Should i let my 13yo daughter shave her legs?

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Sara - posted on 10/10/2009

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When my daughter was asking this question (at the age of 10!) I said no, until I took a good look at her legs. The hair on the lower half of her legs was much darker and thicker than on her thighs, and I let her start. I say take a good hard look at see what you think - when she first started asking I said wait, you'll have to do it forever. I think at 13 it's probably okay.

Bettiann - posted on 10/06/2009

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13 yes I think is a good age! I made a fun time of it with my daughter she thought I was nuts!! I filled the tub a bit with warm water sat on the side of her rolled our pant legs up and I showed her how to shave! not to often we get to do the things we use to do! so when ever I get a chance to teach something I kinda make a fun thing out of it! so it's no big deal! go for it!! plus it makes them feel like their doing a grown up thing! :) P.S,. I think 11 is a bit young!!!

Shelley - posted on 11/28/2011

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Hi there, I cant see why not if she wants to. I started at 12 and I had legs like a gorilla and got teased a lot. Kids seem to do everything a lot earlier these days. My two girls are a LOT hairier then most girls. I have just started "trimming" my just turned 6 year old girl's legs as she is getting a bit of grief from a few kids at school. It makes such a difference to her and I cant see the harm.

Shawnn - posted on 10/05/2011

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I have to say, I'm on the other side, but then again, I don't shave MY legs! If someone feels the need to comment, I point out that it's not written in stone anywhere that I need to torture myself to fit into someone's "image" of a woman, and quite frankly, if they are close enough to comment on the state of my legs, they'd better be expecting to be slapped for entering my personal space.

No, I'm not a hippie, nor a progressive. I just figured out, years ago, that I am happy with myself as God made me. That means I have leg hair!

I don't wear much makeup, and my skin is clearer now at 40 than it was at 16 when I was trying to "fit in" with the rest of the crowd. My leg hair is almost invisible, since it hasn't seen a razor in 20 years. I do shave the pits, but that's because if I don't they get irritated and itchy.

I guess I'm glad that I didn't have to address that with my stepdaughter. her mother would have been furious that I would be encouraging natural beauty rather than insisting that she wear make-up, shave, etc.

Probably won't be the most popular opinion, but then again, I don't really look to be popular...LOL

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Drew - posted on 11/25/2013

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Yes. It's not hurting anyone and if you don't she will most likely get bullied because she doesn't shave. It isn't even having hairy legs it's the fact you don't shave.

Mandy - posted on 11/21/2013

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If she feels ready to start shaving, then let her! I let my daughter start shaving at 10 but we started out slow with an electric shaver. I would recommend you do the same. It would let her get what she wants and it would let you have some comfort knowing that she can get accustomed to it without getting cut.

Alicia - posted on 01/08/2013

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If she's asking, then it's time. There are a lot of difficult choices to face and compromises to be made over the next few years of parenting a teen. Leg shaving should not be one of them.

Patricia - posted on 01/06/2013

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I was in the 6th grade when I started. I got teased something fierce by the boys because I had dark long hair on my lower legs. It was so good to finally get that off. My Daughter also has dark hair on her legs and has been mentioning it. She will be 11 in April.

Chet - posted on 10/11/2012

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I think 11 or 12 is a very common age to start shaving your legs. That said, I would encourage waxing or laser treatments instead.

Ariana - posted on 10/09/2012

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The simple answer? Yes. Actually you should get her to wax since that's better for her legs for longterm hair removal...

Rose - posted on 10/07/2012

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I let my 16 year old daughter start shaving her legs at 10. She started her period at 10 and then she was just going through so many changes and her under arms started getting hairy so I let her shave under her arms and her legs at the same time. Now my 13 year old started shaving her legs when she was 12. She never mentioned to me that she wanted to until then and when I would ask her if she wanted to she said she didn't really care.

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DEFINETLY! i'm twelve and shave my legs. honestly, it can be REALLY embarrassing while wearing shorts with leg hair. even if no one points it out, you feel like' gorrila girl' i started shaving when i was 11 (5th grade)

Jenny - posted on 09/29/2012

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Yes!!!! Omgosh...poor thing...how embarrassing. You should have let her shave 3 years ago...like 4th or 5th grade

Cara - posted on 08/31/2012

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I was in the 5th grade when I started shaving my legs. Kids are so cruel and honestly if she needs to I would let her.

