What are bed times for teens and pre-teens

Kirsty - posted on 04/16/2013

My children are 6 and 8. Their bedtime is 7p.

Kirsty - posted on 04/16/2013

My children are 6 and 8. Their bedtime is 7p.

Jessica - posted on 01/29/2013

My daughters (18 yo and 16 yo) go to bed at 7 pm at weekdays and at 6.30 pm at weekends

Lucy - posted on 10/20/2012

well for the 16 year old, i think it makes sense to got to sleep 11:30



for the 14 year old, i think 11:00, but make it on only some nights because kids sometimes complain by saying "its not fair i wanna go to sleep 11:30 too."



for the 12 year old 10:30



and the 10 year old 9:45



because when you sleep you get the most growth.

Dink - posted on 10/19/2012

My kids are 13, 10, and 7. My oldest goes to bed at 10 pm, and the younger two go to bed at 8:30.

Seph - posted on 09/04/2012

I am 13 and go to bed at 10-10:30 on week days and 10-12:30 on weekends depending on when I get up

Amy - posted on 08/26/2012

My 8 year old goes to bed at 9:00

My 13 year old goes at 10:00

My 16 year old goes about 11:00 she has cheer practice every day until 6:00 so she has a little extra time cause she usually don't make it off the activity bus until 6:30 so that gives her time to do her homework, eat and enjoy some time listening to music, computer or watching a little t.v. since she is not home as early as the other kids.

Gkijubs - posted on 08/26/2012

Im a 13 year old girl and I go to sleep at 3am each night and wake up at 2pm

Anna - posted on 08/20/2012

wow, I am surprised that your 14 & 16 year olds go to bed so early. I'm just curious, do your oldest 2 actuallly fall asleep at that time? How do they get their homework done by then?

Anoymous - posted on 08/18/2012

Hi. I am 13 years old and I am going to tell you the times that I go to bed. I have a 11 year old brother and we both go to bed at the same times. On weekends the average is about 10.00pm and on weekends we are able to stay up for as late as want, as long as we are quiet and are entertaining ourselves. For example reading a book. As long as they get enough rest, but it is really up to the individual child and how much sleep he requires. Which you can tell by if he is a morning person, then he does not need much sleep, but the children that try to sleep in are the ones that need earlier bed times. I hope this helps :)

Breaux109 - posted on 06/02/2012

I. Have. A. 13 year old girl. She. View to. Bed. At. 9:00 -1:20

Angel - posted on 04/13/2012

9 year old goes at 9 during the week and about the same on the weekend..

Sherri - posted on 04/08/2012

Really my 13 & 15yr old's bedtime is 9:30pm on school nights and they are never made fun of!! Honestly here it would be your kids that would be made fun of because of how late they are allowed to stay up.

Jen - posted on 04/08/2012

Having a 16 year old go to bed at 8:30 is....well let's just say I strongly disagree with that. Our family doesn't even eat dinner until 7:30 or 8!



My 8 year old twins go to bed at 9:30, 10 on weekends, and my 14 year old goes to bed at 11:30 or 12, and 1 or 2 on weekends. I think that's extremely reasonable.



The twins wake up at 7:30 on weekdays, and my oldest at 7:50. On weekends, she usually tries to stay in bed until 11 or 12, and I'm fine with that.



My oldest daughter has a friend (13 years old) that is forced to go to bed at 9:30 and is constantly made fun of by their peers. I don't want my kid to end up like that. So i would just make sure that you don't tell anyone about your children's early bedtimes.

Carol Ann - posted on 02/27/2012

My 14 year old son goes to bed between 9:30 and 10:00 weekdays and on the weekends if he behaves and has done his chores he gets to stay up until midnight. His friends are all on line playing xbox at that time also.

Pam - posted on 11/28/2011

My fourteen year old daughter goes to bed at 10 on week nights and around 11ish on weekends unless she is haviing sleepover or friends over.

Shawnn - posted on 11/28/2011

Wow, that is certainly WAY early, in my house at least.

That being said, my 17 yo sets his own bedtime. and it's anywhere from 8:30 on, depending on how much sleep he needs. And he knows how well he does or doesn't function. My 14 YO is 9:30 on school nights, 10 on weekends.

