What are bed times for teens and pre-teens

Nelly - posted on 11/01/2010 ( 180 moms have responded )

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I have 4 children ages 16, 14, 12, and 10 years old. My oldest 2 go to bed at 8:30pm on week-nights and on week-ends they go to bed at 9:00pm, my youngest 2 go to bed at 8:00pm on week-nights and 8:30pm on week-ends lately they have all been asking to go to bed laer. Just curious about bed times with your teens and pre-teens

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Teresa - posted on 11/05/2010

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Bed time depends on what time they need to wake up and if they are tired or not in the morning but here is a guideline on how many hours they need so you can then figure out what time they need to go to bed.
Average Sleep Needs
Age Hours
Newborns (0-2 months)

12 - 18

Infants (3 months to 1 year)

14 - 15

Toddlers (1 to 3 years)

12 - 14

Preschoolers (3 to 5 years)

11 - 13

School-aged children (5 to 12 years)

10 - 11

Teens and preteens (12 to 18 years)

8.5 - 10

Adults (18+)

7.5 - 9

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My kids are 14 and 18.....until they turned 14, their bedtime was 9pm on school nights, now bedtime is 9:30pm. But alot of the times, they chose to go to bed earlier. As far as weekends and summers, I do not impose a bedtime. I feel they are old enough to make this decision.

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9 years and younger - 7:30
10 - 12 years 8:00
13 - 15 years 9:00
16 - graduation 10:00

Of course there were times when there would be activities that kept them up later. If they were crabby they went to bed earlier.

No phone until homework was done and no phone after 9:00pm. Today that would include texting and no phones in the bedrooms.

Weekends bed time was 10pm or when you got crabby and whiny. 16 and over had to be in the house by 11pm. No excuses. Nothing good happens after midnight and I liked to be awake to welcome them home. ;)

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I am also a believer of learning in natural consequenses. Sundays thru Thursday his bed time is 10:30 ish... but there are many times he chooses to go later as he needs to do his school projects and now that he is 17 he is all over the place. I jokinly call it "He is doing O.T. (overtime) as he works in the middle of the night on his classwork. When he comes from school he is exhausted sleeps all afternoon. I get on his case if I get any complain from any teacher for falling asleep in class. He does that acouple of times and then he is back on track on his own. He has to learn to police himsef because when he goes to college I won't be able to... Hope that helps. There's only so much your body can take and he can test his limits because he knows my main rule unless he has a real fever or he is dieying he will go to school "He has manage a perfect attendance". Our school districts has an e-mail service and I singned up for grades & attendance, so he knows that I receive it DAILY so there's no issue because I will forward the report to him... and addess it when I get home. You gotta use technology...

Mary - posted on 09/30/2013

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Teenagers 10:30 week nights 1am w/e. I have a hard time believing your bedtimes, they're not 7 anymore! For the younger ones 10:00 week day & 11:30 w/e. Unless they have early commitments...

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Astrid - posted on 02/01/2014

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My 13 year old(s) goes to bed at 10pm, and my 3 year old goes to bed at 7pm. Up until she was 8, my 13 year old went to bed at 7pm, then when she was 9 it changed to 8pm, then when she was 9 it changed to 8:30pm, then at 10 it was 9pm, then at 11 it changed to 10pm. I just basically did for bedtimes what I had a as a child. On holidays they can stay up later, but not on the weekends.

I feel I should add that they don't get up until 7am.

Jillian - posted on 02/01/2014

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I have 4 children ages 13, 8, 4, and 1. My 13 yr old goes to bed at 9:30pm, bit gets ready for bed at 9. She wakes up at 6:45am, but she sleeps about 8 hours which her really good doctor recommended for a teen. For 2 oldests should go to bed at 9:00pm-10:00pm on weeknights and 11:00pm on weekends. Not saying you're doing wrong but that is as better time range. For your youngest 2 it should be 8:30pm-9:30pm on weeknights and 10:00pm on weekends. Hope I helped.

