School not responding to bullying, what next?

Christi - posted on 05/17/2009 ( 216 moms have responded )

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My son has been bullied for the past 3 years at middle school and the school will do nothing about it. Where do you turn next? According to the school I am just a trouble maker. I am guessing because I am speaking up. I am really worried that some day my son will crack and do something he should not. So far he is dealing with it, but I know thats only temporary.

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Carolynn - posted on 05/28/2009

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When my son was in the sixth grade, there was a boy who, although the same age, was quite a bit bigger. He had a vocabulary that would make a sailor blush. He decided to bully my child. My son would come home after school and be so quiet. I'd ask and he'd tell me about this kid again and again and he'd say that he was going to have to fight him and I would talk him out of it until I realized that at some point, if the school didn't do something about it, he would have to fight. After one of these discussions, I decided to walk over to the school and meet up with my son and walk home with him. I wanted to see who this kid was. I've always taught my kids that they are to never ever start a fight. BUT....I've also told them that they have the right to defend themselves. To alway be prepared and to never turn their backs on an enemy. So as we are walking home, this kid comes up and shoves my child. He says a few choice words and begins taunting him. I asked the kid to stop. He continued and it went so far as a "girl" who was with him told me to shut the f**k up. My son went beserk. He took off after them. I caught up and managed to grab my son. He was yelling at the other kids that they should apologize and that they'd better not talk to his mom that way ever. The next day at school (by the way, the principal and teacher both knew of the bullying), my son gets into a physical fight with this other kid. He didn't start it but as soon as the other kid took a swing at him, he beat the kid up. I received a phone call to visit the principals office. While in there, she made the comment that my son was smarter than this other kid, who had been in 20 fights since attending the school a year ago, and my child should have used his brains and gotten out of the fight instead of using his fists. Because my child was smarter, he should have been able to stop the fight? I calmly stood up, walked over to her sitting at her desk and asked what kind of an education degree she had. She commented a masters and I said that takes quite a bit of schooling. She agreed. I said to her, so if I wanted to beat the sh*t out of you right now and I'm determined to do so, you can stop me because you're smarter? Should we try this out? She immediately backed away and became defensive. I asked her again if she could stop me and she admitted that she couldn't. I told her that bullying is not acceptable behavior and blaming the "smart" kid who never got into trouble was just as unacceptable behavior. I told her I understood the school policy about fighting, but that I would not punish my child for protecting himself. The principal was livid and I said as I walked out the door - if that child isn't dealt with immediately and removed from the school, I'd make sure she would be. The child was sent to a behavior school within the week where they could teach him how to deal with his bullying and anger. I know it's not always this simple to make things happen. We were lucky the principal did something about it - although it was after 20 fights that school year. I think as parents, we need to let the faculty know that when there is bullying going on at the school, it is unacceptable and if need be, we will do whatever needed to demand that our faculty take bullying seriously and put an end to it immediately. I can see how some of these children are driven to extremes when they are bullied. Children can be the sweetest but they can also be the most cruel. I hope you find someone in the school who isn't afraid to take on the responsibility of dealing with the bully your child is dealing with. As a mother, keep making noise until they have no choice but to deal with it.

