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My 15yo daughter has become obcessed with a girl she met online while playing video game. The "girl" is supposed to be 17 & lives in MO, we live in MD. The reason why i said "girl" is because I'm not sure if it truly is a teenage female. My daughter's grades have suffered as she would be texting or sneaking on the computer instwad of studying or doing homework. I feel like she has lured my daughter in by claiming she had brain cancer last year & that her family & friends were not supportive during her hospitalization. Number 1 I am a nurse & some of things she told my daughter didn't add up. Additionally, I have a chronically ill child myself & know the toll that is involved when a family member especially a child is ill.
Apparently, the girl recently revealed to my daughter that she is gay & that she wanted to date her. Of course this came at a time directly after my daughter had confessed her feelings about a boy who she found already had a girlfriend. Of course I would never choose my child to be gay or bisexual but this isn't the issue. The issue is that they both proclaim they don't want to live if they can't be friends & my daughter said she wanted to hurt herself. This exploded into an argument because I discovered that my daughter had been texting throughout the school.day. this is not allowed & if my daughter would've been caught she would've been suspended as she's already had a warning. I questioned her about the texting, she lied which turned into an argument & eventually a physical fight. She cursed at me, pushed & attempted to strike me repeatedly. This had NEVER happened before. I did slap her a couple times during the scuffle which resulted in a bruised & swollen eye. I've never struck her before, she hasn't had a spanking since about 6. I feel horrible, that I hit her. I couldnt believe that she'd jump in my face, shove me & curse me like a crazy person. I would be just as upset if she behaved this way & it was a boy. I've tried to explain to her that the connection is unhealthy & why. She confessed that she doesn't like girls sexually but that she was scared she would lose the friendship with this person if she didn't agree to be her girlfriend. This really concerns me that she can.be so influenced & codependent please offer any advice u can. Thx in advance