Trisha - posted on 10/04/2013

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my children at grade 5 was allow to stay up til 9 if they could wake up by alarm and get up and ready for school on their own and Friday and sat we usually are busy not set time (usually still in bed by 10ish on their own. at grade 7th it was 9:30 with the same if you can get up and ready for school with no problem. High school is 10:00 and I have had one senior and she didn't have a bed time cause she worked and got up for school and drove to school but her main rule was if she wasn't working Sunday through thursday she needed to be at home by 10:00 and she had to come home sunday thru Thursday each night no sleep overs anywhere. once she graduates she was able to do what she wanted when she moved out. and Graduation day she went to school came home loaded her stuff and moved to her new apartment and we saw her graduate. I couldn't be prouder. She is also a assistant manager now (she was 17 when she graduated and a month later turned 18 and got her promotion. It's hard to let them go but Having 6 children I have learned & adjusted with each one of them.

Deborah Ridgely - posted on 09/27/2013

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It may also depend on what time they get up in the morning and when they shower. Ours shower in the evening, usually, so they don't have to get up so early. They don't have any big morning jobs before school, so they can be up in the AM by 6 and walk to school by 7:30. So if they are in bed sleeping by 9:30PM, then they have 8 - 8 1/2 hours to sleep. My 17 year- old likes to stay up past 10PM, though, and she will learn if she needs more sleep. Haven't heard any complaints that they are falling asleep in school, yet.

Deborah Ridgely - posted on 09/27/2013

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During the school year, we have made it the rule that they should get 8 hours of sleep. We have a 12, a 14, and a 17 year old. Bedtime for them all is 9 or 9:30 PM. Often, the youngest goes to bed earlier than the others. They know what bedtime is and choose to get a good night's sleep as often as possible. On Fridays and Saturdays we relax it a little and let them stay up a bit later for events and so forth. Makes Mondays a bit harder to get up, though.

Lily Allen - posted on 09/02/2013

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My child is 11 and goes to bed at 8:30 on weekdays and 9:30 on weekends she is not grumpy in the morning but it usually depends on the child

Hermione - posted on 06/02/2013

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My children go to bed at the following times:
2 year old and 4 year old : 6.45-7PM weekends: 7.00PM
7 year old and 10 year old: 8PM weekends 9PM and 9:30PM for 10 year old
13 yr old twins and 14 year old: 9:30PM and 10PM on weekends
if Birthday or Christmas, sleepover or other special occasion then i arrange a compromise with my children. I believe that if we compromise on bed-times then my children are happy and i am happy = kids that aren't tired!! :D hope this helps.

Jessica - posted on 01/29/2013

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My daughters (18 yo and 16 yo) go to bed at 7 pm at weekdays and at 6.30 pm at weekends

Lucy - posted on 10/20/2012

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well for the 16 year old, i think it makes sense to got to sleep 11:30



for the 14 year old, i think 11:00, but make it on only some nights because kids sometimes complain by saying "its not fair i wanna go to sleep 11:30 too."



for the 12 year old 10:30



and the 10 year old 9:45



because when you sleep you get the most growth.

Dink - posted on 10/19/2012

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My kids are 13, 10, and 7. My oldest goes to bed at 10 pm, and the younger two go to bed at 8:30.

Seph - posted on 09/04/2012

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I am 13 and go to bed at 10-10:30 on week days and 10-12:30 on weekends depending on when I get up

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My 8 year old goes to bed at 9:00

My 13 year old goes at 10:00

My 16 year old goes about 11:00 she has cheer practice every day until 6:00 so she has a little extra time cause she usually don't make it off the activity bus until 6:30 so that gives her time to do her homework, eat and enjoy some time listening to music, computer or watching a little t.v. since she is not home as early as the other kids.

Gkijubs - posted on 08/26/2012

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Im a 13 year old girl and I go to sleep at 3am each night and wake up at 2pm

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wow, I am surprised that your 14 & 16 year olds go to bed so early. I'm just curious, do your oldest 2 actuallly fall asleep at that time? How do they get their homework done by then?

