Should a boy age of 13 get his ear peirced?!

Lisa - posted on 03/29/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My ex-husband has told my 13 year old son that he can get his ears peirced the next time they go there (in 2 weeks). I just don't know what to th ink about it?

I swear years ago my ex and I decided that he could *Possibly* get his ear peirced when he was 15 but I guess he don't remember that?

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Serena - posted on 03/29/2009

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lots of people let their daughters pierce their ears very young.  (my daughter was 6) why should it be any different for boys?  there could be worse things for him to want to do and he probably just wants a way to assert his ability to make his own decisions.  I have a 13 year old and if he wanted to pierce his ear i would let him.  It will leave almost no mark if he ever takes it out and it shows you trust him to make decisions about his own body.  Good luck with whatever you decide.

Linda - posted on 05/16/2009

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I know a lot of parents might disagree with me but I believe in letting my kids express themselves. I don't sweat the small things. There are too many big and scary issues to deal with other than a simple piercing. Piercings will close up if they are no longer wanted.

Julie - posted on 04/19/2009

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I have been in this situation with my son and my ex. My son had begged for it and my my ex and I had agreed upon a certain age as well. I had hoped it would pass. Then one day out of the blue they called while at the mall to "ask" if it was alright. Too late Dad had already ok'd it. I was very upset. I remember all the kids use to have it when we were that age. My ex is a professional and still wears one when he goes out, but not at work. I gave in to make my son happy, he is 14. Once he got it done the novelty quickly wore off. He rarely ever wears it. He keeps talking about the gauging thing, and I have explicitly said No! That will not happen, nor will any tattooing until he is well over the age of 18. I hope this idea soon wears off too, when he enters high school and gets out of this skater stage he is in.

Lisa - posted on 04/17/2009

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Truly this is a discussion that all of you should have & decide what is best for your family values. Just because it is cool or the norm does not mean he has to follow the trend. With the discussion you develop respect & your exhusband needs to discuss it with you, not around you. The kid is working you both if he knows he can go to who ever to get the answer he wants. He is 13 not 15. That is a big difference in age to make this decision and maturity level. Sometimes kids don't like your decision, but that is part of being a parent & teaching them values. It is was agreed to 15, then it is important to teach him follow through with what you set originally. It is about principle.

Mary - posted on 04/15/2009

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One of my sons wanted to get his eyebrow done at 16. We told him to write us a 3 page

paper on how it will glorify God and how he could use it as a witnessing tool.

He wrote the paper and we were pretty impressed. So we let him have it.

He gave it up after 3 months.



Daughter wanted her tongue done at 17. Again, write the paper. She did.

So she got it. Now 6 months later it is closed up.

She wants to get it re-done, but I think she sees better ways to spend her money!



Personally, I have 3 small tattoos that cannot be seen much. Hubby too.

and 2 of my older sons have large impressive tribal tattoos that are not offensive and can be hidden with moderate clothing.

It really does hurt to get them done. Especially in places with many nerve endings.



But I do not condone offensive piercings or tattoos. Some are just plain gross.

Keep it personal and so that you have the ability to hide it when necessary.

Gaging is a big no-no. I mean, that literally destroys the flesh. Ugh. And it doesn't always shrink back. Son has friend that had to have part of his ear lobe removed before getting a job with a conservative firm.



The woman that pierced my sons eyebrow gave him a small lecture about how it can become addictive and that people DO judge you and to use reason. I was proudly suprised by her.

Her shop applied hubbys and my 20th anniversary tattoos back in October. ;o)



Mary~

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Denise - posted on 02/20/2012

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you need to talk to your exhusband and remind him that you have a say in what your son does also. You both need to sit your son down and make sure that he knows that he can't play both parents like that but before you can do that, you have to make sure that you and your ex are on the same page when it comes to decision making.

Jennifer - posted on 05/15/2009

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I let my boys get their ears pierced at 6 or 7. At 9 and 15, they dont even wear them anymore.

Tiffany - posted on 04/16/2009

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My son is now 13 and he has always wanted his ear pierced I told him he could whenever he was ready. when he was 9 he went in and got it done I think it looks cool. He likes it when and if he doesn't he can remove it.

Lisa - posted on 04/15/2009

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:O  Wow...Lol....I am not judging, to each  there own..But me alone, I would say NO to the tongue ever lol.  I can't really say much since my husband has his tongue done :O



 



 



BUT I have decided to let him go with the ear :)  THANKS for the advice ladies :)

Amy - posted on 03/31/2009

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I'm probably the odd one out here but my son (now 19) had his tongue pieced at 13. He had his ear pierced around 7, maybe? It's been so long. I didn't have a problem with piercings. They can be taken out. Tattoos were a no-no. He had to be 18.

Colleen - posted on 03/30/2009

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Its only an ear, but if you agreed that the magic number was 15 you should both stick to it. Earings are nothing compared to what he could be getting. At least you can take an earing out, tattoos are permanent.

Lorelei - posted on 03/29/2009

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honestly the older my kids get the contracts work great even better if you let them help in the terms. Dealing with ex's is hell and if you learn to keep the rules understandable to your child you can get past so much of the hassle. Let them feel they have some control at 13 your son needs to understand your concerns. His future, his health, public perception explain everything and maybe grandpap won't like it so when he is around certain people out of respect it is removed or a very small stud is used they even make clear plastic ones etc. good luck

Lorelei - posted on 03/29/2009

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It really depends on your son. Honestly as long as gauging is not involved and your son is responsible enough to take care of the ear as it heals. Also set size limits etc. upfront and in writing with your son maybe signing a sort of contract. Make one yourself. I would always say at least a piercing that is done professionally and not stretched to obscenely will close up and be nearly undetectable later in life.

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