they are both comfortable doing this, then yes, it's okay. My cousin and I used to keep each other company in the bathroom when we showered and I would guess we were at least this age. She'd take a shower and I'd chat with her. I'd take a shower and she would do her hair etc. It was innocent and we hated to be apart from each other since we lived in different states and only got to see each other for 1 week or 2 a year.

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