Margaret - posted on 06/28/2012 ( 28 moms have responded )
I am floored. My dear boy (age fifteen) and a girl we have known since they were in preschool together are suddenly a couple, or they would be if I didn't forbid it.
Turns out the last several weeks she has been staying on our property overnight a lot, without me knowing though my husband was aware and helped my son get her a key to our guest cottage, supposedly to keep her save.
This girl has had a really tough life so far, her father died when she was six and her mother became a complete mess with an endless parade of loser boyfriends, the latest of which apparently tried to rape her.
I just learned that my son saved her there, confronting the creep after getting a desperate text from her, same way he took it upon himself to protect her for years in school from the relentless teasing and abuse she got, being as vulnerable as she is and perceived to be more then a bit weird.
Now they claim they are "in love".
I am just devastated that this girl would betray us in this way, by trying to have some romantic or (God forbid) sexual notions for my son.
I didn't mind them being just friends. I always thought they had more a brother/sister type of relationship. He has always been there for her, helping her and protecting her.
Vast throngs of girls have been after him for what seems like ages. I can understand why, he's very handsome, tall and athletic, well groomed, straight A student, articulate, mature and well mannered.
But my son has not been allowed to have a girlfriend, period.
My husband is no help, he claims that he knew they were in love long before they did and has no problem with it, thinks that is was inevitable and that our son caring for her is really the best thing that's ever happened to her.
I want him to concentrate on studies and achievements and not take any risk of being sidetracked by some little girl and her personal agenda. I don't want his life ruined. I want to protect him.
I am deathly afraid they're going to have sex (if they're not already) and she's going to allow herself to get pregnant just to get out of the rotten life she's got.
Despite her issues I feel she is a good kid, smart and pretty and deserves better then the hand she was dealt. But she still can't have my son.