Should i let my 13yo daughter shave her legs?

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Kathie - posted on 09/25/2009

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Of course! She is a teenager. She doesn't want to be embarassed at school in front of her friends and she has to learn sometime!

Karen - posted on 09/25/2009

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My youngest daughter started shaving at 12 just before going to the beach for vacation. I explained to her it was something that once started it had to be done regularly. You couldn't try it then change your mind as the hair tends to grow back darker and thinker. She has done very well with keeping up with it.

Kim Lee - posted on 09/25/2009

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I let my 12 year old shave her legs even though i felt it was unnecessary as she had very fine hair which was hardly noticable. To her however it was a bush and she begged to remove it. i also started her off with Veet and she applied it twice and never again.

i agree, kids can be cruel and I'd rather have a happy girl at school than a miserable one who refuses to go to school.

Sandie - posted on 09/25/2009

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I dont allow my daughter to shave her legs and she is 13, but i do buy her hair removing cream, i feel it is safer to use and well not have the hairs grow in to thick at a young age.

Lisa - posted on 09/25/2009

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Yes. If she is asking to do it then she is self conscious about it. There is enough issues teen girls struggle with these days. This should not have to be one. Please save your no's for the truly big issues. I'm a firm believer in picking your battles.

Shirley - posted on 09/24/2009

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Yes i know i know we all say once you do it you'll have to do it forever. who cares i don't i hated my mum cause she wouldn't let me shave at 13 .i have two girls and let them shave in yr 6 .i think little by little everything age appropriate save your NO's for when you really mean them ,she will listen to you if she thinks you are being fair it works ! good luck

Karen - posted on 09/24/2009

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yes, by all means. My daughter began at 10 she was very self conscience of her hairy legs when she began cheerleeding and twirling baton.

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my daughter was about 11 yrs old when she started shaving the legs but before i let her i explained that she was going to shave the rest of her life. If your daughter is ready to do so then let her. she is at the age where she is trying to fit in with everyone and yes kids are mean and cruel

Chrissy - posted on 09/24/2009

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I have a 13 year old daughter and she started shaving at 11. She came into my room one day with a thread loose on her sweater. When she raised her arm up I saw she had long dark hair, so she needed to shave under there. I knew if I gave her a razor and taught her how to shave her armpits she'd eventually do her legs anyway so I went ahead and taught her how. I didn't believe her when she said all the girls at school were already shaving before this, I have since learned she was telling the truth. Kids are growing and developing too early now compared to when we were kids.

Rochell - posted on 09/24/2009

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My daughter started at 11 because of the darkness and thickness of the hair on her legs. I actually shaved them the first time...she was preparing for her 5th grade dance and we didn't want band-aids showing. After that, she used Veet and then moved to the Schick Quattro razors. She has been shaving with them for over a year and a half now and hasn't cut herself once. We also use the Skintimate Shave Gel. Good luck!

Karen - posted on 09/24/2009

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Yes, I think its very important for young girls to feel good about theirselves and if shaving her legs makes her feel prettier, then by all means let her. I think this simple act of shaving legs gives young girls a start to better, healthier hygiene habits and practices.

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At thirteen Yes. I refused to let my daughter shave any earlier. I explained that when she starts shaving then it won't be long until the hair on her legs will be coarse & dark & she will find it a pain rather quickly. When she explained to her friends why I wouldn't let her shave until she was thirteen; most of them agreed with me.

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It should be up to her because she is the one who has to keep shaving.You need to let her know that you are not going to remind her to do it.Alot of kids these days are so mean and say bad stuff to other kids if they have hairy legs.Just remember back to when you were her age.

Angie - posted on 09/24/2009

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If she feels ready to start shaving, I would allow it. I have a 12 yr old and she started when she was 11. We started with the Nair and she just moved up to the razor and I walked her through it. It was something very special to me, to be able to do with my daughter, it also made me sad to know she is growing up. I also have a 10yr old that has sarted using the Nair as well, not as much. Kids are cruel and your child's self esteem is so important at this age. Good luck!!!!

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I would for the simple reason that even if you say no, she'll find a way to do it anyway if it's really important to her. This way you can show her the best way to do it to avoid knicks and cuts.

Kim - posted on 09/24/2009

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Yes you should let her shave. I have 2 daughters and my first one started shaving at 11 and my second just started and she is 10.

Kelly - posted on 09/24/2009

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Yes, 13 yo girls are running on a very small section of their brain during puberty. She will be on cloud 9 if you say yes. Then later when you are telling her no for something else and she tells you that you never let her do anything, you pull up the memory of teaching her to shave her legs!

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I too let my 11 yr old start now she needed to kids are cruel and I wanted her to be comfortable in her skin and with whom she is

Sarah - posted on 09/24/2009

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I started in sixth grade. My step-daughter started in sixth grade as well. She is part Italian and her hair on her legs is very dark. She was embarrassed and 90% of the girls in her class were shaving too.

Coleen - posted on 09/24/2009

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If she is ready for it then you should. If she has hairy legs then it could be a self esteem thing and she will be imbarressed during p.e. or when ever she has to wear shorts. If you are concerned about her cutting herself then get NAIR, or an electric razor that doesnt have blades. Just teach her the right way to do it and have her put on shorts the first time and show her how to do it.

Sue - posted on 09/24/2009

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My daughter started shaving her legs in the spring and she is thirteen. I don't tell her when to do it because I think it is something she should decide on. Sometimes she does it more often than not...like summer ...not as much in the winter.



My daughter is very dark hair and it is noticeable when she does not shave but I want her to feel comfortable when she does do it. I try to teach her that listening to herself about things like that encourages self esteem by increasing her ability to make decisions about herself. It's one more step to independance.



I think it should be the teens choice when they start..if they start at all.....but we as moms should be there for them when they do shave as it can be scary the first time for them.



I made all of her personal shaving items available ahead of time. I had her go with me and decide what kind of hair removal tool to use. It helped her to feel in control of her own body and what she does with it. I also explained the pro's and con's to shaving.



I think communicating with your daughter about it and educating her about is the best route......then allowing her to make the decision with the knowledge of the consequences of either choice. I figure we'll likely have much more serious things to be firm with in the future so some things I just let go of. "Don't sweat the small stuff"..because there will be bigger stuf as they grow older...lol :)

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my daughter started shaving at around 11.I started her off with using veet with the shaver that comes with it until she got used toshaving than she graduated about 9 months later to a regualar razor.good luck

Cass - posted on 09/24/2009

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I would find out if she wants to shave because of a friend or because she is hair aware. I ignored my daughters hints that she had a lot of leg hair, and only when her older brother asked her at the dinner table why she didn't shave her legs did I get the clue. I let her shave, but started her with a single blade, and taught her some tricks.

Tammy - posted on 09/24/2009

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I let my daughter start when she was 11...much earlier than i would have liked to, but some kids are cruel these days. She has dark hair, so was more visible to others to make fun of her. No problems with it. Actually started her with veet cream with the little fake razor tool.

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