pregnant 17 year old daughter

MEMI - posted on 08/12/2011

I too am in the same boat, My daughter will be 18 in December, she will be 4 months pregnant in 2 days. This is her Senior Year of HS, the best year of her life. She thinks she can do everything on her own. Ive tried reasoning with her ,, I know how hard it is .. She is certain that she can do this. ): At my wits end. My heart is broken.

Lauren - posted on 07/26/2011

This is so sad and unfortunate, but tough love will be the only way she will get things straight. You have done your job in raising her and now your only concern is the baby, so try speaking to her from a mother to grandbaby perspective and agree to help her through doctor appointments and take her to a few stores and start looking at baby things just to indirectly start talking to her. Sorry her father is a loser, but she will see that too! Stay prayerful and do not bend what you know is right to pacify her raging hormones!!

Jane - posted on 07/20/2011

all teens will lash out at their mums cos your the one whose the strong backbone n she knows it. stick to your guns cos when the shit hit the fan she will fall on you and need you, shes scared although she feels grown up and independent. she can always resit her exams after babys born, have a word with the headmaster and organise it so that they have a resit when baby is 6 months or something. the school may suggest that as there isnt a babysitter at home (you work full time) they may have creche facility. have a talk with your daughter and tell her about her body changes and ask her what frightens her and what to focus on. its scary for you too as you probably thought she would wait till she was at least 25!! but hey thats kids who are in "love" xx hope it helps

Karen - posted on 07/20/2011

Yes and she will come around. I remember being 17 (not so long ago) and i hated how my parents were raising me. Now that I'm older i understand and am thankful for all they had done for me. I got pregnant during my senior yr. and was 18 so I really thought I was an adult. Is it her Dad she moved in with or her baby's father? If it's the baby's father, she will come around probably a lot sooner. Playing house gets a little old when you are young. Your broke all the time, have to do all the cleaning and everything. I was 19 when I got married and very excited, but 3 months into it, I got bored with it. I was stuck home all the time while hubby worked. It was so lonely and he was always getting upset with me for not cleaning the house they way he wanted it cleaned. His mom was a clean freak and mine wasn't. My suggestion would be not to help her with money. If she wants all her needs taken care of, she needs to come home. It won't take her long to see that he can't support her well enough.

Shawnn - posted on 07/18/2011

I agree with the ladies above, but will add one thing. Why do you not want to allow her to have contact with the baby's father??? That boy needs to step up and take responsibility.

Shauna - posted on 07/18/2011

I'm not an authority on any subject, but sometimes you have to let go and let life teach and then we as the parents help pick up the pieces. I would say even if you let her go, pray that God will give her wisdom and bring her back. With her being pregnant you are dealing with Teenage Hormones and Pregnant Hormones. Consider that.

Louise - posted on 07/17/2011

Your daughter is torn between being an adult and a child. She does not want to stick to your rules because she feels she is an adult yet she is not well equipped for dealing with her fathers alcohol abuse and drugs.

Sit her down and tell her eye to eye how much you love her and want to help her with her choice of becoming a mother. Tell her you are here to help her as much as she wants and that you will always be there for her. Then step back and let her make her decision. If she still chooses to leave let her go, she will be back when she realises what a fool she has been.She is early pregnant and the reality has not really hit yet. When she sits down and thinks about things properly she will be very scared and she will need your support big time. You just have to wait for that time to come and be patient.