Jill - posted on 05/31/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )
I could use some advice...My 13 year daughter who is normally a very happy and well rounded girl is started to show signs of depression. She does extreamly well in school and has not missed a day of school for over 4 years, even when I try to get her to stay home when she is not feeling well. I noticed an a "BIG" change in her beyond the normal teen moods.
Her father and I seperated when I found out have been divorced since she was 3 months old and three years ago he showed an interest in spending time with her. It was a major change in our lives since I had her everyday for over 10 1/2 years. It is really good for him to want to be in her life. We have a split parenting plan 50/50. And, there are two very different parents styles. I am in the field of Early Childhood Education and want to preserve the relationship with her father.
I encourage her to have friendships because these relationships are so important. She told me last night her dad restricts her friendships. She said she feels as if she can't do anything right in his eyes, and she feels herself feeling sad and stays in her room when she is with him. When she got an got an A- , instead of lots of praise, he told to try harder next time.
He is a very controlling person, hence, the divorce so, I know how she is feeling.
How can I support her ? We spent time talking last night for a long time as I held her in my arms just like I always do. It is sad to see my baby girl struggling with her self worth. I told her we may have to seek a professional to help her through this tough time but she is not open to it at this time. And is afraid her dad will be mad at me if I seek help for her. Ia m noty worriede about that. I am worried about the long term effects.
Can anyone offer any advice? I am considering modifying our parenting time because I am so worried about her getting deeper into depression.