Makenzie - posted on 08/19/2012

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YES!! THATS NO QUESTION IMAGINE GOING TO SCHOOL MAYBE STARTING TO LIKE GUYS AND GOING IN GYM WITH SHORTS AND ALL THE OTHER GIRLS HAVE LEGS THAT ARE HAIR FREE AND SHES THERE SHE MUST FEEL SO LEFT OUT AND ITS HER BODY NOT YOURS I THINK SHE SHOULD BE ALLOWED IM NOT SAYING LET HER GO WILD JUST LET HER BE A LITTLE MORE FREE

Janice - posted on 11/27/2011

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My daughter never asked my permission and leg hair is hard to notice in our family. She has a good head on her shoulders and she thought nothing of it. Meaning, she wanted soft skin for herself and not for others to touch.

Sarah - posted on 10/28/2011

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Well the question to ask is can you notice it i let my husbands daughter ( because her mom is in rehab and i adopted her although shes my husbands biological daughter ) shave at age 13 because it was becoming noticable ! so if its noticible yes but if not no.! hope this helped1 :)

Kristen - posted on 10/27/2011

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If she has a problem with hairs on her legs and she is feeling bad about it, let her. I was about that age when I asked my mum to show me how to shave my armpits and legs. I didn't need to do my legs but I did need to do my armpits! I was sort of sorry I shaved my legs as my hairs were fair still but I knew one day I would need to know how and figured I may as well start, as most of my friends had already been doing it since 11 or 12. I think however, and someone has mentioned it I am sure (without reading absolutely every response) that perhaps waxing would be a better option - done by a professional. This will mean that the hairs won't get thicker and more stubby and the hair growth will be less and less as time goes by. Waxed legs look better than shaved ones! Otherwise, there are the depilators (or epilators) that pull the hairs out but they hurt!

Amy - posted on 10/24/2011

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Absolutely! My daughter was 10 when she started shaving, and though I would have liked to wait a couple of more years to let her begin shaving, she was extremely self conscience about it. My mother made me wait when I was a kid, and I remember one summer wearing jeans and long sleeve shirts because I was so embarrassed from it. I wouldn't put my child through that same embarrassment. She doesn't have to do it often, about once every week and a half or so, but she feels so much more confident!!

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My daughter is 13 and during the summer right before she entered 8th grade, she mentioned it to me that she would like to start. She had never mentioned it before but I think it wasn't an issue since she has blonde hair and the hair on her legs were very light. Her friends had darker hair and started much younger but she showed no interest until now.

I bought her her own razor and shaving gel. Showed her how to and then watched as she did it. Explained that once she starts, you can't just stop. She is pretty good at it and I have explained what to do if or when she niks herself. So far so good but you should wait until she peaks an interest.

Shae - posted on 10/11/2011

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If she asks yes, definitely. I was teased till I was 13 because my mum refused to let me. In the end my Aunty bought me a razor, turned to my mum (who had blonde leg hairs and didn't get teased at all) and said 'it's not your body, let her shave her legs, at least she isn't doing drugs!'
But probably teach her how to be careful with it, like using a form of cream to make sure it doesn't dry out your legs or anything....

Elizabeth - posted on 05/16/2011

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yes i would my daughter been shaving her legs since she was 11 years old

Christina - posted on 04/22/2011

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I'm blond and had very hairy legs when I was young. You could see my hair through my tights in the winter and I was always teased about it. I told my mom I wanted to shave. She sat me on the counter by the big kitchen sink and showed me how. I will always remember this. It was a special time. Oh yeah I think I was in 6 or 7th grade. I had more confidents in myself after that. With my son at almost 15 yrs wanted to shave. I just told him the pros and cons and told him once he started he would have to keep it up. Not all guys can grow beards because it irrates their skin. When he was ready I had his dad show him and he all shaves we he feels he needs to. He still has reg hair on his face, no wiskers yet. He dad got him an electric razor, but he actually like the reg 3 blade razor better. Don't get a single razor they cut too much.

Angie - posted on 04/22/2011

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This is ridiculous!!! What is the big deal. NOT! Just teach them how. Some times kids have to screw up on their own to figure life out. Let them make mistakes on not so crutial matters. Really NOT that big of a deal.

Kristi - posted on 04/22/2011

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My daughter is especially hairy and even had a unibrow. Her older sister helped her pluck it and she now uses one of those electric trimmers to keep it trimmed. I also bought her an electric razor for her legs. It scares me to let someone that young use a blade in the shower. I remember those painful and bloody cuts I had occassionally. They make real good electric razors now that get really close to the skin so you cannot even feel the stubble.

NATASHA - posted on 10/09/2009

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I would say yes my daughter started at 10 she had a lot of hair and did not want her to be made fun of kids are so mean at times plus i figured its only hair anyways

Dana - posted on 10/08/2009

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I have 3 teenage daughters that were about 12 or 13 when they started shaving. Like Tammy said it's a cruel world.