Pamela - posted on 12/04/2012

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My Daugher in Middle School has been Bullied, Beaten Up, Harrassed On FB, Etc. I have made SEVERAL reports to the School......and now she was just beaten up AGAIN...along with another friend as well. Punched, Kicked in the Face etc. Enough is Enough. I am a Single Mother of 4 Kids. My two boys have graduated and NEVER had an incident in this school. I now have took matters into my own hands and have filed Criminal Charges against this Bully. Now it all begins!~I have Lost ALL faith and Hope in our School Principal and Superindentant. It will NOT be tolerated Anylonger..and if the school will NOT do what they are supposed to do to protect our children while 9 hours in their care....I Will do whatever in my power to Stop this!~Our town is Very Small, Everyone knows Everyone...So, with that being said You know how small towns can be. I may be here with Alot of Enemies For Standing Up for Justice and What is Right to protect our Children But I Will Not back down. It truly Amazes me that The School Can Do whatever they feel is "Right Punishment" for Physcal attacks. There is NO Standard procedure in this school. NO written steps on what is to be the punishment as far as Detention, Fighting, harrassment etc. So this Bully only got a 3 day suspention after Punching, Beating and kicking 2 girls in the Face during lunch....BUT this was her 2nd time on record for attacking my daughter. Unbelievable!!~And Only 3 days out!~Yes! I have tried talking to the mother of this bully....Got NO Where. They usually think their Child "Would Never! or there must have been a reason Why"!~NOT!~Fact is She is A Bully and has done this for a very long time!~This is The LAST time she will ever lay a hand on my Child or Anyone Else's. I have just called in the News Station and All Local Newspaper reporters to investigate the Bullying at our small school and Ask the Administration Directly "Why is there NOT harsher Punishment"?? Maybe the Media can help spread light to keep our Children Safe and in a better protective enviroment in our schools. I am One Mom that will stop at nothing to Bring light to this!~Action needs to be taken seriously here because a Child in middle school Needs to be led By Example, So with the little slap on the wrist this school gave to this Bully it goes to show that this type of behavior is Acceptable and You will ONLY be given a little time out of the classroom(Which Doesn't all kids love to have a couple days off)......The Bully thought it was Funny and so did her mother while walking out of the principals office to get her 3 day suspension....and looked at me and laughed!~That makes my Stomach turn!~So, let's see how Funny they think it is when they are in Juvenile Court and the Local Media Parked in front of our schools for Quesitions to the School regarding how Little they do to give Justice and Protection to our Children Who have Been The Victims. Good Luck to each of You!!~I will keep this post updating when I proceed!~

ROBERT - posted on 02/07/2013

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SAM,
First you must calm down and take a deep breath. Right now you're doing great as a mother and don't think you're doing wrong. Go to the police file a report and press charges. After that get you a good lawyer and take the school and the girls who harmed your daughter to court! Then go directly to the media and let them know what's going on. Then you'll see action. Do it before its too late.

Angie - posted on 05/17/2009

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If it's physical bullying, call the police. File charges against the child who is bullying your child. The school will take notice then! I only say this because I had to threaten this to our school district.

Florence - posted on 02/24/2014

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I am from Md, baltimore area and we just discovered that our son is being bullied in school for a year and a half, when we moved in the area.He is going in a private school and they don't seem to take action.

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Zoe - posted on 05/31/2014

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Leave the school period. Put him in an environment where he can flourish not flounder (whether that be homeschool or otherwise), have a looooong discussion about how much you love him and how none of what happened was his fault, and then move on. Also, it would be a good idea to send him to a counsellor just to see what they have to say. Bon Chance!

Olga I - posted on 05/30/2014

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My little cousin is being bullied in school by a 9 year old boy, it got so bad that he pushed her against the wall and she lost her front tooth, the principal has done nothing because the boys father is well known, he's a teacher in another school, my cousin is so traumatized she wants to go live back to Puerto Rican

Roxana - posted on 05/28/2014

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Dear Mara I feel so sorry for the traumatizing experience you and your family have to go thru, keep demanding and looking for anwers don"t back down keep strong until you get this resolve.

Valinda - posted on 05/20/2014

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I know it is hard dealing with bullying and I have create a website to help reach out to parent and give them the help and support that they need..My name is Valinda White an I would like for you to Join my website called (Let's Save a Child From Bully) an I am here to help you find the resource and help to save your child. I am a mother of 4 an I had to home school my last two age 12 and 19 which my 19yr old has graduate from home school..So Please let me help you save your child.

Sue - posted on 05/20/2014

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Restraining Order. Get one for your child against the bully - or pull your child out of school and put them in homeschool. Trying to make the school do their job is not possible, since they're hypocrites. And police don't take child aggressors seriously until they kill someone.. Treat this seriously, since the school isn't.

Sue - posted on 05/20/2014

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I told teachers, principal and called police when my son was beaten repeatedly in 1st grade by the same boy. The boy was also punching other kids. The school kept insisting they were handling it and that the bully had a bad homelife. The police refused to do anything except warn the school. Nothing changed! I can't afford lawyers and had to deal with this solo. I ended up having to pull my son out of school, quit my job, and home school my son, and now my daughter as well. I don't want them to become tomorrows victims or tomorrows mass murderers. I have no confidence in the public education system. Kids are only learning to become more evil so everyone will be afraid of them - and so they won't get bullied... Even my Dad used to have a horrible bully back in the 1960s that broke his nose and beat up his little brothers. One day the bully told my Dad that he was going to kill his little brother while my Dad was in class. The teachers just thought it was a joke, but my Dad knew it wasn't. My Dad skipped class and waited for the bully. He found him waiting outside my Dad's little brothers classroom. My Dad punched the bully in the side of the head so hard the guy got knocked out. My Dad ran back to class. No one saw the event. He never saw the bully at school ever again. Would being passive in this situation have worked? Or telling an adult? From my Dad's point of view, it was the bully's life or his brother's life. What a sad choice to have to make.. What other solutions are there when adults don't act and letting a bully break your bones doesn't make them stop hurting you? No wonder kids bring guns to school. They don't want to get hurt anymore.. And from their point of view, everyone is hurting them and the adults in their life don't care.. God help us.

