Smart Mouth Kids! Ugh!
Angela - posted on 06/26/2009
Ignoring it isn't an option in my book; I think that's a horrible way to deal with things and not a solution to correct the behavior. When my daughter was little and said something bad, I put liquid soap in her mouth. She has very few slips ups now-a-days. At times when she does, I simply remind her that all that she has (the extras like phone, ipod, video games, outings, etc) are rewards for good behavior not bad. I am not obligated to give or provide those things for her. At any time, everything can and will disappear.
Natasha - posted on 06/11/2009
Smart Mouth Kids! Ugh!
What do you do when your kids are being little smart you know whats? ( Besides Grounding them)
Just curious to see how other parents handle this , thanks
My mother would have slapped me in the mouth. Period. We like to think that were are smarter than our parents, but they dealt with the same crap we are now. The only difference? We didn't have cell phones and computers. One of my children has a mouth on them ... OMG! I could just strangle them half the time! I don't ignore the bevavior but I do say "I did not disrepect you and while I cannot modify your behavior I can modify mine." I then leave; the mall, the room, the store, wherever we are ... I leave. I drop what I was buying, doing or asking and LEAVE. They can go with me or get left standing there. I don't care!
Taking away things makes the behavior worse, they become more abusive, more disrepectful and you must pick your battles. This one is a big one and lines must be drawn - I to this day DO NOT speak to mother the way I often get spoken to. Is smacking them so bad? I don't spank my kids not because I agree with the "don't spank your kids " syndrome that Dr. Spock started but because I know it can get out of hand, however, I am no worse for ware since my mother popped me. We aren't allowed to parent ... period! The kids know that, the adults know that ... when does it all stop? I agree that there is abuse in the world, but you know - my child learned a lot faster that hot was hot when her hand got popped. I could sit there all day with a two year old and say, "No, no HOT!" You know what she learned? The words No and Hot .... her feeling the sting of my hand was a lot better than 3rd degree burns on hers.
As for the ignoring them thing ... don't you feel like a two year old throwing a trantrum? "I'm not going to talk to you until you're nice to me!" I couldn't do it and feel that it's empowering the teenager. "Oh, if I push enough, they'll just stop talking to me!" Just my two cents!
Denise - posted on 06/11/2009
i put hot sauce on my daughters mouth an she spit an cried for 30 min but it worked. i don't understand some views today? my mother spanked my behind an i knew better to get into trouble an now its called abuse an we have kids carring guns an selling drugs ect.....now an then people ask where are the parents. well if we were aloud to be parents than maybe things would be different? now a days parents go to jail and kids get worse an think they have control.
Trina - posted on 06/10/2009
Oh I just LOVED this stage. We implemented a "no talking" policy. When they were little we refused to talk to them until they could ask/speak politely. Believe me, when they have to ask for the same thing 20 some times...they do finally get it.
When they got older they had to write their questions/comments down until we were ready to listen to them again. This drove them absolutely insane but it got the message across.
Now that they are 16 and 18 all we have to say is "MOUTH!" and they automatically rephrase politely.
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