Margaret - posted on 02/08/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My son is now 16 and has decided to live with his father. Because of the laws in Ontario I have no choice but to let him go. My sons father and I were never a couple and he signed over sole custody to me before my son was born. In 16 years I have never taken his father to court for more money even though according to the Federal charts for support he has paid me half of what he should have and has never contributed to his medical bills nor is sporting costs. I have never complained once because I wanted to have my sons father in his life. He is now taking me to court to gain sole custody of my son and going after me for child support. All these years I have never imposed when he could or could not see his son. He has had complete open access to him.
He is now bashing me and calling me an unfit mother and telling my son that I am "unbelievably selfish". I have had the same job for 19 years, I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I have litereally had to scrape pennies to get by at times.
He has a lot more freedom at his fathers place which I'm sure is why he decided to live with him but he is drinking alone at night when his father is at work and smoking pot with his friends. I raised his son for 16 years and suddenly now I am unfit to be his mother. I am not upset with my son for his decision but I am upset with him for listening to his fathers BS.
He never called me unfit when I paid $15000 last year for my sons baseball fees which he didn't give me one cent for. I have raised my son the best I could with what I had. He is now getting a lot of attention for college scouts and major league scouts and will more than likely go to the draft next year. My son is very talented and I am very proud of him. I have sacrificed all these years to help him become what he wants to be and all he wants to be is a pitcher in the major leagues. I have believed in him and encouraged him to go after his dream and now his father is making me look like I am the worst mother in the world.
I love my son more than anything and would do anything for him. I will not however stoop to his father's level and insult his father nor call him a bad parent. I just hope one day that my son gets out from under his father's spell and appreciates all that I have done and sacrificed for him.
Does anybody else have a story similar with a happy ending??