Aileen J - posted on 05/18/2014

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I would suggest moving him my daughter had three years of hell and is much better since she moved

Kristina - posted on 05/16/2014

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The police say they can't do anything about it because the student isn't old enough to be prosecuted. And we have to wait for him to be older in order to press charges

Mara - posted on 05/02/2014

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From all the posts I have read, there seems to be little, if anything that a parent can do to protect a bullied child! My daughter is in the 3rd grade. Yesterday 4 boys waited until the bell rang after lunch and when my daughter was alone, they started to kick her (while she was on the floor), one boy lifted my daughter's shirt (this is a very delicate subject since she is s bit chubby and is self conscious about her belly), another boy took her shoes and tossed them far in the yard, while another one told her 'that's what you get'. They laughed and left her there. Two classmates run to get their teacher's attention. I do not understand why the teacher didn't do anything! My daughter put herself together, got her shoes and walked to class (were 3 of the 4 bullies were) and everybody went about their business like nothing had happened. The teacher asked my daughter to write what had happened, which my daughter did and still nothing happened. When I picked her up and she told me, I sent an e-mail to her teacher demanding answers. She did not reply. The next morning, I went to school to talk to the principal. She approach me in the yard and while she continued walking towards a classroom told me she would deal with it and that she would call me but it was going to take some time!!!! Then she just walked away...
I feel sad. I don't know what else to feel right now...

Cergio J - posted on 04/04/2014

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Everyone has someone over them so if you not getting anything no result at the ground floor you go to the next floor and you keep going out cause everybody in the school system has somebody in with him so you just keep going and going until you get result

Dis - posted on 04/01/2014

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My son was bullied for years. I was in office every week. I even called the cops cause one kid followed him home an beat him up. Months later as it continued he was in class room infrot of the entire class and teacher getting picked on by four boys. Teacher just said nothing and called for another teacher help. My son was scarred and said a threat out of fear to get them away.. My son was expelled an charges were brought upon him. Bullies still tormenting kids. I can't even buy my son new glasses or hearing aids cause of all the court costs. No justis.

Cyndy - posted on 03/24/2014

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So we were bullied out of a catholic school in cleveland Ohio as I posted previously private schools do not have to follow state laws at least in Ohio about bullying. My son is doing great at new school
And is healing. Actually academically the previous school was quite inferior so getting out was good in more than one way. I now tell as many people as I can about what happened at the other school. The word of mouth trail is effective. The more that know and are aware the better. Maybe they will question the pastor principal etc. I will continue to tell in detail as long as I can. Bullying is wrong. Doing nothing as a school is horrible. Not reporting things that should have been reported is appalling. It will catch up one day.

Kay - posted on 02/18/2014

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I think bullying sux. My son is five and he is experiencing this too, fortunately we know the family so I approached the child with the mother knowing and put my arm around him and asked if he could look out for my son instead of hurting him, bc you are older than my son (only by 12 weeks). I am yet to see if this works... at least his mother, teachers and I know the same information, working together may help to fight the bullying in schools. There's no need for it at all, if it continues I might have to take up sitting in his class so I can protect him. Can we do that as parents?

Lynda - posted on 02/11/2014

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There is power in numbers. Find out who else is being bullied and hook up with these parents to go speak to, first, the principal (because you have to go up the chain of command) and then the superintendent. I am considered a "trouble maker" as well because I always speak up in order to protect my children. It's our job as parents to do this!!!! Also, here in Canada, it's legal to tape someone, so if it's legal where you are, send your boy in with a tape recorder and get solid evidence! Then "they" have to believe you. And you could take your boy in to see a doctor/nurse to prove his depression on paper! Just DON'T GIVE UP and your son will end up okay. I went through this and still am going through this, but I WON'T GIVE UP!!!!!

