Spoilt teen

Jlhlhlhl - posted on 09/09/2017 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a 13 year old SPOILT teenager.
She wears whatever she wants to (crop tops, see thru blouses), has the latest iPhone 7.

She does no homework, instead paints her nails and texts her friends. Therefore failing school, getting F's.
She gets $60 a month, but we buy her clothes (brands like abercrombie fitch, hollister she insists) and shoes (Nike's)
Boys fancy her so she hangs out with them after school...
She's insisting for more money ($100 / month) do you think we should give her this much, or are we doing the right thing?

Update: She wants the new iPhone 8 which costs $ 1000 here in the USA. Should we get her this phone. I said no and she cried the whole day. I felt bad for her, now I think I Will get her this. I want her to be happy but is this spoiling her when I give her $ 60 a month?

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Brenda - posted 5 days ago

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This girl needs more than prayer, she needs a mom
Did you raise that money on your freggin welfare check? Moms do not listen to this idiot. No legit person would say these things

Brenda - posted 5 days ago

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Really? I am 50 and raised amazing kids. My advice...you are the parent just say no.you're going to feel really bad for her and yourself when she comes home pregnant. Btw its not spoilt it is straight up spoiled and you are doing it. Really a $1,000 phone for a 13 year old . Why would you buy her this? To make your your life easier and relieve your guilt. This has got to be fake, you let her out in see thru clothes and crop tops...you should be ashamed of yourself... Get it together!

Rose - posted 5 days ago

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We as parents want to give our children everything but, we don't need to. As parents we must set rules for our children. It's important for us as parents to teach them responsibility and prepare them to leave home when they become adults. Do you enforce house rules? Take care and I will be praying for you and your daughter.

Michelle - posted on 09/12/2017

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You need some parenting classes if you are in fact a parent.
Your poor child is just being set up to fail in the real world. Maybe CPS should step in and take her away from you.

Dove - posted on 09/10/2017

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lol You are either a child or a troll. I can't believe any REAL parent is as big of a moron as you are professing to be. You had me going for a second thinking you were a legit person. It's clear you either aren't a parent or you deep down hate your daughter. Why else would you keep wanting her to be a failure and not guide her appropriately? It is clear by your responses and ignoring the advice you asked for that you are either a troll or a failure. I'm hoping for troll. Nice going... go back to school, kid.

Jlhlhlhl - posted on 09/10/2017

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I did a deal with her.
I give her $100 per WEEK.
She does homework.
Smart , ain't it?

Jlhlhlhl - posted on 09/10/2017

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I did not spoil her , her Dad did.
He just gave her $300 to spend for a night out with friends.
What the hell can I do
She's already a year behind in school and most probably will be put 2 years behind.
She did not study for her exams because she was too busy painting her nails

Pegah - posted on 09/09/2017

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I really think you should teach her to earn stuff. When she asks you for iphone8, you should ask her why does she think that she deserve it. She needs to loose her monthly if she does not do good in school. I always show my kids less furtunate people life and ask them why do they think they deserve to get things. I know you want her to be happy but you need to teach her this lesson that there is no Free lunch in this world. Best of luck

Dove - posted on 09/09/2017

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Seriously? You stop giving her ANY money, take away all of her inappropriate clothes, take away all of her electronics, and stop allowing her to hang out w/ boys unsupervised. She can do chores and her homework to earn privileges! Unless you want to be a grandma in the next year or two and raising your own spoiled grandchild while she sits on your couch and does nothing w/ her life for decades on end.

Be a parent! Or reap the consequences... of which you already are, but clearly you don't care about what is BEST for your daughter. You aren't supposed to put their happiness first, but their well being and you are failing your child.

Ev - posted on 09/09/2017

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I have a 13 year old SPOILT teenager.----And she got this way because?

She wears whatever she wants to (crop tops, see thru blouses), has the latest iPhone 7.-----My daughter was not allowed to wear what she wanted to. And she never had a phone at that age.

She does no homework, instead paints her nails and texts her friends. Therefore failing school, getting F's.-----If she were my daughter she would have no phone or finger nail polish. She would be doing homework and working to bring those grades up. She would also forego all fun privileges until this happened.

She gets $60 a month, but we buy her clothes (brands like abercrombie fitch, hollister she insists) and shoes (Nike's)-----I would not be buying her brands she wants. I would be getting her what I could afford....Walmart clothing comes to mind. Shoes....again Walmart.

Boys fancy her so she hangs out with them after school...-----She is too young to be hanging out alone with the boys. She would be in a group setting with girls and boys ot just boys.

She's insisting for more money ($100 / month) do you think we should give her this much, or are we doing the right thing?------You give her money every month. Does she earn it? My kids had to earn the money they got. It was not just handed to them. I did not have the much to just hand over. She needs to be doing chores to earn that much.

Update: She wants the new iPhone 8 which costs $ 1000 here in the USA. Should we get her this phone. I said no and she cried the whole day. I felt bad for her, now I think I Will get her this. I want her to be happy but is this spoiling her when I give her $ 60 a month?-----Then she can want the phone and just use the one she has. She really does not need a phone at her age but maybe one that does not have all the stuff on it but just plain texting and talking.

Your child is more than spoiled. She has been given everything she wants and allowed to do what she wants for a long time. She has been given the idea that she can have or do what she wants and the world does not work this way. She has been given no rules where life is concerned to learn the lessons that need to be learned. By allowing her not to do homework, you have allowed her to fail and not take the consequences for it. You are as much the problem as she is.

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