Kelly - posted on 11/27/2011

I have two boys, twins, aged 7 and two daughters, 13 and 15. My boys go to bed at 8:30pm on weekdays after helping clean up the kitchen for 10 minutes and are allowed to read for 15 minutes. On weekends they are allowed to go to bed at any time before 9:30.

My 13 and 15 year old must help to clean the kitchen, or any other area that needs cleaning for 15 minutes. They are then free to shower, use their laptops, watch television or read until 10pm. They must both be in their beds by 10pm and we turn off internet access at 10:30.

Kelly - posted on 11/27/2011

I have two boys, twins, aged 7 and two daughters, 13 and 15. My boys go to bed at 8:30pm on weekdays after helping clean up the kitchen for 10 minutes and are allowed to read for 15 minutes. On weekends they are allowed to go to bed at any time before 9:30.

My 13 and 15 year old must help to clean the kitchen, or any other area that needs cleaning for 15 minutes. They are then free to shower, use their laptops, watch television or read until 10pm. They must both be in their beds by 10pm and we turn off internet access at 10:30.

Rosalie - posted on 11/06/2011

they need about 9 hrs sleep being teens but unless your kids get up really early 8:30 sounds way too early. They'd be getting up at 5:30 am. When mine was 10 he went to bed at 9ish, now he's 16 he tries for 10:30

Nancy - posted on 11/06/2011

crap

Triwan - posted on 09/21/2011

Well the obvious is atleast 8 hours, however if the child shows signs of still being tired, not wanting to get up and/or sluggish at school then that says that 8 hours was not enough sleep for that particular child and an adjustment is needed i.e. earlier bedtime for more hours of sleep. Play with it as each child is different. My son used to require 10 hours to be awake and alert in the mornings now at 14, he gets 9, lol.

Ann - posted on 09/15/2011

we have bed time for my 16 year old as 10pm and read for an hour so lights out at 11pm. She gets up early and has to be in her first class by 8am. If at any time she starts falling back to sleep and doesn't get up and stay on task we will be taking it back to 9pm bed and read till 10pm. My 13 almost 14 year old doesnt have to be at school till 9am or 8:30 on resource days and his bed tim is bed at 9pm and lights out by 10pm but hes not as hard to get up in the morning and uses his alarm alot of times. He also has plenty of time to wach a little tv cause he is so fast at getting what he needs to get don before he goes to school.

Pauline - posted on 09/15/2011

i have a 14yr and 15yr teenage boys and they are up until 10.30pm half the time they go before that. weekends i have no bedtime but they still go about same time. We sometimes have a rush in the mornings but then they usually go to bed earlier that night, so they know their own boundaries now.

Rachel - posted on 09/13/2011

my bed time for my 10 year old is 9:00pm on weekdays and weekends unless the family is up on saterdays past 9 for family movie nights.

my 2 year old goes down at 8

Louise - posted on 09/11/2011

that seems a bit early for teens. Of course it depends on what time they have to get up for school. My daughter is 16yr, and we stopped setting a bedtime, but generally she starts to get ready for bed around 9pm on weekdays during the school year, but on weekends she usually stays up as late as 11-12pm, unless we have plans to go somewhere that requires her to get up early.

Sarah - posted on 09/10/2011

well 16 i woulf say 11:00 and 14 about 10:00 - 10:30 12 no later than 10:00 12 i would say 9:00 - 9:30

Rachel - posted on 07/30/2011

I think every person, regardless of age, is different when it comes to the amount of sleep they actually need to function well each day. If you are concerned that she isn't getting enough sleep, you might let her know that the later bedtime is always a privilege that has to be earned based on her performance in school and other activities. If she is able to keep her grades up, stay out of trouble (and stay awake) in school, church, or wherever, interact appropriately with family members, and it doesn't interfere with the rest of the family's schedule, then what is the harm in her staying up a little later at night and getting a little less sleep? If anything you feel is important begins to suffer as a result of her needing more sleep than she is getting, then take away the privilege of a later bedtime. I think it's important to begin giving teens a little bit of freedom and responsibility in making decisions for themselves so they can learn what works and what doesn't on their own. Bedtime is an easy way to give them freedom with something that isn't really that big of a deal. I've given my kids this freedom for years and my oldest, who is 16 now, often goes to bed as early as 10pm, even in the summer, which is earlier than I would tell him to go to bed if I were to give him a bedtime. He knows when he's tired and goes to bed then. And, he also chooses to go to bed early when he knows he has to get up early. I don't tell him anything about when he should go to bed. I really think that giving him the freedom to make this choice has made him more responsible. Anyway, you have to do what fits best for your family and what you feel comfortable with. Afterall, you are the parent and you make the rules! If you really don't like it, you don't have to allow it. Good luck!