Hannah - posted on 12/09/2013

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Document everything! Keep.dates, times, and what happened. Call your superintendent, they are the principals boss. Very sad to hear about.all these bully problems!8

Hannah - posted on 12/09/2013

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Wow, this was very sad to read. What state are u in? We live in.PA(Manheim Township) they preach no hit and zero bully tolerance. I have a first grader and a second grader, and 2 brothers have hit them om the bus and off for over a year. We have a new principal this year. I have learned I have to start documenting everything, no matter how little. This recent hitting., we called school immediately and they pulled bus tape for bus. The principals response to.me was she didn't need to watch tape because the boy confessed to her and was very remorseful!!! She said he has assigned seat on bus now
as his brother does also. There way of handling this was to send a separate bus for.my girls. Those boys get to still ride the bus. Last year, same problem (with same boys)we just took girls off the bus. The one boy is in my younger daughters class. Teacher keeps.a close eye and doesn't let him and my daughter be near each other. Unfortunately, we attend the same gym,ugh! So they see each other in kids club. Right after this boy showed remorse to principal, he picked up a chair at gym and threw it towards my daughter. We reported that to gym, and now they page us if these boys come. Very very sad. We have meeting set up with transportation dept/principal and superintendent. Not sure what.good it will.do.

Betty - posted on 11/07/2013

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You can only go to campus police unless the child is stabbed or shot. I don't know about other states but per the district attorney's office the following applies. A school district that has its own police department is just like a city and they have jurisdiction over all that happens on there campuses during school hours. Outside officers can not step in unless invited and that includes the DA. My son is 16 and is special ed and the government forces him into least restrictive environment and so he has to attend regular classes. A child he didn't know was skipping classes and while the teacher was out in the hallway taking care of another child. The one skipping classes went into the classroom and took my sons belonging and my son was chasing him trying to get them back when the teacher came back into the classroom and my son told him and he got his belongings back and instead of calling the office to come get the child that was skipping just told him to leave. My son is autistic adhd essential tremor tumor at the base of his brain top of his spine and failure to thrive along with a lot of other problems. He can't handle crowds so he leaves classes early and this particular day the child that was skipping classes attacked him and throw him around like a wet rag and swung him around by his ankles and fortunately no bones where broken, very badly bruised and tissue damaged and hi rib on the lift is now displaced and higher and the protruding. I was just informed yesterday by the campus police department and after watching the video have turned it over to the da's office and now I have to wait to see what they say. Meanwhile another child stood by and watched the whole thing happen. The teachers handled it wrong. I have also been told that depending upon the severity our legislation which I am not sure if it is state or national has passed a law saying another child can beat up another child and there isn't much one can do unless hurt very badly. I will find out what the DA thinks. Betty

Laurie - posted on 10/25/2013

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I can understand how your feeling, talk to your daughters teacher and headteacher and i am sure you will definitely solve this problem as soon as possible.

Brandy - posted on 10/22/2013

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My daughter is in 5th grade and has been bullied since grade k. I have spoke with teachers, principals and the board. There has been 3 principals at the school since my daughter, Autumn started school there. There is 1 girl in particular that has bullied her from the start. Today my daughter received threats at school from something that happened at our park last night. Two 13 or 14 year old girls and their aunt cussed my daughter out last night and the two girls threatened to kick her butt. I let the park administrator handle that because I wouldn't have held my temper towards the adult who cussed her. Today Autumn went to school and realized one of those girls goes to her school. That girl is kin to the other girl who has always threatened my daughter. The girl from the park told my daughter today that she would beat her up then come to our house and beat me up (that just sad when a child that age says they'll beat up an adult)
With that said the girl from day one doing the bullying told my daughter today that if she didn't give her her snack she would beat her up and that girls friend told Autumn she would kick her between her legs if she didn't hand over the snack. So far this year there hasn't been anything physical but between grade k and 4th grade my daughter has been verbally abused, kicked and spit on. There has been 3 principals at this school so I keep having to repeat everything. All I get from teachers and principals is "I will talk to them and find out what happened." Whenever she calls me back which is very rare it seems like its always my daughters fault and the other kids are not punished. I've contacted the board they've not done anything either and the last time I called I had to leave a message that was never returned. Even the librarian at this school is wrong. She's always telling kids to shut up and that they weren't "taught" right. This school is so ridiculous and I just don't know what to do anymore. I worry the whole time my kids are at school wandering what they will have to tell me each day. I need help.

