Loraine - posted on 09/21/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
I know a lady who's son is going to be marrying this young lady and the mothers are not seeing eye to eye.
Now, the lady that I know is the mother to the young man. Her son is 22 and lives at home due to college. The groom's mom has 4 boys and the oldest is getting married to the other lady's daughter. The brides mom has 1 boys and 3 girls. The brides moms son married a couple of years ago and she helped in every way with the wedding. She played a huge role in decorations and cake making.
The grooms mom has been told to completely bud out and is not invited to do anything at all. The bride wanted the grooms mom to help with the picking of the dress and the invitations. The brides mom through a huge fit and said that the grooms mom is to do nothing. So, the bride and groom are putting up with this and won't stand their ground even though they say they want the grooms mom to help but they don't know what to do.
The groom's mom was going to help pay for the wedding and all of the invitations and wedding photos but she is hurt that her son or his bride neither one will stand up to the brides mom and tell her what they want. They won't remind her that she did a lot for her oldest son's wedding and that she is not the one that is calling the shots.
The groom's mom has never confronted the bride's mom and has decided to not say a word since it is not her place. However, she does not feel like she should pay a single red cent for anything, even though she really wants to.The groom's mom has made plans to just show up at the wedding and not worry about anything. I am her very good friend and this is eating her up inside. She just does not understand what the deal is with this woman.
The sad thing is that the bride's parents are losing their home and can barely put food on the table. Yet... she is being so selfish and hateful that she is going to ruin her daughter's wedding because of it. The mother to the bride has never allowed the bride much time with the groom's mom. I don't want to go into it because it is just a terrible situation and I don't want the bride's mom to recognize herself in this since she is a on facebook... I think.
If it were your children... What would you do, expect, etc...
She is very upset that the bride and groom are not standing up for her. She feels that they AGREE with the brides mother since they are not telling the bride's mom how things will be since they are going to have to pay for most of their own wedding since the groom's mom has decided to not "get involved".
Personally, I agree with the groom's mom. Just don't help or offer to help or pay for one single thing... not even a single flower petal.