Anoymous - posted on 08/18/2012

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Hi. I am 13 years old and I am going to tell you the times that I go to bed. I have a 11 year old brother and we both go to bed at the same times. On weekends the average is about 10.00pm and on weekends we are able to stay up for as late as want, as long as we are quiet and are entertaining ourselves. For example reading a book. As long as they get enough rest, but it is really up to the individual child and how much sleep he requires. Which you can tell by if he is a morning person, then he does not need much sleep, but the children that try to sleep in are the ones that need earlier bed times. I hope this helps :)

Sherri - posted on 04/08/2012

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Really my 13 & 15yr old's bedtime is 9:30pm on school nights and they are never made fun of!! Honestly here it would be your kids that would be made fun of because of how late they are allowed to stay up.

Jen - posted on 04/08/2012

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Having a 16 year old go to bed at 8:30 is....well let's just say I strongly disagree with that. Our family doesn't even eat dinner until 7:30 or 8!



My 8 year old twins go to bed at 9:30, 10 on weekends, and my 14 year old goes to bed at 11:30 or 12, and 1 or 2 on weekends. I think that's extremely reasonable.



The twins wake up at 7:30 on weekdays, and my oldest at 7:50. On weekends, she usually tries to stay in bed until 11 or 12, and I'm fine with that.



My oldest daughter has a friend (13 years old) that is forced to go to bed at 9:30 and is constantly made fun of by their peers. I don't want my kid to end up like that. So i would just make sure that you don't tell anyone about your children's early bedtimes.

Carol Ann - posted on 02/27/2012

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My 14 year old son goes to bed between 9:30 and 10:00 weekdays and on the weekends if he behaves and has done his chores he gets to stay up until midnight. His friends are all on line playing xbox at that time also.

Pam - posted on 11/28/2011

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My fourteen year old daughter goes to bed at 10 on week nights and around 11ish on weekends unless she is haviing sleepover or friends over.

Shawnn - posted on 11/28/2011

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Wow, that is certainly WAY early, in my house at least.

That being said, my 17 yo sets his own bedtime. and it's anywhere from 8:30 on, depending on how much sleep he needs. And he knows how well he does or doesn't function. My 14 YO is 9:30 on school nights, 10 on weekends.

Kelly - posted on 11/27/2011

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I have two boys, twins, aged 7 and two daughters, 13 and 15. My boys go to bed at 8:30pm on weekdays after helping clean up the kitchen for 10 minutes and are allowed to read for 15 minutes. On weekends they are allowed to go to bed at any time before 9:30.

My 13 and 15 year old must help to clean the kitchen, or any other area that needs cleaning for 15 minutes. They are then free to shower, use their laptops, watch television or read until 10pm. They must both be in their beds by 10pm and we turn off internet access at 10:30.

Kelly - posted on 11/27/2011

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I have two boys, twins, aged 7 and two daughters, 13 and 15. My boys go to bed at 8:30pm on weekdays after helping clean up the kitchen for 10 minutes and are allowed to read for 15 minutes. On weekends they are allowed to go to bed at any time before 9:30.

My 13 and 15 year old must help to clean the kitchen, or any other area that needs cleaning for 15 minutes. They are then free to shower, use their laptops, watch television or read until 10pm. They must both be in their beds by 10pm and we turn off internet access at 10:30.

Rosalie - posted on 11/06/2011

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they need about 9 hrs sleep being teens but unless your kids get up really early 8:30 sounds way too early. They'd be getting up at 5:30 am. When mine was 10 he went to bed at 9ish, now he's 16 he tries for 10:30

Triwan - posted on 09/21/2011

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Well the obvious is atleast 8 hours, however if the child shows signs of still being tired, not wanting to get up and/or sluggish at school then that says that 8 hours was not enough sleep for that particular child and an adjustment is needed i.e. earlier bedtime for more hours of sleep. Play with it as each child is different. My son used to require 10 hours to be awake and alert in the mornings now at 14, he gets 9, lol.

