Son Overseas

Jade - posted on 04/26/2017 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son has been with me 15 out of his 18 years and has left 4 months ago to go live with his Dad again overseas.
I never hear from him unless i message or call and even then he is usually busy or is concentrating on something else.
I totally get this has to do with his age and being in his own world of work, friends, girlfriend etc BUT it still really hurts.
How do i get him to understand this as all i have asked for is a message or call once a week. Am i asking too much?

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Sschenkel2 - posted on 05/07/2017

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You are letting people know that you are hurting and that is so important! It helps when you have a support system. Keep reaching out to wise, loving friends and family.

I understand your situation because my daughter did the same thing. Reaching out to Christian friends and relatives, Christian counseling, ongoing forgiveness, support groups like Divorce Care, prayer, and my faith helped me through the initial shock and even today. Do you have any support systems in place? Any that you are considering?

My daughter and I have a very good relationship now, but unfortunately, we understand why "God hates divorce". I tend to agree with Mary Mead's comments and pray you and your son will be reconciled soon!

Mary - posted on 04/30/2017

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I don't think you are asking too much, its just so easy at that age for kids to forget. Can you possibly talk to his dad about wanting to hear from him more? Can you write him a letter, just saying how much you love and miss him and how much it would mean to you to hear from him at least once a week? At minimum, I would send him letters whether he writes back or not, but not to guilt him but just to show him how much you care. I pray that The Lord is with you, comforts you and gives you peace and heals the distance you feel with your son.
God bless you!
Mary

Michelle - posted on 04/28/2017

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When I lived overseas my family never said I had to call once a week or anything like that. I feel it is a bit too much to request a call but a message or email doesn't take much. The internet wasn't around when I lived overseas and calling internationally cost a fortune so I guess I had an excuse.
My oldest son will be going to live with his Father next year and he will only be 16. Yes it will be hard but we have to let them go. Yours is an adult so it is time to focus on yourself.

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