Lisa - posted on 10/23/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
My boyfriend is 15 years older than me. My 9, 6, & 5 year old moved in with him and his 16 (almost 17) year old daughter. Things are great. She doesn't mind that I am 12 years older than her and we have a great relationship. The only issue we have is that she refuses to talk with her father about personal issues. Her mother really isn't in her life and her father can sometimes be a bit close-minded. He is very strict with her and if she does have something she wants to say it turns into a big argument. I try not to get in the middle since she is not my child, but I feel like their relationship is falling apart. She has assured me that she hasn't been having sex and I do believe her. I have told both of them that if she tells me something that her father NEEDS to know I will not keep it a secret. If I tell him something that she has told me he gets upset and says 'well, she would tell you before she tells me.' I don't know how to get them to talk with each other and not fight. I come from a very close family and it hurts that they are not close. They are really all they have. My boyfriend doesn't talk to his brother and his daughter has a sister the same age as I am so they are not that close. I want her to feel comfortable talking with her father as well as me.