Ann - posted on 09/15/2011

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we have bed time for my 16 year old as 10pm and read for an hour so lights out at 11pm. She gets up early and has to be in her first class by 8am. If at any time she starts falling back to sleep and doesn't get up and stay on task we will be taking it back to 9pm bed and read till 10pm. My 13 almost 14 year old doesnt have to be at school till 9am or 8:30 on resource days and his bed tim is bed at 9pm and lights out by 10pm but hes not as hard to get up in the morning and uses his alarm alot of times. He also has plenty of time to wach a little tv cause he is so fast at getting what he needs to get don before he goes to school.

Pauline - posted on 09/15/2011

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i have a 14yr and 15yr teenage boys and they are up until 10.30pm half the time they go before that. weekends i have no bedtime but they still go about same time. We sometimes have a rush in the mornings but then they usually go to bed earlier that night, so they know their own boundaries now.

Rachel - posted on 09/13/2011

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my bed time for my 10 year old is 9:00pm on weekdays and weekends unless the family is up on saterdays past 9 for family movie nights.

my 2 year old goes down at 8

Louise - posted on 09/11/2011

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that seems a bit early for teens. Of course it depends on what time they have to get up for school. My daughter is 16yr, and we stopped setting a bedtime, but generally she starts to get ready for bed around 9pm on weekdays during the school year, but on weekends she usually stays up as late as 11-12pm, unless we have plans to go somewhere that requires her to get up early.

Sarah - posted on 09/10/2011

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well 16 i woulf say 11:00 and 14 about 10:00 - 10:30 12 no later than 10:00 12 i would say 9:00 - 9:30

Rachel - posted on 07/30/2011

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I think every person, regardless of age, is different when it comes to the amount of sleep they actually need to function well each day. If you are concerned that she isn't getting enough sleep, you might let her know that the later bedtime is always a privilege that has to be earned based on her performance in school and other activities. If she is able to keep her grades up, stay out of trouble (and stay awake) in school, church, or wherever, interact appropriately with family members, and it doesn't interfere with the rest of the family's schedule, then what is the harm in her staying up a little later at night and getting a little less sleep? If anything you feel is important begins to suffer as a result of her needing more sleep than she is getting, then take away the privilege of a later bedtime. I think it's important to begin giving teens a little bit of freedom and responsibility in making decisions for themselves so they can learn what works and what doesn't on their own. Bedtime is an easy way to give them freedom with something that isn't really that big of a deal. I've given my kids this freedom for years and my oldest, who is 16 now, often goes to bed as early as 10pm, even in the summer, which is earlier than I would tell him to go to bed if I were to give him a bedtime. He knows when he's tired and goes to bed then. And, he also chooses to go to bed early when he knows he has to get up early. I don't tell him anything about when he should go to bed. I really think that giving him the freedom to make this choice has made him more responsible. Anyway, you have to do what fits best for your family and what you feel comfortable with. Afterall, you are the parent and you make the rules! If you really don't like it, you don't have to allow it. Good luck!

Janet - posted on 07/30/2011

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The problem I have with my thirteen year old daughter is no matter how early I make her go to bed, she will read until eleven when she feels it is too late. She gets 3 hours of homework regularly and gets home at 5, so I feel that if I don't give her this time to do what she wants I am being mean, but doesn't she need more sleep if she is waking up at 6.25? That means she can get as little as 7 hours a night if it takes a while for her to fall asleep!

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I do think that's abit early,My bed time at 11 was 9:30,And my 10 yo gets sent to bed at 9.I find if she goes to bed too early she oversleeps,So i guess it's up to the sleeping needs of you children.

Sherri - posted on 06/08/2011

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I think more importantly is working the bedtimes out with the children and helping them understand the importance of getting a certain amount of hours. My kids at preteen age wanted to feel that they had some say in the bedtime. For the most part we were able to work it out with little conflict because they we did it together. Even my son who is now 14 and has ADD which has its own challenges regarding sleep has worked an arrangement that involved give and take our his part and ours to come to a workable solution. My children are 14, 19, 21, and 22.