Mickey - posted on 10/17/2013

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My child has been bullied by the same student for two years, there are many victims to this students bullying. The bully is a big kid and uses his size to intimidate. My child is one that stands up for others, and while doing this he has been pushed kicked, punched and stomped on. There have been several complaints made by myself and many other parents, yet the boy is still there tormenting as usual. This last time was the last straw...my son came home with an imprint of this boys shoe on his wrist. It was black and blue and this injury stayed there for 5 days(I have pictures). I went in to the principal to confront this matter, Why nobody called and why the bully didn't get punished. Only for them to say, it was mutual, and did not consider it bullying. Even worst is my child is now moved from his lunch table where the bully sits, not vice verse. Any advice on where to go next.

Edward - posted on 09/21/2013

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I wish you and your son nothing but the best. I'm going thru the same thing with my duather. Y, god bless you and your son. My he have the will and good thoughts with him. I'll pray for you and your son

Amanda - posted on 09/18/2013

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Out in our area - the victim sticking up for themself only gets the vitcim punished more by the school as the bully and their followers or kids afraid of them back up the lies they state!

Amanda - posted on 09/18/2013

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Hi Christi - My name is Amanda! My daughter has been pestered by the same child for a year and half and I have battled with the school and they treat me the SAME WAY! I feek your pain! My lil girl already stated that she would rather DIE than go back to school with that child there. I relayed that to the school and their response was to get her help to "deal with him"!! I even contacted the school psycologist above the entire area and she still was of NO help again telling me to teach her how to handle it rather then stopping the child! If you find anything out let me know, and I will of course do the same! You are so not alone in this!

Jenni - posted on 09/17/2013

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I live in NYC and my son was being bullied in one of the best charter schools in our city. I was outraged! I went to his school and requested a meeting with the principal but she was always too busy to meet with a parent. I asked the school to remove the bully from his class and even get expelled but the school did nothing. So I decided to remove my child from the school. In his new school he's feeling much more secured and happy about attending but he still does speak about being bullied often. My heart goes out to the families that are going through such an awful ordeal. I encourage you to fight back. Protect your kids. I'm now teaching my child how to defend himself and I always assure him that I have his back 1 million percent. He laughs when I tell him that I will fight a kid for him.

Robin - posted on 08/29/2013

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My daughter has been being bullied by a group of kids since we moved to this town 3 years ago my daughter is 11 years old and the bullying is so bad she talks about killing herself. I have called the principle in her elementary school and now she is in her second year if junior high and these same kids are still doing it we were even at an event in our town over the summer and these girls did not know I was her mother or that I was with her the were pushing her and saying mean awful things for no reason I told them to stop and they said they would punch me in the face these girls have posted things on FB threatening my daughter I have spoke to everyone I could in authority in my town nothing is done they have also had boys saying sexual things to her and grabbing her chest I am really concerned my daughter is going to harm herself or one day do something to these girls she has even been pushed down the stairs in school I do not know what to do I am very concerned and the school system does nothing and neither does the police department because it is a group of girls picking on her they all lie to get out if it and try to put the blame on her she is 11 talking about suicide because of it she is on medication because of it but still she can't take no more we live in ct any advice ?

Patricia - posted on 06/25/2013

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I can understand how your feeling my daughter is 8 and has been bullied for months i have spoken to my daughters teacher and headteacher and have been told they are dealing with it by seperating them in classes but still it coninues and it is affecting her work and confidents they also insists its not bullying as at the moments its just name calling but shes followed about by this girl follows her all the time to the stage that i feel its harassment yet still her school won't do anything

Cyndy - posted on 05/31/2013

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just so everyone knows PRIVATE schools DO NOT HAVE TO FOLLOW STATE mandated laws about bullying isn't that sad.......so bullies have free reign at private and YES religious based schools.... and even though I was not the one who got the police involved because yes what happened to my son was a crime - I am feeling the backlash - or feel I am... and I have been the squeaky wheel for 8 months....

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Your son needs to stand up for himself and the school needs to step up as well. But the school stepping up won't stop bullying, your son will only lose more respect from peers and make it worse. He has to stand up for himself, ignore it and don't let it show.

