Sandra - posted on 08/07/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have a problem too with my 14 year old daughter who has befriended a 14 year old boy on facebook. I monitor her facebook and have found out that they have become quite close. Apparently she has helped him overcome a previous break up with a girl as he was threatening to harm himself which he did do by burning his arm. He now says on his messages to her that he loves my daughter and that he doesn't know what he would do without her. Looking back at his messages he has also admitted to attending Anger management counciling and has an early intervention team. My daughter wanted to meet up with him for the first time and I have told her under no cirmcumstances must she. When I have checked on his facebook account, he smokes and drinks. My daughter told him via facebook that she wasnt allowed to see him as his family allow him to smoke and drink etc. He then went mad and asked to speak to us. My husband spoke to him through facebook telling him that he does not want his daughter involved with a person who is undergoing anger management, and who smokes and drinks. He has pleaded with him that he will give up smoking and drinking to be with my daughter as he loves her so much. My daughter admits to loving him even though they have never met personally! I have told her that I am going to block him on facebook as he sounds like he has lots of mental issues, she has said that he will commit suicide if we do this, I have told her that this is not our problem. I have also told her that he is being manipulative saying this. She did agree with this but wants to still be friends with him on facebook. We had decided to let her after much discussion. When I've checked her facebook again since, he has sent her loads of messages saying he loves her and cant wait for them to be together and he said that when he feels angry he thinks of her and feels better. He has told her that his anger management sessions finish atthe end of the month and he is cured! I am very alarmed at this and so is her father. We now want to block him entirely and remove his mobile number from her phone. I know this is going to be tough love and my daughter will scream and hate us for this but it has to be done,doesn't it?, or am I being over the top and horrible like she says I am being? Believe me I feel like taking facebook off her altogether right now and her phone too!