Allison - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )
My son is 15, a freshman in high school. He gets good grades (top 5% of his class), does chores as requested and is otherwise your basic moody teenager. Last summer, he spent his days sleeping in, computer gaming and then 4 to 6 afternoons a week he'd attend Karate classes. Every once in a while he'd go to the driving range and hit golf balls but he had no desire to take lessons in golf. This summer he has no plans. We've investigated camps (most in the educational variety--held at college campuses, a couple more sport-themed). He is not interested. He is quitting Karate after 5 years (he refuses to try for his black belt--he's tried and failed twice and doesn't want to go through with it again). He isn't interested in taking golf lessons (although I'm about ready to sign him up anyway). He's really too young to work (isn't he?) and besides, with this economy will he be able to find anything? I'm afraid he's going to spend his summer in his room, glued to his computer monitor, gaming the day away. How can I motivate him to get outside and do something? I can't expect him to spend a lot of time outdoors (it gets over 110 degrees here in the summer), but I think he ought to be involved with something--even if it means meeting his friends at the mall or movie theater. Last summer I tried to get him more interested in golf in hopes that he'd try out for the high school team, but he doesn't want to get involved in anything at school. Any suggestions on what I should ask or require him to do this summer? He has no friends in the neighborhood, but I'm more than willing to drive him to his friend's place or vice versa. I can leave work at any time to shuttle him where he needs to be.