Jamie - posted on 05/17/2011

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Cool so I wasn't the meanest mom in the whole world good to know there are other meanies out there too For gr.9 first semester they went to bed at 9, 2nd semester as long as the grades were good 9:30, gr10@ 9:30 2nd semester@ 10, grade 11@ 10, 2nd semester 10:30 etc. by the time they got to grade 12 they were going back to bed on their own sometimes at 9 pm b/c they had sports training at 6 am or what have you, I almost went into shock the first time I realized that I no longer orchestrated my kids day.A mother's job is to teach her children to not need her anymore. The hardest part of that job is accepting success.

Ariesgirl - posted on 05/12/2011

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While a high schooler, my bedtime was 830pm. I had to be at school by 8am daily, so that time kept me from being tired during the day. It really depends on what time school start for your children and what extra curricular activities they are involved in. Good luck!

Krystel - posted on 03/08/2011

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my daughter is 15 and goes to bed around 10:00 or 10:30 through weekdays & on weekends she doesnt have a set time for bed!

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My children went to bed at 8 until they reached 5th grade, then after that they had to be in their rooms by nine with no set bed time, but I can say that they were usually sound asleep by 10 - 10:30 and have not set a bed time since. This has worked well for me, not to say it is the right thing to do but I have not had to tell my kids to go to bed since. I have a 16 and 19 year old...... Good luck

Trina - posted on 03/05/2011

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I have a 16 and a 14 year old. they go to bed @ 10 on the weeknights, and by 1 am or so on the weekends.

Leonie - posted on 03/01/2011

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I have 4 kids aged 9, 12, 13, and 15.
The 9yr old is supposed to go to bed at 8:30 but is never there until 9pm. The 12 and 13yr old suposed to go to bed at 9 but usually they watch TV in there bedroom till 9:30. The oldest is supposed to go to bed at 9:30 but sometimes watches tv in her room until 10:30.
The 9 yr old often sneaks into the oldest ones room (double bed) and falls asleep watching tv. I usually check them about 10 to 10:30 and make sure no tvs are on. If they miss the bus in the morning they have to go to bed eariler the next night. Although sometimes I forget and they get away with it.
On weekends they usually go to bed between 10 and 11:30.

Jennifer - posted on 03/01/2011

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My son goes to bed at 9:30 on school days, unless he refuses to listen. Which is up to him , if he chooses not to listen its early bedtime and a consequence. He will be 16 in July.

Chrissy - posted on 02/23/2011

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When my son started school, his bedtime was about 7:30 on weeknights and about an hour later for weekends, and generally i'd bump it up half an hour every couple of years for weeknights and keep the extra hour for weekends.
So 6-7yrs was 7:30 (wknds 8:30), 7-9yrs was 8:00 (wknds 9:00), 9-10yrs was 8:30 (wknds 9:30), 11-12yrs was 9:00 (wknds 10:00). Now he is a 13 year old and its 9:30 on weeknights, as I decided to bump it up every half an hour each year since his becoming a teenager. On weekends his bedtime is midnight, because he can sleep in however long he needs.
So for weeknights when his 14 it'll be 10, when 15 it'll be 10:30, when 16 it'll be 11, and weekends will stay at midnight. After 16, he can make his own bedtime.
Before he became a teenager, his bedtime never bothered or affected him, unless it was daylight savings and still light outside when he was going to bed, then he'd be a little put out!!!

Jennifer - posted on 12/14/2010

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my teens go to bed at 10:00 and my 2 yr old goes to bed at 8:00. the pediastrician says that too much sleep is not healthy for teens 9 hrs for them and 10 for the little ones is more then enough. hope this helps you

Jennifer - posted on 12/14/2010

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My son gets up around 7-7:30am on school days and is starting to do school activities now. He is 15. I have him go to bed around 9:30 -10pm, with him knowing that if he chooses to act up because he is tired the next day, bed time will be earlier. I dont have to do this very often or too many days in a row and he has learned to keep his arguing in check over time. It doesnt repeat itself twice in a row usually. I know when he is tired when he chooses to be disrespectful.

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