Abigail - posted on 10/08/2009

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I think that this would be a good idea. This lets your 13 yo feel like she is getting to have a big freedom into the adult world without actually doing any harm. I f that's all your daughter is wanting to do consider yourself blessed, truly!! I don't mean that in a disrespectful way, I have 2 teenage daughters. My oldest is 16 and my middle daughter is 13. I wish I was back in the shaving legs time frame....now its wrong friends, boys, and being smartellicaly! Good luck!!

Jean - posted on 10/08/2009

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Yes you should unfortunately our children mature at amuch faster pace than we did at their age to be honest 2 of my daughters started developing pubic hair at age 5 Trust me I went to every doctor I could to try to understand this but because of this imagine your child in swim classes with other 1st graders with hair under arms on legs I made the conscious decision to start shaving them myself when they were in 2nd grade and I think it helped to boost their self esteem because they were "normal" just like their friends

Michelle - posted on 10/05/2009

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I think you should let them shave their legs as soon as they start showing hair on them ... i let my daughters when they were 11..... i think it is perfectly fine to let her start shaving her legs now!

Melissa - posted on 10/04/2009

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i started my daughter a 12 it was because the other girls made fun of her and by know means is she a girlly girl but she is in athletics so i finnally said yes it has to be for a self estaem thing and as long as they let you know about it

Brenda - posted on 10/04/2009

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I know this is not a popular thing to say but my daughter started shaving at the age of 7. The reason being that she would not wear dresses or shorts, It took a lot to find out why. We found out later that it was because she had dark hair on her legs and the kids at school made fun of her. She asked if I would show her how to shave, so I did. She has shaved her legs every since. I think it is just if she is ready and asking then I would consider it. In the grand scheme of things I feel this is a small thing there are going to be things down the road that when she asks I will not consider, but shaving is just not one of them.

Priscilla - posted on 10/02/2009

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A 13 year old girl is very self-conscious and if she has thick or dark hair on her legs, she is going to feel very embarrassed. If you are concerned about her cutting herself with a razor, get her some Nair to try first but I would definitely allow her to remove the hair from her legs. Get her a good razor and teach her how to use it properly. However, you do need to tell her that she only needs to shave her legs once or twice a week. When I began shaving my legs at the age of 12, I thought I was supposed to shave every day because my dad shaved his face every day! In retrospect, that was so funny! Now I hate shaving my legs and only do it when I have to. Teenagers (boys and girls) are always anxious to start shaving, it seems like a right of passage to them but the novelty soon wears off.

Georgianne - posted on 10/01/2009

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I allowed my daughter, who is 13 because she has dark hair and she was embarassed by the comments. It also gave a little responsibility.

Karen - posted on 10/01/2009

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When my daughter started Jr High, she had to dress for gym. It became very noticable, and the other girls were shaving too. She's tried many methods, the first of them with the cream and the fake razor, but quickly moved to the real thing. She now swears that usuing baby oil works the best. I must say here: we now go through alot of disposable razors since she began, but her results are good, no cuts or nicks and those legs are silky smooth. I'm think'in of trying baby oil too. hehehe

Cherie - posted on 10/01/2009

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my daughter has dark hair like her father and she started shaving her legs at 6 because she did not like the hair on her legs when she wore a dress to church. i taught her not to shave past the knee because the thigh hair will go away on it's own as you get older...

Diana - posted on 09/30/2009

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I let my daughter start shaving her legs when she was 10. Kids at school are soooooo mean now-a-days. Bought the single blade razors, I keep the rest of the razors hidden so when she needs a new one she has to ask me, she's 11 now - so it's only been a year and she's doing fine.

I remember when I was a kid I started shaving when I was 11 without my mom's permission - so I figured if she's anything like me (and she is) she'll do it one way or another. You know that saying... it's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission! LOL!

Danna - posted on 09/30/2009

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I wanna say ~ it depends. On hair growth, thickness and color ~ but ~ that may or may not be enough. I told my youngin not to shave because it would make the hair darker/courser and she would have to shave more often ~ she shaved anyway before **I** was ready.



She's fifteen now ~ and if she doesn't shave she's a mess. all stickely n prickely...



Idk ~ MOM! it's your call!



but ~ teach teach teach. if you are uncomfortable teaching ~ find an appropriate family member or website.

Maria - posted on 09/30/2009

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If she is really hairy then "YES"...I used to play basketball for the school i attended in 5th n 6th grades & since my mom didn"t let me shave I used to put alot of lotion on my legs so the hairs would stay down or I used to wear tube sock to my knees, it was really really bad n I also got teased.

Catherine - posted on 09/30/2009

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Yes, I'm surprised she isn't already doing that. If it bothers her it shouldn't be a big deal.

Dawn - posted on 09/30/2009

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My daughter has been shaving her legs since she was 7. First and last time she was called "gorilla girl". Problem SOLVED. It was a self-esteem issue not a maturity issue and it's never been an issue since.

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