Janet - posted on 07/30/2011

The problem I have with my thirteen year old daughter is no matter how early I make her go to bed, she will read until eleven when she feels it is too late. She gets 3 hours of homework regularly and gets home at 5, so I feel that if I don't give her this time to do what she wants I am being mean, but doesn't she need more sleep if she is waking up at 6.25? That means she can get as little as 7 hours a night if it takes a while for her to fall asleep!

Keturah - posted on 07/09/2011

10 PM on school days. Weekends and holidays when they get tried.

User - posted on 07/09/2011

I do think that's abit early,My bed time at 11 was 9:30,And my 10 yo gets sent to bed at 9.I find if she goes to bed too early she oversleeps,So i guess it's up to the sleeping needs of you children.

Sherri - posted on 06/08/2011

I think more importantly is working the bedtimes out with the children and helping them understand the importance of getting a certain amount of hours. My kids at preteen age wanted to feel that they had some say in the bedtime. For the most part we were able to work it out with little conflict because they we did it together. Even my son who is now 14 and has ADD which has its own challenges regarding sleep has worked an arrangement that involved give and take our his part and ours to come to a workable solution. My children are 14, 19, 21, and 22.

Jamie - posted on 05/17/2011

Cool so I wasn't the meanest mom in the whole world good to know there are other meanies out there too For gr.9 first semester they went to bed at 9, 2nd semester as long as the grades were good 9:30, gr10@ 9:30 2nd semester@ 10, grade 11@ 10, 2nd semester 10:30 etc. by the time they got to grade 12 they were going back to bed on their own sometimes at 9 pm b/c they had sports training at 6 am or what have you, I almost went into shock the first time I realized that I no longer orchestrated my kids day.A mother's job is to teach her children to not need her anymore. The hardest part of that job is accepting success.

Ariesgirl - posted on 05/12/2011

While a high schooler, my bedtime was 830pm. I had to be at school by 8am daily, so that time kept me from being tired during the day. It really depends on what time school start for your children and what extra curricular activities they are involved in. Good luck!

Krystel - posted on 03/08/2011

my daughter is 15 and goes to bed around 10:00 or 10:30 through weekdays & on weekends she doesnt have a set time for bed!

Debbie - posted on 03/08/2011

My children went to bed at 8 until they reached 5th grade, then after that they had to be in their rooms by nine with no set bed time, but I can say that they were usually sound asleep by 10 - 10:30 and have not set a bed time since. This has worked well for me, not to say it is the right thing to do but I have not had to tell my kids to go to bed since. I have a 16 and 19 year old...... Good luck

Trina - posted on 03/05/2011

I have a 16 and a 14 year old. they go to bed @ 10 on the weeknights, and by 1 am or so on the weekends.

Leonie - posted on 03/01/2011

I have 4 kids aged 9, 12, 13, and 15.
The 9yr old is supposed to go to bed at 8:30 but is never there until 9pm. The 12 and 13yr old suposed to go to bed at 9 but usually they watch TV in there bedroom till 9:30. The oldest is supposed to go to bed at 9:30 but sometimes watches tv in her room until 10:30.
The 9 yr old often sneaks into the oldest ones room (double bed) and falls asleep watching tv. I usually check them about 10 to 10:30 and make sure no tvs are on. If they miss the bus in the morning they have to go to bed eariler the next night. Although sometimes I forget and they get away with it.
On weekends they usually go to bed between 10 and 11:30.

Jennifer - posted on 03/01/2011

My son goes to bed at 9:30 on school days, unless he refuses to listen. Which is up to him , if he chooses not to listen its early bedtime and a consequence. He will be 16 in July.

