To Take Him or Not ? Need advice

Cassandra - posted on 10/27/2017 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Need opinions!! In about a week we are planning on taking our soon to be 5 year old to Disneyland for her birthday. My husband and I are unsure about what to do with our 15 year old. Right now he has 3 F's and the rest B's. Hes had those F's since almost the beggining of the school year and just seems not to care and is lazy. Doesn't tun in class work or homework. we've been trying to help him raise those grades and spoke with all his teachers but nothing.... He's been able to go to other fun school events (dances and games)

We are not sure if we should take him or not. We are going on a weekday so he would have to miss school. What would you guys do in this situatuion????

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Wendi - posted on 11/04/2017

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Hi. My name is Wendi and I have a 15 year old son too. I can definitely relate to your situation. I am not sure about your son, but my son is a big-time gamer (on the computer, or anything that is related to computers), so what I have done in the past and still do currently is advise him that if he gets any D's or F's on his report card and progress reports he loses his computer privileges until the next quarter. Since I implemented this he has not received 1 D since elementary school. My daughter is all about her cell phone, so she is aware if she gets any D's she loses the cell phone under the same terms as her brother. So basically, you want to take away what they love the most (XBOX, Computer, cell, TV, going out with friends, etc.), and follow through. I also have given them incentive to not only do well in school but to excel by rewarding them if they get an A on tests/quizzes, finals, and report cards. If they get multiple A's on their report cards, they can earn up to $100. If they get A's on tests/Quizzes they can pick out a reward. For example, my son loves GFuel (so he usually picks a new flavor he wants), and he collects their shaker cups. The Gfuel drink costs $34.95 and if he gets an A on a test or final I am more than happy to spend the $34.95. My daughter loves to get pedicures, so she usually picks that. If he doesn't turn in a homework assignment then he loses the school dance, or pick a chore that he has do for a week (something that he absolutely hates (mopping the floors, cleaning the bathrooms, picking up after the dog in the back yard, etc.) or whatever you decide that would work best so he knows he best do his homework, and turn it in.

So, here's my thoughts on the Florida trip…I would have a sit down with him at the dinner table after you of course speak to your husband and come up with your own award/consequence game plan. I would make it very clear that he will be joining and be a part of his sister’s birthday (I would think she would want her big brother to be with her to celebrate her big day); However, he will need to gather all his homework for the day(s) he will miss, and it is his responsibility to make sure he does it, and turns it in.

Your son seems to be very smart since he is getting B's in all the other classes. My son is very smart too, but he makes that computer come before anything else (before I implemented our system). Maybe talk to him and see if he will tell you what issues in these 2 classes he is having trouble with. Perhaps see if he would be willing to have a tutor help him with those 2 classes.

Mary - posted on 10/30/2017

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Was the trip contingent upon his improving his grades? If yes, then the answer is a no brainer. Although this sounds like more of a surprise for your youngest, and I'd be concerned about leaving a 15 yo at home alone especially if he doesn't care and is lazy

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