Amy Nicole - posted on 05/13/2013

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Bullying is illegal and schools should know this and be punishing bullies with a trip too the principles office and some extra work and a parent notified.And if the school won't do anything then you need too take it into you hands your son could get so sick of these bullies that he kills himself and that's NOT OKAY! Your not a trouble maker your sticking up for your son. Take legal action.

Brianne - posted on 05/12/2013

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I'm not a mother, nor am I even an adult but I completely understand what your son's going through. When I was 5 I was bullied quite badly and had my mother get in contact with the principal, nothing was done and the principal, along with the mum of the child bullying me brushed it off and assumed I was making it up. I'm not quite sure where you live but I find that schools in Scotland are quite bad with this, that's where I was when I was dealing with this. There was also another time where I was bullied for about 4 years and the school still did nothing. It's such a shame that teachers and adults won't do anything these days. As a parent I believe that you should remain there to help your son and talk with him, it's very important that he knows you're there. If it's very bad you should contact the police or some organisation to help find a solution. It's a difficult time for children when they go through this but don't focus too much on that thought.

Jacqueline - posted on 05/09/2013

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I'm not a mother but I do understand what your son is going threw Im from Marshall Missouri and my brother is also going threw the same thing and the school isn't doing really anything. Their saying my brother is the problem which he isn't. My mom has done almost everything to stop this bullying, My brother has been sent to a hospital to get help he asked my mom to help him that he couldn't deal with the bullying any more at school and on Fb. The bullying has affected him so badly he want to give up on life and drop out of school. The doctors put him on 50 mg of a depressant and on that same week he was discharged from the hospital in KC they had to raise the dosage to 100mg because of the bullying and my brother wasn't him self any more and also that same week he got beat up while riding his bike. Then again today that im righting this he was jumped as they say during his P.E class my mother and I have gone to the school and the result for me speaking up for my brother and also taking him to school was that now im also being targeted by the males that have been bullying my brother and its not just 1 its at least 15 students and 5 that have graduated. We have gone to the police and still nothing The school wont enforce anything. I fear for my self and my family sorry for any errors of spelling or grammar.

John - posted on 05/03/2013

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hey, i know I'm not a mom, but I'm looking for anything i can do to get this group of bullies off me and my girlfriend's back, we've been dating for 2 years almost 3. this whole thing started when we started to wear collars with a half of a ying yang symbol on it, they were soposed to represent that we love each other, but the kids at our school started bullying us and saying "if they are gonna look like dogs then they (us my girlfriend and me) should act like them" and other comments, i have confronted the assistant principal about it but he always says the same thing "ill get around to it" this has been going on for our sophomore and junior year of school, I've just about gotten to the point where i almost started a fight with one of them but i kept the thought to myself. i'm not sure how much longer we can take it, please any ideas on what we should do, email me at gmail (johnnywonson@gmail.com)

Daniel - posted on 03/18/2013

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Hi I am Daniel and 15 years old my girlfriend goes to a school in Brooklyn called urban assembly institute of math and science for young women she has issues with her anger but since she started high school she had become humble. There is this girl in her school who wanted to go out with her and she denied her so she got mad and started to threaten and bother her. My girlfriend spoke with he principle and they mediated but that did not help th girl continued to threaten and go the her she even cursed at he in front of the principle . She thretened to stab and jump her. She has a lot of friends in school and my girlfriend doesn't so she I out numbered . My girlfriend to transfer schools but they did not except her now she is stuck she doesn't wan to go to school because of her bully buy she doesn't want a gas case. what do we do ?

Karen - posted on 02/25/2013

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My son is 11 and autistic considered handicap not on meds never a problem. He has been kicked in the back today while waiting for the bus to leave school. This is the 4th incident this year, The school principals and vise principal are idiots. Every time someone has physically assaulted him. This time I am going to the police and contacting ACLU as soon I get the kids name. I was told before I was not aloud to know the assaulter. My husband went to the last kids house and told him it will stop. With that being said it did seem to resolve the problem that time. If anyone has more advise please fill free to help. POLICE , ACLU AND CHIROPRACTIC BILL WICH HIS PARENT WILL PAY FOR. jeffwilliams@atlanticbb.net

Sam - posted on 02/06/2013

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We wrote letters to school edication and groverners and still no help she is makeing her self sick and not sleeping she's on meds to help her sleep she's not eating and this needs to stop I really wants to go round the childerns house and sort the parents out infront of the childern and see how thay fill watching there mum and dad get beat up sorry but I'm angry she is really timmed and shy and don't like telling anyone anythink its was only we I saw 5 girls jump her after school I relised she was in trouble she has speach delays and I think the bullys thinks she's an easy target coz of her delays she told me she had to take money in school for water but I founf out she had to take money in for the girls or thay would take her lunch any one no wot else I can do

