Strip search of teenage son

Jessica - posted on 01/03/2018 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a 16 year-old son who has been in quite a bit of trouble lately. I won't go into any details here about that, just that it's potentially enough to cause serious problems for his future. I have started searching his bedroom thoroughly. I actually had to remove everything from his room except for his bed and a small amount of clothing. I have also had him empty his pockets in front of me when entering or leaving the house.


However, I know with reasonable certainty that he is hiding something. Again, not going to go into details on what it is, but I'm sure you can guess. I think the next step is for me to conduct a full strip search on him on a pretty regular basis until we can rebuild trust. His father doesn't want to do it, and I'm the one with a law enforcement background and I know what to look for.


I'm pretty conflicted about this though. It's one thing to strip search adult criminals in prison, but the idea of doing that to my teen son seems very different. I still spank him on bare skin, but it's always done in a way that preserves his dignity as much as possible. A proper strip-search is very undignified and can be quite traumatizing. Again, since this is my son, I'm wondering if any other moms have had to deal with the same situation. Should I act businesslike and professional or more motherly? Should I hug him at all or would that be even more uncomfortable? Should I even do this at all?

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Angela - posted on 01/07/2018

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When my husband and I suspected our son of drug and alcohol use, we required he submit to random drug/alcohol testing. On a couple of occasions he tested positive and we dealt with the situation at that time. My prayer is y'all will find a way to reach him with out having to resort to such a drastic measures

Mary - posted on 01/05/2018

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People can be quite creative when it comes to hiding things so I'd exhaust as many search options as possible before literally stripping him down neked. I'd alsmost wanna suggest a hidden cam in his room but that could be considered quite deceptive and open to mis-interpretion if word "got out" that you'd done that to your son. That's a difficult situation to be in and as carol said, in the end it is your house/your rules, so I'd just do it be kind and professional and if you don't find anything tell him "he passed" and that you're proud of him and that hopefully you won't have to do it again. Please let us know what you decide and how it goes.

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