Chrissy - posted on 02/23/2011

When my son started school, his bedtime was about 7:30 on weeknights and about an hour later for weekends, and generally i'd bump it up half an hour every couple of years for weeknights and keep the extra hour for weekends.
So 6-7yrs was 7:30 (wknds 8:30), 7-9yrs was 8:00 (wknds 9:00), 9-10yrs was 8:30 (wknds 9:30), 11-12yrs was 9:00 (wknds 10:00). Now he is a 13 year old and its 9:30 on weeknights, as I decided to bump it up every half an hour each year since his becoming a teenager. On weekends his bedtime is midnight, because he can sleep in however long he needs.
So for weeknights when his 14 it'll be 10, when 15 it'll be 10:30, when 16 it'll be 11, and weekends will stay at midnight. After 16, he can make his own bedtime.
Before he became a teenager, his bedtime never bothered or affected him, unless it was daylight savings and still light outside when he was going to bed, then he'd be a little put out!!!

Jennifer - posted on 12/14/2010

my teens go to bed at 10:00 and my 2 yr old goes to bed at 8:00. the pediastrician says that too much sleep is not healthy for teens 9 hrs for them and 10 for the little ones is more then enough. hope this helps you

Jennifer - posted on 12/14/2010

My son gets up around 7-7:30am on school days and is starting to do school activities now. He is 15. I have him go to bed around 9:30 -10pm, with him knowing that if he chooses to act up because he is tired the next day, bed time will be earlier. I dont have to do this very often or too many days in a row and he has learned to keep his arguing in check over time. It doesnt repeat itself twice in a row usually. I know when he is tired when he chooses to be disrespectful.

Holly - posted on 11/30/2010

My 13 and 14 year old have to go to bed by 10 or 10:30. I don't get home from work until after 6 so by the time dinner is done, chores are done and homework is done, it is always late! Weekends, I don't really care what time. We usually watch movies on Friday or Saturday and can stay up until 12am or 1am sometimes.

Mrs Susan - posted on 11/30/2010

My daughter now goes at 10pm , she is at H S and I suppose as long as her school work is not affected it doesn't matter. What about after school my daughter now wants go straight from school to her friends. Should I allow that freedom or should. I make her come home first. Any suggestions whatever I do seems to be wrong these days although she has two guineapigs at home which she bought and it annoys me she doesn't care about them. Any suggestions. Before you tell me to get rid of her pets I tried and haven't had any luck because they are 4 years old and both male.

Tammy - posted on 11/30/2010

My youngest daughter is soon to be 17. Since she began H.S. I started letting her stay up till 10:00 and she gets up at 6:00. Now that she is a Junior i let her stay up till 11:00 as long as she is not getting cranky from loosing any sleep. Now that she is older i think she can handle it but some times she try's to stay up later and i have to remind her she needs her rest. On the weekends she can stay up as long as she wants. She will go to bed and fall asleep when she gets sleepy on her own.

Mrs Susan - posted on 11/29/2010

I have two children, one 14 and 12. My eldest goes to bed at 9.45 pm and my son at 9.30 pm but I myself think this is to late but they tell me everyone at school goes later.
Sue

Dee - posted on 11/27/2010

While still in high school: School nights: 9-10pm for 15-18 years old. Weekends max 11:00pm. Over the summer we do 10pm weekdays and 11:00pm weekends. We want our kids in bed and settled in before we go to bed. My 16 year old sometimes sneaks back downstairs and plays on the computer! Whatever works best for your family is the only best answer.

Paula - posted on 11/23/2010

all my children go to bed at the same time 9:00pm on weeknight and 11:00 on weekends ( friday and saturday) My 2 oldest are 15 and 14 they complain all the time but too bad, its better to have them whining at night then whining in the morning because their too tired.

Amanda - posted on 11/21/2010

It all depends on when the need to get up in the morning and how well they do it as my guys get older they ask for later bedtimes they are 830 for the 8 10 and 11 year old 845 for the 13 and in your room by 930 for the 14 year old. ( I need the quiet sometimes) if they start having trouble getting up in the morning then adjust back I only move in 15 min blocks of time later or earlier but let them know that if they have trouble it will have to go back it has worked well so far good luck

Jennifer - posted on 11/21/2010

are 14 go 2 bed @ 10:30 ,11 , an da other go 2 bed @ 9 tv out @10 an they r ages 12 , 12, 10, an 6