Kelly - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
My 16 year old son has been dating a nice girl for about 8 months or so.
We have met her and both like her very much. she is a very good student, stays out of trouble and is very respectful when she calls the house. (unlike the last one)
Probelm is:: her parents. We have met her Mom and step-dad and I do not like them. apparently, they do not like us either But, that's ok with me!! He seems to be a very rude person- he disrepects her, her mother and my son. HE does not want her to come to our house due to his "knowledge" that they will not have any supervision at our house. how he know thisis beyond me!!
We have a few rules that will never change. they are rules that will protect them- not me. they are not allowed to be upstairs. they are not allowed to lay all over each other and they are not allowed to in the basement with the door closed(TV and such are down there).
now, over at their house- they are allowed in the basement- where her room is- and her Mom checks once and hour. he has come home with a hickey from HER house!! where was the supervision there????
I am frustrated because, I know my son really likes her. I would like to be able to get to know her better. I don't like that he can only go over there- why should he be gone every nite, when there is no reason why she shouldn't be able to come here.
I am in of the opinion that they are 16 and chances are, they won't be together forever but, who knows???? I don't need to be best friends with her family but, I am civilized to them. If I see them, I talk to them. I allow my son to go to their hosue, go away on day trips with them and won't allow him to pay for his own stuff. BUT, then I feel like we aren't good enough for them. We can never return the favour for her!