Roxanna - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
I don't know what else to do. My 16 yr old son is going to be a father. The only difference is that she is not or was not a girl friend. She is just a girl he "hooked up with" at a party. He is also on edge all the time and angry. It doesn't help that she texts him and makes derogatory comments about him on facebook all the time and tells him how worthless and uncaring he is. His problem is that he does not think the baby is his because she was supposedly with another boy about the same time. Having been in her shoes I have explained to him that he needs to man up and take responsibility. He has submitted to the fact that it is possibly his and is trying to accept it. He has purchased a couple of things for the baby and he even went to an OB appt with her because she said there was going to be a person there to explain to them what to expect (This was not the case though). He went with no resistance and left the appt let down because of it and she ignored him the whole time and played her video game. He has seen the ultrasounds and has now heard the babies heartbeat. When I asked him how that made him feel. He thought it was cool but the reality of it is scary.
Sorry, I'm rambling. My issue is how to get this girl to stop harrassing him. It is only pushing him further away. It is not helping the situation and making him dislike her. I have tried to sympathize with her and let her know that I know what she is going through since I had been there in her situation. I have asked her nicely to back off a little and stop posting derogatory things online and texting. As a result her latest post was that no one in the family would be able to see the baby except him. I am lost now and not sure how to proceed. Should I just let it go until the baby is born and paternity is proven and be prepared just in case or let it go? I refuse to argue "who knows what" with a teenage girl on a hormone roller coaster.