Sam - posted on 02/06/2013

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Hi new to theis my 10 year old is getting bullied and robbed she has learning dif and we have been to police edication and mp and done everythink in our powers to get it sorted and noone is helping us

Faye - posted on 01/28/2013

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There is ALWAYS a boss above the one you talked to. Go to local school board, then go to State school board, then go to State Legislators. All the while document, document, document! including police reports. Even the local media if nothing changes.

ROBERT - posted on 01/28/2013

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BY LAW THE SCHOOL HAS TO FOLLOW THE GUIDE LINES MANDATED BY THE DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION AND THE DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE. GO TO stopbullying.gov AND YOU'LL HAVE MORE INFO ON THIS. MY DAUGHTER IS A VICTIM OF THIS BULLYING AND I WILL DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER TO MAKE SURE THIS ENDS ONE WAY OR ANOTHER! EVEN IF I MUST TAKE LEGAL ACTION AGAINST THE TEACHER SCHOOL AND THE SCHOOL DISTRICT!

Melissa Jane - posted on 01/27/2013

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i would go to the state board and take the school handbook with you. You have a right to go to the board meetings

Bobbie Jo - posted on 01/26/2013

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Go to the superindent of your sons school and let him or her know you had enough and are going to the police to file charges, one so its on record at the school and make sure they put it on record that you filed a complaint with them, and two because you will need it documented, if that doesn't work tell them you are going to the public with your story, whether it is the news paper or new station or both. And don't give up let them know you are tired of it and mean business. No child should be bullied.

Barbara - posted on 01/22/2013

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My daughter is now in fifth grade she has been punched kicked pushed,called names this has been happening since first grade I talked to everyone the only thing I haven't done was talked to the police. This boy and my daughter sat down and talked and he just don't care . The mother blames everyone else her son does nothing wrong. I'm going crazy dealing with this my child loved to go to school now she crys and begs to stay home. What more can I do nothing has been done this boy has had nothing happen to him only being told to stay away how when there in the same class I tried having my child switched or the boy and then refuse to.I'm lost and my child deserves to go to school without being abused.

Marley - posted on 01/01/2013

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I am a 13 year old girl. I had been attending a Catholic school since preschool and this year i decided to go to a public school i got bullied every day about what i was wearing or who i was friends with.... i realized that i was not the only one that was getting bullied it was another child i became friends with him hoping we could deal with this together but it got worse and worse.....evidently i was socializing with the " unwanted "..... so i understand what your sons and daughters are going through.....and no one would help me or my mom and she's a lawyer....i am now back at my old school but the things that those kids say will never ever leave me:(

Jodi - posted on 12/30/2012

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I would go to the police, they usually have someone who deals with the schools, a liaison of sorts. I know even in my small town we have a couple of police officers that works with the schools. They spend their time between all of the different middle schools and high schools. Even if it isn't a physical bullying, just name calling, they can do something about it. It is considered harassment and you have legal means to put a stop to it. I would let the principal know that you are tired of them not doing anything and that you have decided to take it to the police. Schools often times just don't want to deal with the hassle and will blow parents off or make them feel like they are the problem.

Then don't discuss it with the school past that, deal only with the police. Chances are they may want to sit down with you and the school though and you will have to be prepared to go in and be logical with facts only. Explain the problem and that the school was made aware and refused to offer a solution. It is their job to keep the kids safe, being harassed is not providing a safe atmosphere.

These days the cops are far more likely to intervene on behalf of the bullied student and parent because of how many things have gone awry from kids who were bullied too much and went over the edge.

You are the parent, you are the one in charge here, not the schools. The schools do not own your child, they don't get to make the rules, they have to follow the rules. They like to make parents feel otherwise sometimes.

Kim - posted on 12/28/2012

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Christi,Go to school board. If that does not work go to the news paper and tell them what going on! If the school board do anything it's time to get a lawyer involved. If you are telling them about the lawyer they will do anything you want ! Did you try talking to the parents? I would do this first, then the school board, lawyer. Then ask the lawyer about the news paper. I hope this helps. Good Luck :)

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